1. Don’t interfere in your children’s affairs, let your children take charge of the family, and don’t pretend to be senior.
2. Zhijie couples are grateful to each other and never blame others. The couple in the mind realm are happy. The husband leads his wife to enlightenment, and the wife helps her husband to become virtuous. They will never be angry. A couple in the mental realm is a ceremonial couple, so they will rule over each other! A couple in the physical realm is a couple who beats and scolds, causing trouble throughout their lives.
3. A daughter-in-law should respect her parents-in-law as her own parents. The ancients said: Everyone in life has double parents. So both parents should be treated equally.
4. The husband should take care of his father-in-law and mother-in-law more, and the wife should be more filial to her parents-in-law; for example, when buying things for the elderly, the son-in-law should give it to his father-in-law and mother-in-law in person, and the daughter-in-law should give it to her parents-in-law in person.
5. If you can’t do it, don’t say it. There is no dignity if your words don’t count.
6. The husband has the courage to take on the responsibilities of the family and convince others with reason. If the family makes mistakes, he will feel guilty.
7. If your children are disobedient and unfilial, you must first ask yourself whether you are also unfilial to the elderly and whether you have done something wrong. The superiors do not recognize the merits of the parents (the elderly), and the inferiors (the children) do not educate them well.
8. The entire family is built on love. A family cannot be established without love. Love is the first condition for starting a family.
9. To rectify others before rectifying yourself, parents must first transform their nature into nature and cultivate their nature. Know how to discipline yourself first before you can educate your children. Regardless of whether your children are filial or not, ask yourself whether you are kind or not.
10. Whether a family is happy, quiet, and prosperous, the role of the wife is very important. If a woman can be a wife who is as good as water, she will definitely give birth to a son, help her husband become a virtuous person, and have a happy family.
11. Only with the Tao can one have virtue; without Tao, there can be no virtue; only with virtue can there be happiness; without virtue, there can be no happiness.
12. The lucky star of a family is rooted in ambition. That is, taking the happiness of the whole family as one's own responsibility and benefiting the whole family.
13. If you are destined to love someone, you must first understand the other person’s nature. Fulfill each other and complete your duties. Enlighten the other party to play their part. Regardless of restricting the other party's freedom, you should give the other party happiness and not cause trouble to the other party. Complement each other and understand each other's physiology and psychology.
14. Promote the merits of the elderly and ancestors to their children, set an example of filial piety by respecting the elderly, and enlighten future generations by being grateful for the kindness of their ancestors.
15. If you are selfish, you will secretly do things that go against your conscience and make the whole family troubled. This is not a good man.
16. Children belong to themselves, society, and heaven and earth. If children are not taught well, it will affect their own family if they are small, and it will affect society if they are large, and they will also be a debt of gratitude from heaven and earth. Educating children well is a heavy responsibility.
17. Whether a family is prosperous and whether its descendants are prosperous is directly related to whether the elders in the hall have good roots and merit. If the old man is virtuous, his descendants will be prosperous; if the old man is virtuous, the family will be in disaster, the family will not be prosperous, and the incense will fade.
18. Whether a child is healthy has a lot to do with the mother, and whether the child is wise has a lot to do with the father. Whether the child has good merit and solemnity depends on whether the parents often act with joy and love.
19. Always mention your daughter-in-law’s strengths when speaking, and be grateful to her mother-in-law for her education. If the daughter-in-law makes a mistake, the mother-in-law will quickly come over and be tolerant first, and then teach her behind her back. She must not quarrel with her, and the daughter-in-law will naturally be grateful and repay her kindness.
20. As the saying goes, everything thrives when the family is in harmony. The prosperity of the country, the harmony of the society, the happiness of personal life, the prosperity of the career, and the health of the body all depend on the foundation of a harmonious family.
21. A daughter-in-law’s nature should be like water. Her nature is like water, she should be content and always happy. She means to be the root, to support the whole family, and to be harmonious and cheerful. As the happy star of the family, she is filial to her parents, harmonious to her sisters-in-law, and kind to her children, who can help her husband become a virtuous person. So that the husband has no internal worries, can contribute to the society, establish himself in the right way, and become famous and show his family. Not only in running a family, but also in social work, one can abide by one's duties and make contributions. Only then can you have a long-lasting family fortune and long-term happiness.
22. As a wife, you must first adhere to the "three obediences" in order to help your husband become virtuous. "Three Obediences" means that one's nature should follow the laws of heaven, one's heart should follow the principles, and one's body should follow the principles of emotions. What does it mean to “follow one’s own actions and reason”? Do what you should do yourself. It is your duty to be filial to your parents-in-law, to be at peace with your sisters-in-law, and to teach your children at the bottom. Don't be afraid of hardship, don't be afraid of difficulties. Don’t get angry, complain, or regret after doing it. "The heart follows the truth": It means getting rid of the selfishness that interferes with greed and interference.
All I think about is how to repay the old man's kindness? How to make peace with my sisters-in-law, and how to teach my children? With the good of the whole family in mind, everything I do will naturally be in line with the law. "Nature follows the laws of nature": Focusing on the immovable nature, we must also eliminate the innate nature and perfect the nature, so that we can be virtuous and carry everything.
23. Xing (nature) is in harmony, the heart is in harmony, and the body is in harmony. This is the true harmony between husband and wife.
24. A weak man is also called a coward because he cannot support his family. Being submissive, saying things but not doing them, not daring to take responsibility, pushing women to the front, and only listening to women's orders.
25. The meaning of daughter-in-law is to calm the discord in the family, to be the auspicious messenger of a harmonious family, to be equal and harmonious to everyone, and to bring blessings to the whole family.
26. Respect the elderly when you are above, and love the young when you are below. Use gratitude to improve everything and make the family harmonious.
27. As a husband, you must base your position on the "three cardinal principles". The three cardinal principles refer to the sex cardinal guide, the heart cardinal guide, and the body cardinal cardinal guide; being immobile (not losing your temper) is the sex guideline; and not having selfish desires. The heart is the guideline; the absence of bad habits is the body guideline. Being angry is a violation of one's nature; swearing is a violation of one's heart; hitting someone is a violation of one's body. "Gang" means to lead, and a woman must be led on the road to be filial to her parents-in-law, to be harmonious to her sisters-in-law, and to be kind to her children.
28. True love has no preconceptions: sincerely believe in someone and don’t doubt the other person.
29. A woman has three wives: a strong woman, a weak woman, and a daughter-in-law.
30. I should love the things my mother-in-law loves; I should respect the people I love. You will definitely make your mother-in-law happy. If you can understand the old man's heart and obey the old man's wishes, you have attained the Tao.
31. If a man does his job well, there will be fewer disasters in the family; if a man does not do his job well, there will be many disasters in the family.
32. A mother-in-law has been a daughter-in-law for many years. When she marries a daughter-in-law, she becomes a mother-in-law. The daughter-in-law is a girl at home, and as soon as she leaves the palace and goes to her mother-in-law's house, she becomes a daughter-in-law.
33. If they are not in harmony, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will not get along, causing disagreements in housework and living separately, the family will be broken up and the family will not be prosperous.
34. A woman who does nothing and relies entirely on her husband and parents is called a weak woman.
35. Like water, it follows the circle and becomes the square. It combines the five colors and five flavors, and its original essence remains unchanged. It is a woman's duty to be at peace with the situation, to be poor or to be rich, to be high or low, just like water that can nourish all things, but not to compete with all things. When you are in the lowest place, if you are low, you will be low, and you will always admit that you are not good enough.
36. Women are the mother of the country, the wife of the family, and the wife of people.
37. The mother-in-law comes early and understands everything; the daughter-in-law comes late and doesn’t understand everything. The mother-in-law should lead her daughter-in-law to the road, treat her as a daughter, tell her what she doesn't know, guide her, and don't make things difficult for her.
38. A woman should be gentle, have a peaceful smile, and be popular with the family.
39. Men belong to Yang, and Yang means selflessness. To be selfless is to express love for a family.
40. Men have their duties as men, and women have their duties as women. Yin and Yang each have their place. Men are based on uprightness; women are based on gentleness. "Gang" means immobility (not losing your temper), and "zheng" means being in line with the right principles. "Softness" should be like water, and "harmony" should be reasonable. Therefore, uprightness means gentleness, and softness means uprightness. Although the terms are different, the spirit is the same.
41. If a woman is busy, a man will be silent; if a woman is not gentle, the family will not be prosperous.
42. A man must keep his word, one means one, two means two, and he must do what he says.
43. A woman who is lazy and blaming is the spoiler of the family. Neither a strong woman nor a weak woman is a daughter-in-law.
44. Men are divided into three kinds of husbands: weak husband, violent husband and husband.
45. A woman is fierce, takes control of men, bullies men mentally, speaks like thunder, is very tough, covers the sky with one hand, and is called a shrew. In such a family, if the yin is strong and the yang is weak, the husband will become prematurely old or even die young, and the children born will be useless.
46. A man is the backbone of the family. He must be sensible, ambitious, and take care of his wife regardless of his wife.
47. If you can do these, your family and everything will be prosperous.
48. Men should be “rigid”. It’s not just that you beat and curse people, the man who beats and curses you is an incompetent man.
49. The old man is the virtuous star of the family, with virtue as his root.
"Virtue" means taking responsibility for one's faults and maintaining peace among one's family.
50. The old man supports the family’s blessings and creates the family’s merit. Merit is getting stronger from generation to generation, and blessings are getting more prosperous and prosperous from generation to generation. If your descendants are stronger than you, it means you are virtuous, otherwise you are devoid of virtue.
51. It is the best Feng Shui and the highest Feng Shui for the elderly to be virtuous.
52. The old man is as gray as ashes, gentle and non-irritated. He talks less, does not nag, and does not talk about family members. They must take the lead and see each other's interests, and they must take care of the whole family.
53. Equality between men and women means equal rights and equal enjoyment. There is absolutely no equality in duties and etiquette.
54. If the elderly love people and things, the descendants of the family will prosper. If the old man is greedy, he will eat up all the blessings of the family.
55. Every family should imagine that their daughter is marrying into the family, and the mother-in-law should love her daughter-in-law as much as she loves her own daughter. If this is not possible, the daughter-in-law will treat her future daughters-in-law in the same way, creating a vicious cycle.
56. The old man is like the earth, silently carrying everything, tolerating everything, and cultivating everything. If an old man has a broad mind, his family will be blessed with great blessings.
57. The elderly should promote family tradition, parents should model family tradition, husband and wife should control family tradition, children should inherit family tradition, grandchildren should obey family tradition, and brothers and sisters should compete with family tradition.
58. How can an old man make his family prosperous? That is to do more good deeds and accumulate negative virtues. On the one hand, you can cultivate virtue and avoid sins; on the other hand, you can cultivate virtue for your descendants and take root in them.
59. No matter who is at fault in the family, no matter what disasters and disputes occur, the family scandal will not be publicized.
60. When there are problems at home, the elderly should feel ashamed: I am the elderly who did not do well, had some bad qualities, and failed to educate my family well.