There is a kind of person who is unwilling to ask others for money no matter how difficult it is, and prefers to be frugal. And some people would rather borrow money than maintain their living standards.
It seems that there are few embarrassing things about borrowing money in the end. What I usually hear the most is who I lent money to, and I haven't come back yet. In the end, the two turned against each other.
I don't think it's my fault, because I'm not rich and I can't lend money to others.
But it happened that someone wanted to talk to me, and the other party didn't even have the money for the bus. Compared with this, my situation is better. Without help, it would be so difficult to meet. According to your own idea, it is absolutely impossible. Who wants to talk about this?
The money was lent out, not much, and it could still be taken out at that time. The other party didn't say the specific date of return, and he may not even know when he can return it. I forgot that a few years later, he passed me on a business trip, but he returned the money to me.
Later, the same thing happened again. I even sent my daughter's lucky money with me. Not long after, I received a phone call from the other party at work. A few words later, I mentioned borrowing money again.
"I have no money at hand, and this salary has not been paid yet."
"Then ask your colleague to lend it to me first. Anyway, the salary will be paid soon. "
"……"
Why do you make me so uncomfortable?
Said it was urgent, so I had to ask my colleague if Cary had any money, transfer it to the other party for me, and pay her back when I get paid.
As soon as my salary was paid, I paid back the money I borrowed from my colleagues first, so I was relieved. I always feel that owing money to others is one thing, and I feel at ease.
Later, I learned from others that he not only borrowed money from me, but also borrowed it from others. I seem to have borrowed everything I can. It suddenly dawned on me that he borrowed it everywhere.
There is an old saying, "It is not normal for a person to borrow money from others". In today's society, as long as you are willing to work, there is always income, just how much difference. But when it comes to borrowing money frequently, this kind of "emergency" is really much more.
Some people say that in this case, it is better not to borrow money. If it's not a real emergency, sometimes you think that borrowing money is helping him, but it's hurting him to some extent.
Therefore, when someone asks you for money, you still have to ask the other person's purpose. After considering each situation, if you have the ability to lend it to him and want to help him, you'd better make an agreement in advance. The so-called villain first, the gentleman later, writing the IOUs and agreeing on the repayment period are good for both sides.
If you think that being so serious will hurt your feelings because of your feelings, you may end up hurting your feelings even more. And this agreement is also a kind of urging to each other. Always thinking about paying back others' money is also a kind of motivation. Otherwise, borrowing may become a habit, and there is no pressure to pay back the money. After a long time, you don't want to return it. If you ask, the result is unpredictable. After all, human nature is there.