The Chinese nation has a reputation as a country of etiquette since ancient times. The 5,-year history of the Chinese nation has taught us what is called courtesy and honesty, and the way of Confucius and Mencius, all of which remind us not to cross the bottom line at all times. Culture is the deepest foundation of a nation, and it is the foundation of a nation. Only by passing on these excellent traditional cultures from generation to generation can the Chinese nation live forever.
Proverbs are some philosophical words handed down from China folks. Proverbs are usually the truth that people gradually sum up in their lives. Although they are not as gorgeous as poems and songs, the truth contained in them is something that each of us should understand. There is a saying in China that "a friend's wife should not be bullied". I believe everyone has heard this saying and knows its meaning. However, the next sentence of "a friend's wife should not be bullied" is rarely known, but it is also a warning to people just like "a friend's wife should not be bullied".
The truth contained in "A friend's wife can't be bullied"
The so-called "A friend's wife can't be bullied" means that you can't have anything to do with your good friend's wife. A friend's wife is your other friend, and you can't have wild thoughts about friends. In ancient China, etiquette was highly valued, and the abnormal relationship between men and women would be laughed at by everyone. Especially women, unmarried women can't have close contact with any men.
For a married woman, if she has an abnormal relationship with a man other than her husband, it will be considered immoral. Even if men make mistakes first, women are the first to be blamed, because the old society was more harsh on women. In order to prevent this from happening, the folks have a saying that "a friend's wife can't be bullied".
Even in a classic like The Journey to the West, we can see such a picture. During the time when the Monkey King asked Princess Iron Fan to borrow a banana fan, the Monkey King ran into a wall at Princess Iron Fan, and he failed to borrow a banana fan as he wished. Then he asked Niu Mowang to intercede. At this time, Niu Mowang said to the Monkey King, "A friend's wife should not be bullied.". Niu Mowang knew that the Monkey King must have bullied his wife when he borrowed a banana fan, so he didn't borrow a banana fan. This story explains the truth that a friend's wife can't be bullied.
In fact, there have been many stories of "bullying a friend's wife" in history. Take Cao Cao, a heroic man in troubled times. Cao Cao can be said to be a hero in military affairs, but his various means are not convincing. In addition, he has his own unique views on poetry and ode, such as "Jieshi in the east to see the sea." The well-known poem "Where the water is like a lotus, the mountain island is like a mountain" is also from the mouth of Cao Cao. Cao Cao, who is so talented, has a great hobby, that is, Cao Cao especially likes married women.
Cao Cao once killed Dian Wei in order to take the widowed wife Zou, uncle Zhang Ji, as his own, and killed Dian Wei, but he also let his son and nephew die in battle. Such Cao Cao ignores the constraints of feudal ethics and can only say that he harms himself and others. Not only killed Dian Wei and his family, but also many women who died because of Cao Cao in history. There are not a few people like Cao Cao. Although they are friends, they sometimes make friends carelessly. Therefore, there are certain reasons why the ancients handed down "a friend's wife can't be bullied", which also stopped this from happening to some extent.
"A friend's husband can't help"
"A friend's wife can't be bullied" is a well-known sentence. In fact, there is an equally classic sentence behind this sentence, but few people know it, that is, "A friend's husband can't help". This sentence is a neat antithesis to the previous one. The former one is for male friends, while the latter one is for women.
"A friend's husband can't help him" means that a woman can't miss her friend's husband, and a friend's husband is also her friend. Especially today, from time to time, we will see female friends turn against each other because of their lovers, which is a very bad atmosphere. The harm this brings to a family cannot be underestimated, and it may even be the destruction of the family.
In fact, female friends encounter this kind of situation more often in life. It seems that every woman will have a scheming friend around her. She can't see that you are better or happier than her. Such a friend will pretend to be very kind, so that others have no defense against her, and then take the opportunity to do evil. She doesn't think her friend's husband is excellent, and she always wants to pry someone else's corner, but it turns out that such a woman really has this ability.
Many men will abandon their families and children because of this, and will do whatever it takes to reunite with such a scheming woman. This hurts not only one woman, but also the discord of three families. Such a thing goes against the fine traditional culture of the Chinese nation. Nowadays, many people have forgotten the noble sentiments left by traditional culture. Such people only think about their own interests and ignore the feelings of others, which is a blasphemy against traditional culture.
indelible traditional culture
today in the 21st century, traditional culture should be a very important course, which is worth learning for every child. Children are the future of the motherland, and we should learn these excellent cultures from an early age. What our ancestors left behind cannot be forgotten, nor can the 5,-year history of the Chinese nation be ignored. Since we claim to be a state of etiquette, we should do what a state of etiquette should do, not do what we say.
"A friend's husband can't help him" should be known by more people like "A friend's wife can't be bullied", and everyone should abide by the truth told by this sentence. With the continuous progress of society, people's ideology and morality should be constantly improved, and those backward dross should be discarded, and this excellent and noble culture should be handed down. Only in this way can our descendants inherit more excellent things, and the Chinese nation will become more and more excellent.
in today's society, quality has become something that everyone talks about, but few people really do it. We may often say who has no quality. When we say this, we should also think about ourselves and always remind ourselves to be a moral and quality person, so that people will become more and more excellent.
There is a saying today that "what you can't get is always the best", which implies that many people covet what others have and always think that others' is better than their own. Some people will do something out of line because of this, but we should know that what suits us is the best. Others' is good, but not necessarily good is suitable for yourself. The ancients said that "contentment is always happy". To be grateful for what you have, it is likely that others don't even have these. Only those who know how to cherish are qualified to be happy, while those who covet others can only belittle themselves.