I once saw a baby's mother leave a message on the Internet saying that their baby is 20 months old, and he has been scratching his back at night, or his father can't scratch his back for a while, but it will take a long time. He carefully observed that the baby's back was smooth and his skin was good, and there were no rashes or papules similar to insect bites. At that time, there was air conditioning, and the baby was not covered. It's too thick to be hot. It's a breakdown. I can't understand why I stopped to scratch my baby's back when I was sleeping. Then both husband and wife were tired and couldn't sleep well.
Another poor father said, "At that time, I liked to have my mother scratch my back when I slept. Now I sometimes let my wife scratch my back. After having children, he also likes to scratch his back before going to bed, which takes longer than I asked. My tired hands are sore. Why? Finally, I understand that it is a wise saying that if you are poor, you will think about change. I made my mother suffer in those years, and now my child is back.
Some parents also wondered whether the child had eczema and was bitten by mosquitoes, otherwise why did he always ask for scratching his back? Actually, it's not. There is a reason why babies want to scratch their backs every night to sleep peacefully. Below I will take you to understand the real reason behind this phenomenon.
0 1 Why does the baby tease parents to sleep every night? In fact, except for a few cases, children are really itchy. In most cases, children need the caress and intimate contact of their parents.
Nowadays, some parenting concepts advocate sleeping in separate beds with the baby, which really reduces the proportion of accidents in the baby's sleep to a certain extent, and also ensures that parents can have better sleep quality. However, in the book Sears Intimate Parenting Law, a treasure book of parenting that continues to sell well on major shopping websites and is regarded as a standard by countless domestic and foreign mothers, Dr. Sears, a parenting expert, agrees and supports parents to share a bed with their babies, and advocates touching and stroking their children's bodies more during the care process. Especially love and warm touch can promote children's nerve development and growth.
One of my sister's children used to need his parents to touch his back every day to sleep. At my suggestion, his mother increased the chances of close contact with him during the day. When you are free, touch his little hand, touch his calf, hold him gently and talk to him. After the intimate contact increases during the day, you will gradually find that the number of times your baby needs to scratch his back at night is getting less and less, and the duration is getting shorter and shorter.
This shows that it is a normal emotional need for parents to scratch their backs while their children are sleeping. Because the baby can't understand the meaning of his parents' language, he can feel his parents' mood and love through their loving expressions, warm hands and gentle touch.
Therefore, close contact with the baby is a good way to appease the baby's bad mood. At the same time, research shows that babies who are in close contact with their mothers have better sleep quality, more sense of security and a leading growth and development level than those who are not in frequent contact.
Scratch the baby's back. What are the benefits of closer contact? If parents insist on long-term scientific and standardized touching and contact with newborn babies, it can promote the physical and neurological development of newborn babies. More importantly, newborn babies can feel their parents' deepest care and feelings through these touches.
Now you can find a lot of touch music and massage music by just searching online. When mom and dad touch the baby, on the one hand, the baby can enjoy the pleasure of close contact with his parents, on the other hand, it can stimulate his vision and hearing in pleasant music, which is beneficial to the development and growth of his vision and hearing organs.
In addition to being conducive to the development of children's physiological organs, close contact between parents and children can also reduce the possibility of flatulence and indigestion. When a mother feeds her newborn baby, she will encounter the situation that the baby burps and overflows milk, and some babies will also have flatulence and other problems. In view of this situation, there is a special baby exhaust movement. This kind of child's auxiliary exercise can effectively help the baby's gastrointestinal peristalsis, expel the air swallowed by the baby when nursing, and reduce the possibility of indigestion.
The above two aspects are physiological functions, and intimate contact has the following two benefits to the baby's mental level.
Touching can help your baby relax. According to scientific research, close contact between parents and children can stimulate the baby's brain to produce oxytocin, so that babies and parents can learn to be calm. Relieve the newborn baby's nervousness about this strange world.
Touching is conducive to the improvement of children's sleep quality. Tomuro Endo, a Japanese sleep expert, said that the sense of security can be improved to 365,438+0% through touch feeling. Why has the data improved so much? Because the gentle touch of parents can stimulate the nerves related to the baby's brain and make the baby feel at ease and comfortable. In this case, the child can sleep well, and it is not easy to go into shock after sleep, and the quality of sleep will be greatly improved.
Although we already know that touching the baby can bring so many benefits to the baby, parents should not blindly touch the child too much, or pay attention to some details, otherwise it may have the opposite effect.
What are the precautions for touching your lovely baby? Although moving is good, we should choose the right time. Otherwise, children will not only resist, but also fail to achieve the expected results.
I have a good friend who took my advice and touched the baby after giving birth. But after doing it for a while, she told me that she felt that touching the baby was not enough, and she couldn't sleep well every time. After my careful inquiry, I found that he always touched the child when he was sleepy and wanted to sleep. When the baby is sleepy, there will be resistance to touching. In addition, doing it when the baby is sleepy will make the baby more awake.
In addition to not doing it before going to bed, it is usually arranged when the baby is in good condition, not too hungry and not upset after taking a shower.
Pay attention to the length and intensity of time when touching. Excessive force may make the baby feel uncomfortable. This also requires parents to pay attention to step by step when touching. First, the action should be light, and then gradually increase the intensity. Second, the stroking time should be from short to long. It usually takes 3 to 5 minutes when the child is young, and it can be gradually extended to 10 minutes or more with the baby's age and habits.