A recent piece of news is surprising: a 48-year-old mother who has been living at home for seven years has been suing her son because she suffers from uremia and is exhausted both physically and mentally.
When most people see news like this, they will think like me that there must be something wrong with this person. Isn’t it easier to find a job with a high degree? Being able to study abroad and become a top student proves that he has strong learning ability. However, when he returned to China, he chose to stay at home, and he stayed for seven years. Naturally, he spent his old mother's few pensions, and her old mother was still ill.
It really refreshed our three views. The old mother is already over eighty years old, and she is nearly 50 years old when she knows her destiny. We don’t expect her to get married and have children. A normal adult can even think of herself. He couldn't support himself, so he still had to be supported by his frail and sick old mother. It was so shameless and outrageous, and it was so treasonous!
This old overseas returnee blamed his unsatisfactory situation on his mother's doting, and the old mother had no choice but to sue her son for not shouldering the obligation to support him.
In fact, there are too many unfilial phenomena caused by doting, and it is not uncommon. Parents giving too much love to their children becomes doting. Those children who have been pampered and pampered since childhood are accustomed to being centered around themselves and having everything they should do taken care of. Just like a three or four-year-old child, some have learned to eat on their own, and some have learned to eat on their own. Children need to be fed by adults. Usually, children who don’t know how to do it are because their parents don’t let them try. Originally, when children were very young, they wanted to imitate adults’ eating. When parents first started giving them a try, children usually didn’t eat well either. Maybe The food will be scattered all over the floor, or the face will be covered with food, like a "tabby cat", or the clothes will be dirty. They can't stand this behavior of their children, so they say, "You can't! Let's do that!" I'll do it!" Over time, I got used to not letting my children try it. In fact, this is dampening the enthusiasm of children. If children are not allowed to try to do something, they will never be able to do it well or even not be able to do it, because the child has determined in his heart that he cannot do it, and even if he does it, he will not do well, or I was afraid that my elders would be angry, so I didn’t dare to try again. That’s why some children don’t know how to wash clothes when they go to college. In recent years, there have been absurd things like college students in some colleges and universities accumulating dirty clothes and sending them home for their mothers to wash.
To truly love your children is to know how to let go. Know what you can do for your child and what you cannot do for him. The result of doing everything will only make children more and more dependent. There are many examples of children who cannot even take care of themselves when they grow up.
An ancient saying goes: spoiling a spoiled child is like killing a child, and doting on a child will produce a rebellious child. Doting is irrational love and is not conducive to the healthy physical and mental development of children. Children should learn to be independent from an early age. Parents should teach their children some basic skills. At the age of three or four, they should learn to eat and dress. At the age of four or five, they should learn to do some housework within their ability. Parents cannot do everything. You should have basic life skills at any age. If you don’t know how to do it, you should learn it and do it by learning or learn by doing. In this way, children can develop the habit of hard work from an early age and understand the true meaning of life through doing. Then they will not be afraid of hardship or tiredness, and become more and more capable. They will have their own opinions and know what kind of life they want to live and what kind of things they want to have. If you have a dream, you will be brave enough to pursue it and realize your dream through practical actions. When he grows up, he will know how to be grateful, grateful to his parents, and grateful for the road he has traveled, because all the experiences he has had while growing up have made his life richer.