Positive and optimistic attitude

Raise your mouth smile when you are unhappy, even if it is an unnatural smile or a reluctant smile. Smiling is a simple little thing that everyone can do at once, but it can change a person's mental state. Look at the past with a positive eye, look at what is happening and what will happen, and keep yourself in a positive energy state. Replace negative language with positive language. I can always try to replace me. I'm tired of replacing me with my hard work today.

Through continuous positive encouragement, keep yourself happy, further mobilize the enthusiasm of making positive actions, and make things better and better. People who have a good attitude and are too considerate of others can easily wronged themselves. It is better to be thick-skinned and make yourself a plain but tough person.

Let go of the so-called face and be thicker. Shame and guilt, go to hell! Accept others' kindness indifferently and refuse others' demands generously. Too polite and always polite, it is difficult to make the relationship go further; Accepting kindness and proper intimacy can quickly close the distance. If you don't want to promise, don't promise, briefly explain the reasons for refusing, be firm and gentle. Life is too short to please yourself.

Bystander mentality

If you encounter something that makes you emotional and unable to think calmly, you don't know what to do. We might as well change our thinking, get rid of the role of the parties and look at the problem from the perspective of a bystander. It sounds difficult and the method is simple. Think about it: if this happened to your good friend, what kind of advice would you give him? Bystanders see clearly, but the authorities are confused.

When we look at our own affairs, we often unconsciously add a lot of our own personal feelings, thus losing our rational judgment. Only by jumping out of this game and doing your own thing can we analyze right and wrong more objectively. Don't rejoice in things, don't grieve for yourself, don't rejoice in external worries and selfish interests, and don't grieve over inferior external things and selfish interests.

Love things without indulging in them, love without falling in love. Things may be money, RV, position, power and so on. No matter what ups and downs the outside world or yourself have. Always maintain an open-minded and indifferent attitude Mencius said that a scholar is poor and inseparable from righteousness and Tao, which is generally the case. Don't be too sensitive and care too much about the unchangeable reality and other people's evaluation, and treat it with a normal heart. The long road of life, don't give yourself too much pressure, it is most important to be safe and happy.

Endless mental state

Growing up, we have heard too many such words: when you go to college, you will be relaxed. After you work, I feel at ease. When you get married, everything will be fine and it will be easy to get through it. Yes, many people subconsciously think that once they have passed a certain difficulty, everything will be fine and smooth. If a person holds the mentality of the finish line, he will naturally think that he doesn't need to work hard anymore. Look ahead and live well.

You can lie down when you feel comfortable. The fact is that there is no finish line in life, only milestones. Even if you pay a huge price, you will never get to Uto. Life is not once and for all. Life is an overlapping problem. What you can do is to give up the mentality of the finish line and meet these difficulties.

Early mentality

There is a proverb in China: "If you have dates to eat, you can still talk after hitting the pole"; There is a famous American saying, "Go on the road and see what happens". "If you don't do it, you will always find a reason not to act, whether it is at the right time, in the right place or in harmony with others. But life can't be like cooking. You can't wait until all the materials are ready to cook.

Don't wait until everything is ready to start. If you want to do something, please do it at once. If you want to know someone, please know them at once ... When you start to do something, you will encounter specific problems, not thinking about how to move the mountain in front of you, but where your hoe contributes. There is no rehearsal in life, and each of us is crossing the river by feeling the stones. Please try boldly and correct yourself in practice.

The mentality of timely stop loss

Ninety percent of the misfortunes in life are due to unwillingness, which is also the reason why many people don't know how to stop losses in time. If you can't learn to stop loss in time, then your life will continue to face the sunk cost effect-in order to avoid the negative emotions caused by losses, you will sink into past efforts and choose an irrational behavior. Sometimes, if you know how to stop loss in time, you will have a chance to be reborn.

For example, someone's hand is bitten by poison, and the poison is unsolvable, but the toxin spreads slowly. If you cut off your hand immediately, there is still the possibility of survival. I couldn't bear to part with my hand and died. There are many similar situations in life where hands are bitten by poisonous snakes. Being abused by her boyfriend but unwilling to break up, being squeezed by her family but unwilling to leave ... Learning to let go in time is the first lesson for adults.

Selfish and naive.

Remember the words in the high school political textbook? There are no eternal friends, no eternal enemies, only eternal interests. The world is limited, everything is profitable, the world is prosperous, and everything is profitable. The people have small profits, and the state-owned state has big profits. As long as it doesn't touch the law and morality, it is not shameful to put yourself first and pursue the maximization of personal interests. Facing others, * * * is a must; There is no need for promiscuity. We are human beings, not saints. Relax, even if it's selfish.