Abstract Recently, some teachers who are extremely responsible for their work have caused tragedies due to inappropriate educational methods. When we are shouting that teachers are a vulnerable group and the education industry is a high-risk profession, we should reflect deeply and learn lessons, and we must not cause lifelong regrets due to impulse.

Keywords: Law, love, respect, efficiency, care. Suhomlinsky has a famous saying: Loving a student is tantamount to shaping a student, and rejecting a student is tantamount to destroying a student. The vast majority of our teachers have a sincere love for their students. This is teacher love. The direct expression of teacher love is to strictly demand students, so that students can develop good behaviors and habits, abide by disciplines and laws, learn knowledge well, and learn to behave. But in specific educational practice, it is not an easy task to be a teacher who convinces every student and parent at all times; and it is even easier said than done for every parent to understand and cooperate with the teacher. This requires teachers’ educational wisdom and the art of love.

First, teach according to the law and love and abide by the law

First of all, teachers in the new era must have legal awareness and should Actively and consciously study laws and regulations related to education, apply what they have learned, and set an example for students to learn and abide by the law. "Compulsory Education Law of the People's Republic of China", "Teachers Law of the People's Republic of China", "Law of the People's Republic of China on the Protection of Minors", "Law of the People's Republic of China on the Prevention of Future "Adult Crime Law", "How to Prevent and Avoid Personal Injury Compensation Cases in Schools" and other laws, regulations and documents related to education, teachers should often study and memorize them; regulate their own educational behavior at all times and protect their own rights and interests in accordance with the law. Legitimate rights and interests; believe in students, strengthen democratic management, and prevent rough and single educational methods; respect students and be their close friends.

Secondly, legal education should be provided to students to guide them to know and abide by the law. Weekly class meetings can provide education based on the behavioral conditions and social situation of students in combination with relevant legal provisions.

At present, there are more only children and more doting by parents and elders, resulting in most children being squeamish and willful, with poor labor concepts, afraid of getting dirty and tired, and like to spend small change more than they eat or wear, and have poor ability to take care of themselves, and suffer from No criticism or frustration at all. This requires teachers to pay attention to contact with parents, strive for support and cooperation, and carry out multi-faceted and long-term strict requirements, training and management of students, from shallow to deep, from easy to difficult, step by step. Only in this way can good behavioral habits be developed. For example, students are usually assigned homework, including housework, homework, and craft skills, and parents are asked to reply with comments, so that students can exercise their self-care abilities and good behavioral habits. When holding parent-teacher meetings or home visits, we should timely infiltrate legal propaganda to let parents understand their responsibilities, educate their children to abide by the law from an early age, understand the appropriate punishment of teachers for students' wrong behavior, prevent crimes, and always respect teachers and value education. . In this way, the educational effect will be doubled with half the effort, and many campus accidents and disputes will be avoided.

2. Respect students and love efficiently

In order for students to understand teachers' love, the first thing is to respect students. Respect is an important rule for getting along with others, and it is also the basis of teacher love. Mutual respect and understanding will lead to a harmonious relationship; losing respect and understanding and blindly criticizing and criticizing will only make students feel dull and depressed, and even praise will appear empty, let alone allowing students to understand the teacher's love. Every student is an independent person and has the tendency to act independently and be independent. He must have his own reasons and ideas for doing anything. If you love students, you should respect the students' personality and thoughts and put their children first. Treat each other as equals; if you love students, you should fully understand, trust and appreciate students, protect students' creative potential, protect students' legitimate rights and interests, and never harm students' self-esteem and self-confidence.

For junior high school students, respect is particularly important. They pay special attention to self-esteem issues, are particularly sensitive to this issue, and have particularly fragile self-esteem. In the process of criticizing and educating students, many teachers often encounter students who are disobedient or even rebellious.

You must not use sarcasm, sarcasm, or even corporal punishment or disguised corporal punishment, or make extreme actions that disrespect them or hurt them. If we do this,

not only will we fail to achieve the purpose of transformation, but they may also become resistant and bring unnecessary difficulties to our transformation work.

3. Care for students and love naturally

In order for students to understand teacher love, we teachers must care about each student emotionally. Everyone who lives in a collective hopes to receive care and help from others. This is human nature. Our teachers care about students and can make students feel the teacher's love. This is the most direct and simple way for students to understand the teacher's love. Our teachers' care and love for students should come from the bottom of their hearts and focus on the healthy growth of students. As a teacher, you must have a heart that loves students and loves in every detail. Only by caring about students can you respect every student and fully care about the growth of students.

As the saying goes, a good word will warm you in winter, but a bad word will hurt you in June. To care about students emotionally, you must give students timely encouragement, praise, and appreciation, so that students can truly feel that we are paying attention to them. , we are caring about them. For example: when the students send greeting cards during the holidays, and when faced with the greeting cards made by the students which are not very exquisite, if you say to her coldly: Don't do these useless things, focus on studying. Maybe your inadvertent words stifled the growth of a future young designer. If you say in an approving tone: What a beautiful greeting card, what a deft craftsmanship! You are so smart, you will make more and more beautiful greeting cards, thank you? Then, there will be another result. With your caring encouragement, this student will not only flourish in academic performance, but also become an amazing designer in the future. In the same way, when a student becomes addicted to online games, often skips school, and falls asleep in class, our teachers are very worried, fearing that he will delay his studies. After class, we can ask him to go aside and say with concern: I'm so happy to see you. You didn't come yesterday. Everyone missed you very much. Seeing that you are not in your seat, I am really worried. I will have to ask for leave if I have something to do in the future. You didn't have a rest at night, okay? Why did you fall asleep in class today? When an introverted little girl fails to run for class committee, tears streaming down her face, our teachers can pat her on the shoulder and say: Don't be discouraged, is there a next time? When a little boy who is usually silent is hesitant to participate in the speech contest in his seat, our teachers can use encouraging eyes to signal him to participate. Everyone hopes to be recognized, let alone our students, this group of lively, lovely, and innocent children. They eagerly look forward to the teacher's encouragement, praise, and appreciation. In the care of our teachers, students understand our love for them and receive the care of teachers. This is their urgent psychological need. Teacher love can have a great spur and incentive for them, and it has great influence on them. There is a big boost to growth and progress.

Of course, you will also encounter embarrassment in the process of love: doing bad things with good intentions,

No reward for your efforts

But many of them are due to not being familiar with the person. , because the way of expressing love is inappropriate. The art of education is not to impart knowledge, but to inspire, awaken, and inspire.