"Your kindness flows like water to the east, and you lose your favor.". Unexpectedly, Li Shangyin's poem can still be used on me one day. Yes, grandpa Guo began to dislike me before he was three years old.

Back then, Jelly Mom and I entered the house at the same time, and Jelly was bound to rush into my arms. Even if Jelly Mom tries her best to stand in front of me, Grandpa Guo will make a detour and make a big face. When I was in bed and drinking milk, Grandpa Guo also asked me to accompany him, muttering, "Don't be a mother" while drinking.

So, when Jelly shouted the slogan "No Dad", I couldn't fully adapt to it. It was not until I saw Jelly's mother's gloating eyes and Jelly playing happily with her mother that I finally confirmed that Jelly put me in the cold.

If you fall out of favor too soon, you think of a tornado. I just want to know why.

I recall carefully that last week, Jelly and Peach went out to play together, and the scene got out of control because of fighting for toys. I stopped it and took Jelly home as punishment. Last week, it was time for Jelly to go home and take a bath, and she wanted to catch small fish. I tricked her into leaving work and ignored Jelly's suspicious eyes. Last week, Jelly abandoned Page and fell in love with the cartoon "Wang Wang Team". I set the TV on time and turned it off when it arrived ...... < P > It turns out that Jelly and I entered a confrontation period of implementing the "rules".

Recently, when someone criticized Jelly, she tried to stop Youyou's mouth: "I won't let XX talk" and "XX goes away". Did you ask her if she heard it? She didn't respond at all. Pretend to call her to eat, and she will ask where it is at once.

this guy, he began to hold grudges and care about wind comments.

To prevent jelly from becoming Xiong Haizi, bear grudges and teach her to obey the rules.

A study by Duke University shows that children can understand the meaning of commitment and cooperation after the age of 3, be polite to others, understand others, and know how to share and team, all of which are within their cognitive range.

Therefore, when you are approaching the age of 3, it's time for the rules to appear. Through the rules, you can establish life rules and behavior habits. Rules are not established in advance, and when bad habits are formed and emphasized, rules become constraints, and once implemented, they are bound to encounter resistance.

at least you can't hit people, right? Toys should not be occupied, should they? You shouldn't just sit around and cheat, should you? It's always wrong to break the rules of life if you have fun, right? Watching too much TV does more harm than good, right?

when you think about it, there are still many bad problems with jelly. Standing on the moral high ground, I am not soft in implementing the rules. "Jelly, I won't agree to your request when you are crying." "You promised to watch it for half an hour, and I will turn it off if you don't turn off the TV." "Don't play with water, wasting water is not a good baby." "Huh? Why are your hands up? You can't control your hand baby again? "......

Like Tang Priest, I earnestly educate the stubborn little monkey in front of me. As a result, Po Hou still can't understand the greatness and glory of being a teacher.

To say that Jelly Mom is also a firm rule enforcer, she exists like a "big bad wolf". Generally, when my persuasion fails, I threaten "If you don't obey me, I'll let Mom take care of you", and Jelly can always be restrained. Jelly, if you resist because the rules are limited, it's not jelly. Mom?

Psychologists from 13 different countries, a result of their group research shows that children and teenagers pay more attention to their fathers or mothers who they think are prestigious or have higher interpersonal relationships. Translate, at home, who is in charge and whose children listen to more.

Wan Weigang also said when reading The Gardener and the Carpenter that two or three-year-old children are already good at judging whether a person is reliable or not. If a person is confident and shows good at doing something, children will tend to listen to him.

Children are more sensitive to self-confidence than adults. If this person is not confident, children don't believe him at all.

Jelly Mom happens to be very confident and a bit overbearing.

Does Jelly also feel the aura of her mother, and find that all resistance and struggle in front of her mother are futile, so it is better to behave well? Dad, on the other hand, is not really angry. He can be willful and naughty, and it doesn't matter if he stays in the cold for a while. As long as he waves, he will come and play happily.

That must be it. That's right, Jelly, you heart breaker.

it's not that our army is too incompetent, but that the enemy is too cunning. Sneaking at Jelly Mom's way of dealing with confrontation, she never confronted her, but used coaxing, attracting attention, pretending to give in, and so on. She really reached the bottom line, but never gave in, and tried her best to achieve her wish.

For example, in the afternoon, Jelly got into the habit of having to push the cart out to sleep. If my grandma and I push it out, Jelly will get up to see the scenery, beg for a hug, and want to pee ... If I'm not careful, I'll slip out of the car and run around barefoot, leaving me flustered and messy in the wind.

If it's Jelly Mom, Jelly will never be given a chance to sit up. What's the wind? Don't be blown away. The plane crashed. Be careful, the eagle is coming to take you away ... What are all these bad reasons? But what about jelly? Once I imitated it, but Jelly held her breath for a long time, and finally whispered, "Did the eagle fly away?"? I soon fell asleep.

if you want your children to listen to you, first ask if the relationship is good, and then ask yourself if it's ok. That's a famous saying.

it's true that rules should be taught to children, but how to convey them can make children accept them gladly without destroying harmonious relations, and you really need to use your brains more.

Sometimes I am really tired after a busy day, but the child is also eager for you to play with her. What should I do? Cheer up, have a cup of coffee, and then yawn, or tell your child how you feel and get her understanding?

Grandma and I love to be brave and hard, so Mama Jelly spread herself out on the bed, and then told Jelly, Mama is tired, shall we play a massage game on the bed?

I'm as crazy as jelly.

I shouldn't complain or compromise when I meet jelly resistance. Why didn't the child listen to me? Forget it, let her. But think about it, what is the way that jelly can understand and accept?

Stick to the bottom line and pretend to give jelly a choice. On the basis of not hurting the rules, she occasionally gives in, so that her little wish can be satisfied.

Once as soon as Jelly went out, she walked around in front of me and looked up and said, Dad, I'm tired. I encourage: I will hug you when I walk to the door of the community. Jelly grinned and groaned. Jelly mom said, we'll lead you. Jelly puts one hand to her mother and the other in her trouser pocket.

I asked, where is the hand I want to hold? Jelly said angrily, "it's gone." I laugh.

I didn't walk for a long time, but Jelly still reached out and held me tightly.