Text: Qinglan?

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When I watched "If You Are the One", many boys first pointed out their views on choosing friends:

"I hope I can find a girl who doesn't act" or "my ex-girlfriend was too much, so we broke up"...

There are many boys around me, and when it comes to "being" The girls frowned: I don’t dare to want a girl who is a liar...

Some boys who have girlfriends also said: My girlfriend is too arrogant and not sensible at all. Girls are all very nice, generous and decent, so why did I meet an unreasonable one? Alas, I was unlucky and met a pretentious one...

So I disliked and despised my girlfriend in all kinds of ways.

For example, I once had a colleague named Xiao C. She and her ex-boyfriend broke up because of this.

Little C is a girl majoring in science and engineering. She majored in mathematics in college and her thinking is very rational.

For example, when a group of girls are gossiping, she usually calculates various extraterrestrial functions with a blank expression, and occasionally glances at you, like a domineering president.

For example, when we discuss issues in the group such as "My boyfriend talks too loud to me when he goes shopping with me on weekends, does he stop loving me?", she will throw someone super irritated. expression.

Her catchphrase is: Seeing you chatting, I feel that falling in love is very troublesome.

She doesn’t like bags, cosmetics, clothes, or BlingBling’s blinding decorations.

No one dares to ask her to go shopping, because what bothers her the most is trying things out. She always buys things from one store, locks in the target, tries it out once, pays for it, and goes home.

The time will not exceed 20 minutes.

Her famous saying is: Women in love are all sick.

Later, somehow, she fell in love with a boy.

Then she got really sick.

The whole process of her love is the whole process of the birth of a new "daughter".

Sometimes after twelve o'clock in the night, she would have the wonderful idea of ??eating skewers.

If it was before falling in love, she would call herself crazy and then sleep peacefully.

But after falling in love, she couldn't bear it anymore and forced her boyfriend to buy it back to satisfy her perverted desire.

If her boyfriend disobeys or complains, she will be furious!

Once, late at night on a cold winter night, her boyfriend braved the cold wind and had a runny nose. He went to several stores miserably, only to find that they were all closed.

The boyfriend had no choice but to go back empty-handed.

Then Little C broke out.

Then my boyfriend was not to be outdone.

Then they broke up.

After the breakup, Little C's style immediately returned to normal, being reasonable, rational and capable.

When she talked about this incident occasionally, she felt that she didn’t understand it: she didn’t know what was going on at the time, but she just wanted her boyfriend to do something for her unconditionally. It seemed that the more he tolerated it, it meant that I was there. The more important the status in his mind is.

Probably many boys will think that a girl does things because she is controlling and likes to be treated like a princess. More importantly: she must do it on purpose!

Therefore, just like smoking and drinking, doing, as a bad habit, can be changed and overcome.

But in fact, it is the nature and subconscious instinct of many girls to act against the person they love.

No matter how cool, capable, and reasonable she was before, as long as she is really in love, she will be more or less a little bit awkward with boys.

If a girl is generous and sensible when getting along with you, always logical and principled, and never makes any mistakes, then there is only one reason: she does not love you.

Girls will not waste any of their emotions on someone who is not important.

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Why are girls in love usually a little pretentious?

Not because they want to.

It’s not because they rely on your love to deliberately make things difficult for you, embarrass you, and satisfy their desire for control.

It’s because they want to confirm your feelings and their status in your mind.

Essentially, it comes from girls’ need for a sense of security.

Their logic is generally this: If you love me very much, how can you not tolerate my small temper?

So the question is, why in their minds, unconditional tolerance is equal to love?

Many boys may think: This is completely unreasonable!

They will also give an example: It's like I stained my girlfriend's favorite clothes with stains that can't be washed out, she was angry with me, and then I thought she didn't love me. We boys never have such strange logic.

Yes, you boys will not have such logic, because you are male, sexual, thinking, and dimensional.

You require a girl to have typical male thinking, do you think it is possible?

Female thinking is like this:

When I get angry with you, it’s not that I want to make things difficult for you, but I just want to see your attitude! It doesn't really matter what the result is.

You see, she just wants to see your attitude.

Just like my colleague Xiao C, she asked her boyfriend to buy skewers in the middle of the night. Is it really because skewers are very important?

In fact, she just wanted to see how her boyfriend would react under "bad conditions."

Why do they want to see your attitude?

Because they think: From your attitude, you can get a lot of clues, and these clues can answer many questions such as "Are you reliable?", "Do you love me or not?"

So why does she have to get the answers to these questions?

Because she loves you, values ??you, and wants to stay with you.

Then why do they think that unconditional tolerance is equal to love?

Is this really unreasonable?

In fact, they also know that this is unreasonable, but they still believe that only unconditional tolerance means that you love me deeply.

The reason is that in girls’ subconscious minds, boys are easy to “change”.

Change does not only refer to a change of heart, but also refers to the fact that after being together for a long time, the boy's feelings will fade.

This is not a delusion of girls being persecuted, but has been proven by many facts.

Relatively speaking, girls’ relationships are much more stable, and after being together for a long time, not only will they not fade, but they will deepen.

So girls think it is not worth it: not only will I not change my heart in the future, but I will love you more and more, but what about you? If you are so impatient with me now and are unwilling to tolerate my little temper unconditionally now, what about the future? After we have been together for a long time and our feelings fade, won't you become more impatient with me?

Boys, this is the root cause of the seemingly irrational logic of girls "unconditional tolerance equals love".

You see, the problem actually lies with you.

If it weren’t for the fact that you look one way when you are pursuing a girl, you look like another when you get her, and you look like another after getting married, which makes girls super unsure and insecure about you, How can a girl make so many embarrassments and "do things" to you when you are in love?

For boys who can’t stand girls “making things”, you can guarantee that in the long years to come, you will never leave a girl. You won’t dislike her because she has a bloated figure after giving birth, and you won’t dislike her because she doesn’t have a baby. Empathize with her because of her beauty, don't cool down your enthusiasm because her youth is no longer there, don't frown because her conversations are getting boring, then you can criticize "worker" women.

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I often see some boys who feel that their girlfriends are very pretentious just because the girl is a little flirty with him.

"Can you be more sensible? You are crazy. Look, how can any girl act like you?"

There is another kind of woman who is afraid of the world being in chaos, so she will stir up trouble among them. : "Why does your girlfriend do this? You are so pitiful."

You have to admit that there are a lot of bitches in this world, and they are just hypocritical.

There used to be such a couple in the company where I interned, and they were instigated by a bitch all their lives.

I said: As long as a girl falls in love, she will always be a little pretentious. If she doesn't, she doesn't love you at all.

The girl in this couple is also a little bit arrogant.

As a result, another girl in the company began to fear that the world would be in chaos. She often said to the boy with a sympathetic face: Your girlfriend is so pretentious, can you tolerate this? You are so pathetic.

When boys hear this kind of thing too often, they start to feel sorry for themselves. Why are other girls so sensible and reasonable? My girlfriend is so unreasonable, oh, I feel so tired.

The more I feel sorry for myself, the more I feel that my girlfriend is unreasonable and disgusting.

So, he happily broke up with his girlfriend, but turned around and ended up with that "generous and sensible" bitch.

Not long after, he asked this question: Why are all women the same?

Haha.

Guys, please observe your surroundings: Are girls who are generous, sensible, and sensible just your work partners, colleagues, and ordinary friends?

Is it your girlfriend who is not generous, ignorant, and unreasonable?

Sao Nian, it’s not that you found an ignorant girl to be your girlfriend, but that a sensible girl became your girlfriend, so you are ignorant.

Your girlfriend is also as generous and sensible as the girls around you in the workplace, or even more generous and sensible than them.

Then why is it completely different in front of you?

It’s not because she loves you!

Because I love you, I won’t reason with you.

Because we don’t love you, we are here to reason.

If you love her too, please cherish her and understand her. As long as you use your own attitude to give her a sense of security and pass her "test", how can she be willing to let you Repeatedly in trouble?

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