In the process of watching the TV series "Bracket", I thought of this concept more than once. Although Stena and Solanum lyratum have completely changed into two different people after their separation, Stena is kind, Solanum lyratum is fierce, Stena is wise and sober, Solanum lyratum loves the brain, and even Solanum lyratum has been transformed to draw a line with Stena, but I always feel that they are each other's other selves.
Why did Stern separate Bai Ying?
That's because she has Bai Ying's feelings and desires in her heart.
Bai Ying wants unswerving and single-minded love, and also wants to destroy all obstacles that prevent her from getting love. This is actually the pent-up desire of Stern submachine gun. She is her "inner child".
In the process of being raised by Akiyama, Siteng suffered not only physical abuse, but also mental oppression from Akiyama. For example, Akiyama will say to her, "You don't deserve it." Not worthy of what? Born as a vine, you don't deserve all the treatment related to people. Not worthy of laughing, not worthy of love, not worthy of enjoying a better life.
What Akiyama did gave Stena a profound hint. She felt that she just shouldn't expect those things, and she shouldn't have that desire, so when she faced her desire, she didn't want to accept it. But she couldn't stop the emergence and existence of those desires, so she separated another self from such entanglement.
This self cannot be accepted and appeased by conscious self, which is somewhat similar to our human personality split. If we can eliminate or accept these desires that are different from our own cognition, there will be no such phenomenon. When we can't control these desires, we can only let them grow and develop, which in turn will kill ourselves.
After Bai Ying appeared, her ability was greater than that of Stern submachine gun, maybe a bit like this. Bai Ying, who was divided, was reluctant to admit that she was Stena. She changed her name and appearance, trying to get rid of Stena's shadow, but after all, she is not a complete individual, and she and Stena are only half.
Yes, humanity is three-dimensional. Everyone has good and evil, love and hate, right and wrong. If you say that good is good, evil is evil, love is good, hate is evil, yes is good, not evil, and you only allow yourself to have a good side and no evil side, then maybe you are no longer a complete person.
Many times, we have to allow ourselves to have shortcomings, mistakes and bad sides, and even accept those unrealistic desires in our hearts. Only by seeing and respecting their existence can we get along with them. Otherwise, it will turn into a fight. No matter what the result is, you will be injured.
What happens if you don't accept your inner self?
The result of Stern's struggle with desire was that Bai Ying was separated. Bai Ying not only killed her, but also hurt many innocent people. Of course, this is a wonderful technology.
Remember the once popular online drama "Hidden Corner"? Zhang Dongsheng conspired to kill so many people just because he felt that others looked down on him and he didn't want to divorce his wife. It is his emotion and feeling that others look down on him, and it is his wish and idea not to want a divorce, but on the surface he seems to be a polite, gentle and honest man.
This shows that in his conscious mind, a polite and gentle man is recognized and good. But subconsciously, he hopes that others will pursue him and look up to him, and that his wife and mother-in-law will respect and recognize him. He failed to appease his desires and feelings, so he made a big mistake.
But if he accepts the fact that people's abilities are big and small, people are born rich and poor, and others' attitudes are not under his own subjective control, he may not let his desires get out of control, and will not lead to extreme behavior.
In fact, everyone will have some unacceptable ideas and ideas from time to time. In other words, everyone has another self inside. But why do many people live aboveboard and highly respected, while others live in rolling in the deep and cannot turn back?
The only difference is how you treat your heart.
If you blindly resist it and suppress it, it will instinctively resist and probably defeat your original reason, such as Stearns submachine gun and Bai Ying; If you blindly obey it and accommodate it, you may be led astray by it, such as Zhang Dongsheng.
The best way is for you to accept its existence, then change your mind and live with it.
How to coexist with it?
If it wants an unswerving love, tell yourself that such love exists and you have the right to pursue it. However, such love needs to be identified and cannot be blindly followed. If it wants wealth, fame and fortune, you tell yourself that this pursuit is right, but it depends on your own ability and don't rush for success.
Who will be perfect in this world? Where there is beauty, there is ugliness, where there is sunshine, there is shadow. It is not terrible for a complete person to have some unrealistic or wrong thoughts and desires at a certain moment. The terrible thing is that you treat it with the wrong attitude and way.
From the moment of differentiation, Steng and Bai Ying actually thought about reuniting. But many years later, Bai Ying still wants to blend in, but Stena just wants to be himself.
Because Stern submachine gun has experienced and understood that she believes in love and knows that she deserves it. She has accepted her inner self, and she has become a complete individual.
However, after being hurt by Shao, she no longer believed in love, and her inner self was still suppressed, so she became crazy and remained a missing vine.
In fact, only by accepting and appeasing your inner self can you be complete, rational and sober. Just like returning to the template.