0 1? The marriage of Alexander the Great and Geldious.
This is a sword to help you break the shackles of interpersonal relationships and separate topics! Only Alexander the Great can read it.
I don't know if the person who came to the rope before had the impulse to cut it off, but in the final analysis it can only be Alexander, which is not only a cognitive breakthrough, but also a strong self-confidence as a guarantee.
Alexander himself is wild, brave and aggressive, and has great military talent. When he saw the untied rope, he ignored the Oracle and cut it off directly. As for whether he misunderstood the Oracle, he said, after all, he ascended the throne at the age of 20 and died at the age of 33. The cause of death is unknown.
This reminds me of another Japanese favorite historical figure, Nobuyoshi Nagata, who called himself the "Six-Day Magic" when God stopped the Buddha from killing him.
PS: Nobunaga took a tough attitude towards the warring states forces which integrated religion and military affairs, and killed many monks (many monks in Japan were soldiers at that time). Religious people also hate Nobunaga, believing that Nobunaga is more greedy, angry, resentful, stupid and jealous than the five poisons of Buddhism, and lists it as the "sixth poison", that is, the sixth demon king.
But it was such a demon king that he ruled almost the whole of Japan by force, ended the chaos in Japan during the Warring States period and became an epoch-making historical pioneer. People will admire such people, because it is difficult for ordinary people to do it. But he was finally killed by his own confidant, ending his fantastic life of 50 years.
However, this is not our focus.
Philosophers will think of this story in the separation of themes. I think it's because Adler is a man who is good at establishing a new order. He doesn't believe in fate and has the spirit of fighting against it.
It must be said that Adler's childhood experiences all reveal his own efforts to break the fate of life.
His experience along the way is a miracle to overcome fate.
I grew up with rickets and my body was deformed. I barely learned to walk when I was 4 years old. When I was 5 years old, I got pneumonia and was hit by a car twice. I broke through the gates of hell several times. In sharp contrast to my almost perfect brother, I have suffered tremendous psychological pressure. When I was a child, my grades were not good, and I often failed math. I was given up by my teacher to learn how to repair shoes, so that I can make a living as a craftsman in the future.
Fortunately, his father has been encouraging him. Adler deeply remembered his father's words: "Don't believe in fate, don't believe in other people's comments, and don't believe that disability will hinder you." The only thing you have to believe is your own desire and your own potential! "
Whenever he encounters difficulties, whenever his inferiority complex strikes, he will think of his father's words:
"You don't believe anything! Never believe it! "
This is how Adler, who was constantly hit by fate, achieved his later achievements.
Adler's later research experience shows that he is constantly surpassing his inferiority complex and making himself excellent. He is the one who constantly creates himself, directly participates in his own destiny and decides his relationship with the outside world.
Adler opposed Freud's causality and fatalism, and thought that what people got from heredity and early experience was only some "bricks". There are three factors that affect people's growth, namely heredity, environment and creativity.
If people want to change their destiny, they must give full play to their creativity, combine creativity with other two elements, and overcome obstacles in life.
What Adler hopes we can do is to separate the topic. We can control our own reactions, not others'. Even we don't expect each other to pay anything in return for our actions, so that we can be free.
02? How to get freedom?
Choose your own life, be responsible for your own life, don't think about returns, don't blindly pursue others' approval, and don't be afraid of being hated. Only in this way can we gain the freedom of interpersonal relationship.
"It may be easier for you to live according to other people's expectations, but at the same time you also entrust your life to others, such as walking on the track laid by your parents." But as long as you are still walking on the track, at least you won't get lost and you can spend your life relatively safely.
Most people will still choose to be stable and comfortable without tossing. They are doing what they should do in life step by step at every stage when they should complete the corresponding tasks.
If we don't diligently seek external recognition, don't take external evaluation as the criterion of our life, and live according to our own wishes and likes, we will risk being hated, so we need the courage to be hated.
Why choose this illiberal lifestyle?
Freedom is what people pursue, but it is beyond the reach of many people. Adler advocated freedom precisely because we lacked courage. We can also feel the feeling of being bound, but we care more about the outside world than our inner feelings than being hated, not recognized and having bad comments.
For example, your positive attitude will be described as drinking chicken soup and successfully learning to brainwash. Those humorous sentences you use to enliven the atmosphere will be described as grandstanding, those persistent behaviors will be described as clumsy, and those upright and upright styles will be described as idiots who do not understand flexibility and size up the situation. ...
You have your insistence, you can choose not to go with the flow and stick to the principle, but then you may be hated by some people.
Pleasing everyone is an extremely illiberal way of life, which is impossible to achieve. You can't win everyone's love.
If you want to exercise your freedom, you need to pay the price. In interpersonal relationships, the price of freedom is being hated by others.
Encourage you with the words of philosophers!
"Don't be afraid of being hated, but go forward, don't go with the flow, but go forward. This is human freedom. I care more about how I do than what others think of me. Is that I want to live freely. "