Love is the Ideal Debate: A Summary of Four Debates

Love is doing her (him) good wholeheartedly. Seven principles of love and happiness:

First, respect principles. Both parties in love should respect each other's personal dignity and will, and cannot impose their will on each other.

Second, the principle of trust. Both parties in love should trust each other and don't be suspicious for no reason.

Third, the principle of loyalty. Both parties in love should be loyal to each other, responsible for their lover, responsible for their children, and responsible for their families. They must not like the new and hate the old and undermine family harmony.

Fourth, the principle of inclusiveness. Both parties in love should accept each other and tolerate each other's shortcomings and deficiencies. Can't stand each other's shortcomings and shortcomings.

Five, the principle of mutual love. Choose to love (dislike) you and love what you choose.

Sixth, the communication principle. Both parties in love should exchange their thoughts and feelings in time and don't alienate each other.

Seven, the principle of consultation. Whatever happens between lovers should be solved through consultation, and they can't be arbitrary.

Six reasons for the unhappy marriage:

First, wishful thinking. Pursue what you love blindly, while ignoring the other person's attitude towards yourself (not loving you).

Second, I feel misjudged. Wrong sex attraction as love, wrong love as love, wrong family as love.

Third, brutal control. Treat your lover as your own private property and strictly control it to achieve the purpose of possessing the other person.

Fourth, chatter endlessly. Regardless of the opportunity, regardless of the occasion, regardless of the feelings of the other party, seize one of the shortcomings and deficiencies of the other party, pour it out and criticize the other party blindly.

5. Unreasonable suspicion. Don't trust each other, suspicious, suspicious.

Sixth, love the new and hate the old. Self-centered lust, taking liking as the standard, using emotional disharmony as an excuse to indulge yourself and change your mind.

The concept of family harmony:

Overall concept. Husband and wife are a whole, parents and children are a whole, parents, children and the elderly are a whole, and a family is a whole. Loss is loss, and glory is glory. Think about problems and deal with things with a holistic concept. Everything is for the existence of the whole family and the harmony of the whole family.

what is love ?

Love is the eternal theme of human society and even the whole life world.

Love is sacred, love is lofty and love is beautiful.

Giving love is great, and being loved is happy.

However, in real life, tragedies caused by love are often heard. Why is this? I observe, I think, and I find that love is a lofty realm, and love is a beautiful virtue.

First, the love of ordinary people.

What people usually call love between men and women is actually a feeling, a mixture of sex and affection. Half is sex, half is love; Half is sexual desire, half is love; Half devil, half angel. He takes sexual needs (desires) and sexual pleasure as the core, mixed with psychological activities such as like, care, love, attachment, yearning and yearning. It also urges people in love to have a kind of psychological characteristics of love but not love, such as responsibility, obligation, understanding, tolerance, care, respect and dedication (if these psychological characteristics can be used to treat all beings in the world equally and unconditionally, they will be sublimated into true love). At the same time, it is accompanied by a series of irrational things such as desire, control, playing, picky, dissatisfaction, resentment and doubt under the premise of self-satisfaction. Friends in love, don't be blinded by a lover's "I like you", and don't be carried away by a lover's "I love you". When "I love you" comes from a man? Most of them mean lust and possession. When "I love you" comes out of a woman's mouth, most of them mean like and possession. When a person says "I love you" to you, you should think calmly and carefully. What does he love about you? How much does he love you? Is he qualified? Is he virtuous? You can't just look at how he treats you, but how he treats others, especially the weak. Is he good to you? It's because he wants something from you, but it doesn't mean he's a good man. You should find a kind and good man, not someone who is interested in you. So, what is true love?

Second, talk to young friends:

Love, love and marriage, family

Sexual value orientation is a universal phenomenon in the universe.

In the universe, in the life world, between two living individuals, the same sex repels and the opposite sex attracts, which is a universal law.

Between the opposite sex, mutual attraction, for an emotional creature, is like. Like is "to my liking" and "to my liking"; It is the existence of the other party that can meet my psychological and physical needs for the opposite sex, accompanied by an idea of taking it for myself.

Like to be cheerful.

Liking is an emotional and unstable psychological state.

There are conditions for liking, and "liking my heart" and "satisfying my heart" are the prerequisites for liking. Therefore, liking is a standard selfish behavior. Same-sex people can admire, appreciate, identify and love, but they won't like it.

Like can be sublimated into love, but like is not love.

Love is a lofty and stable spiritual realm, love is a selfless psychological state, love is an unconditional voluntary contribution, love is to be good to you and make you better. Love mentality, quiet and peaceful, no regrets.

Love and wisdom are mutually causal.

Love is the crystallization of wisdom. Without real wisdom, there can be no real love thoughts and actions.

Love is the source of wisdom. Without true love, there can be no real wisdom.

Love takes reason as the steering wheel and will as the driving force, spreading the showers of compassion all over the world of life and nourishing the soul of every life.

Like is not a condition of love, love is unconditional.

Love takes respect as the premise and treats every living thing equally.

Love is understanding and tolerance, and love is voluntary;

Love is encouragement and support, love is comfort and persuasion;

Love is responsibility and obligation, love is giving and expecting;

Love is caring and caring, and love is the goal and means;

Love is commitment and persistence, and love is strength and source.

Heart full of love, not persistent love, not persistent love, not loving;

Love without love, love without love, is the so-called "sneak into the night with the wind, moisten things silently."

Marriage is based on sex and likes, but a family composed only of sex and likes is unstable. Need love to support a family. Only a loving family is a stable, lasting and happy family.

A family can live without sex and dislike sex, but it can't live without love. Love is the mediator between family members, and love has unlimited affinity.

Love is the driving force of life, the sunshine of life and the source of happiness.

I found that in the real society, the root of love and family tragedy lies in mistaking sex-based love for the love of organizing a family, but in fact, family members lack real love consciousness.

Young friends, you are in love, you are getting married, and you have to start a family. I want to ask you, are you ready? Do you know clearly what is like and what is love? Are you ready to start a family? I want to tell you, don't worry, it's not too late to get married when you are ready for enough love. What did you say?/Sorry? !

Third, love proverbs

You like him (her),

Love him (her),

It is necessary to accept his (her)-his (her) strengths and weaknesses,

We should forgive him (her),

Understand him (her),

Trust him or her,

Respect him (her),

Take good care of her (her),

Care about him (her),

Waiting for him or her,

And willing to change for him (her),