The key is whether you really want it, and at the same time, dare to want it.
In the process of awakening, the first thing to face is deep sleep, which is the opposite of awakening. You must find the sleeping part of your heart. As I said, personal growth changes from unconsciousness to post-consciousness, to consciousness, and then to foresight.
It is very important to wake up, you should see that some parts are asleep, and some parts are mechanical and habitual. Once the external stimulus appears, you will immediately respond in the same way and in a solidified mode.
After waking up the sleeping part of yourself, you can cure it well and see if it stems from some sense of loss and unloved in childhood.
To be the master of your own destiny, the first thing to do is not to know who you are, but to know who you are not.
The real you are the background behind those characters. The real you are actually like the blue sky, which is the background of everything.
People's real happiness does not come from the outside world, but mainly from our own beliefs and concepts.
Awakening is related to the comfort zone. Only when people walk out of their comfort zone can they have so-called cultivation and growth.
How we look at the world and how the world looks at us.
In any case, you can't wake the man who pretended to sleep.
When troubles become the inertia of life, who is manipulating you? 1, unconsciously attract people who don't respect you into your life. 2. Interpret the plot according to your own mode. Interpret other people's behavior in the way you want, direct and perform a big play, and immerse yourself in the self-made plot. 3. If you always feel that others don't respect you, with this energy, the other party will unconsciously treat you in a disrespectful way.
The secret of happiness is really not to blame others and put the blame on others, but to be responsible for yourself.
People, things and things attracted by our inner patterns, ideas, concepts and beliefs constitute our world, our life, our so-called destiny and a final result of our life.
You are free only when your inner happiness and happiness are not attached to anyone or anything. Otherwise, whether you are in prison or walking on the street, you are still your own prisoner. -Saguru, India
The purpose of personal growth is to let us find happiness and happiness within ourselves, rather than relying on external people, things and things to get it again and again.
For what you really want, if you think about it all the time in your life, and everything you do, say, do and think is related to it, then this thing will definitely come to your life soon.
The key to cure is to face your own patterns and accept your emotions.
What if you put your life in your own hands? It's so tragic that no one can blame it anymore. This is a problem that we must admit and face in our personal growth.
Blaming others makes us feel more comfortable, but I think taking responsibility back and shouldering it on ourselves is the best way to grow up. Blame others blindly and always point the arrow of responsibility outward, and you will always fall into a vicious circle. You really can't see that you are actually very strong inside, and there are ways to change yourself and then transform the external environment. Only when you grow up, your inner strength is enhanced, and you are willing to face your responsibilities, can you live the life you should live completely.
You can only do cruel things in intimate relationships, but you can't say cruel words.
On the road of personal growth, we should be aware of our own pain. I think the so-called "cognition of your own pain" means that you can know that this pain comes from yourself, not from others. -Saguru, India
Some people died at the age of 35 and were buried at the age of 85.
Treat life rationally and treat life emotionally.
You see, you are playing the role of victim again. Mind your own business and change what you can. Expecting others to change is actually a time-consuming and futile thing.
Learning is with our negative emotions. We don't escape, don't shift, don't deny, and honestly stay in the present, because there is a great gift hidden in that negative emotion, that is our true self. As long as you bravely cross, you can feel the peace and joy of "true self".
No one in the world should be responsible for another person's happiness.
This child is an independent soul, and my responsibility is only to bring him into this world and bring him up. As for his future, it has nothing to do with me. I give him my best wishes, hoping that he can complete his life journey happily, healthily and smoothly, and exert his potential, the best version of live high. I am willing to bear my inner lack and inferiority, and will not put it on my children.
Don't focus on the child, don't try to correct him, but focus on yourself and look back at what you have done to make this child like this. What on earth did you do to make the children do this? A child is an energy sponge, and what he really absorbs is the subconscious energy of his parents. There is nothing wrong with children, but ourselves. Review yourself first, practice slowly, and don't treat the symptoms rather than the root cause. If we only focus on the superficial problems, it will be difficult to solve them.
How can I make myself a confident and introverted person? Know yourself, accept yourself and be yourself. Don't be afraid of others violating your boundaries. When others violate your boundaries, gently push them back.
Why is intimacy so difficult to maintain? Because the world is the projection of our hearts, and the other is our magnifying glass. The closer you get to that person, the more you will show a dark side to him, which is something that you completely deny or can't see in your heart. Other people who are not close enough will not know this about you, but you will unconsciously project it on your partner and let him bear it.
Love is really a game that needs to be played by lowering IQ, and adults may not necessarily play it.
How to cultivate the ability to accept your negative emotions? In addition to finding some small happiness in life, building your own happiness and making yourself happy is also emotional nourishment.
Faith is the beginning of everything.
The universe only creates what you believe, and consciousness will manifest your decision.
You are the answer to everything. The cultivation of personal growth is to cultivate oneself, not others. Relationship is a very important practice Dojo, but it is not to cultivate this relationship, but to cultivate the troubles, pains and hatred that this relationship brings us.
The only condition for growth is change. After awakening, people's consciousness level will improve, and they will see some patterns and limitations of their internal operation, so as to intervene in some of their inertial behaviors and not be led by the old patterns. Only in this way can we change our destiny and create what we want.
If you are happy, the children will be happy. Solving family problems rationally and setting a good example for children are the best gifts parents can give their children.
Pygmalion effect means that in intimate relationships, the other person is always influenced by your words and deeds, so his appearance and the way he treats you are carved up by you bit by bit.
Don't take the appearance of the problem seriously, go back to your heart and change some ideas and our behavior patterns. This is the solution to the problem.
If you have confidence in yourself, know how to live your life well, and your heart is peaceful and full every day, then no matter what the outside world is like, you can be with yourself.
Real growth is painful, not only you need to get out of your comfort zone and break your inertia, but also you need to make real changes, so that all problems can be solved.
The so-called lack of confidence is actually fear of making mistakes, being laughed at, being rejected, and not liking the feeling of embarrassment and humiliation.
In short, what you like is what you pursue. Connect with your heart and see what you like and don't like, instead of deciding what you want with secular eyes and evaluations.
Only by making changes in daily speech, thinking and behavior patterns can we have real gains and growth.