For maternal love, people never stingy with beautiful and meaningful words. Because the love that a mother pours into her children is always so heavy. Many parents pin all their hopes on their children, hoping to arrange a better life for them. But mothers must first live a very full and happy life by themselves.
In fact, the most important thing to reduce the burden is not children, but maternal love.
Dickens, an English writer, famously said: This is the best time and the worst time. The word good or bad seems too extreme, but as long as it is said that this is the most anxious era, good or bad is included.
At a media conference, the reporter asked Lei Jun, the founder of Xiaomi: Are you anxious now? Lei Jun said: There is no time anxiety at all. This is the highest anxiety of the rich. At noon, The Paper reporter interviewed the arrested recidivist: Why did you steal the car in the first place? No money! This is the anxiety that the bottom people are most unable to refute.
Behind the anxiety is the pressure of life. No matter rich or poor, they are exchanging their own ways for daily survival. I can't be proud of a child who knows piano, chess and calligraphy at the age of five. I also sympathize with college graduates who are at a loss in the face of the emptiness of life, and I understand why young people who get off work in the early hours of the morning are keen to get drunk. Everyone bears an invisible burden.
But gradually advocate the education of children's burden reduction. Confused college students still have the price of young trial and error, and tired people in the workplace can still be drunk and licentious. They can always find the door to release.
But there is such a group of people, invisible pressure is on their shoulders every day, and they have nowhere to escape. This group of people is their mother.
A group like mom is the easiest to be told what to do, and people around you are eager to teach you how to raise children. When a child cries, people will say that you are clumsy, hurting the child and the child is ill. People will say that you are lazy, don't take good care of your children, and want to take them to play. Others will say that children can't stand the toss, so they stay at home and stay at home with their children. Others say that you should take your children out for a walk more often, and don't make them feel bored ... The biggest feeling of being a mother is that you are in a dilemma.
We often hear such remarks that men work hard outside and women take care of their babies at home easily, but they don't know that mothers take care of their babies at home all the year round and are on standby 24 hours a day. However, their grievances and burdens go far beyond these.
Do you know that?/You know what? Do you know that?/You know what? Mother's load is equal to 12 liter of bottled water, equal to five watermelons, mother's load is equal to a full suitcase, equal to 14 laptop computers, mother's load is equal to a large potted plant, equal to 60 bottles of mineral water ... Don't forget, before becoming a mother, they are also delicate girls who need to be cared for.
Once I saw a mother at the airport, holding a two-year-old boy in her left hand, dragging a suitcase in her right hand and carrying a backpack on her right shoulder, and rushing to the airport. However, in this case, the little boy in his arms still sits firmly.
Most people see the strength of their mothers, but ignore the efforts behind them.
Mothers have little freedom until their children really reach adulthood. Children are almost the whole world, and this is just one of the cruelties to mothers.
Some time ago, Anglenala filmed a public welfare MV, which restored the daily life of a mother with a baby alone. Mother wants to go to the toilet, but the child has been crying outside, so she has to carry the child into the toilet. When preparing for dinner, the child woke up and couldn't even eat a mouthful of rice. He can only take a few bites while coaxing the child. Thin wrist because of holding the child for a long time, had to wear a wristband with plaster. Taking children in old-fashioned clothes to the streets, they were cast a strange look ... The sad mother stood silently at the intersection of the zebra crossing and was awakened by an aunt who was a porter on the road!
When I got home, I was eagerly looking forward to my husband's return, but I waited for a short message: I won't come back for dinner tonight. At that time, my wife finally burst into tears. ...
Because the children in the unicycle, career, ideal, romantic two-person world, beautiful skirts and high heels have become extravagant hopes. How many mothers pursue hot mom in their hearts, but they become unkempt in the fight day after day. Before you became a mother, you obviously had excellent abilities, but after you became a mother, you often blamed yourself for not taking good care of your children.
You envy the unmarried girlfriends in your circle of friends to travel around the world, but you can only silently put down your mobile phone and turn over to continue to put your children to sleep. You should not only drag your tired body, but also face and solve your own contradictions.
Have you ever thought that mothers can be selfish and live more for themselves? Dong Qing was interviewed by a talk show some time ago. As a 45-year-old mother, her face always smiles like a flower, and there is a mature woman's temperament and elegance in her conversation.
Wang Ning, the host, asked her why she became a mother at this time. Dong Qing said: When people reach a certain age, many things can't be put off any longer, otherwise this opportunity will be lost forever.
People are in awe of the word "forever". Of course, when she is a real mother, she will inevitably fall into all kinds of confusion and be at a loss.
"It was a very difficult day, and I became trivial and mediocre. I feel that all the time is occupied by this life. " But after a period of calm thinking, Dong Qing found that this was not a trade-off. The growth of children does not conflict with their own growth. "I want to continue to grow. I want to set a good example for my children, and I don't want to stop because of him. "
Dong Qing chose selfishness, pursued his own career, accompanied his children as much as possible, and tried to infect them with his enterprising spirit. Looking back at Dong Qing now, his family is happy, his career is satisfactory, and his children are outstanding beyond their peers under his influence.
The French writer Beauvoir once said: Women's misfortune lies in being surrounded by almost irresistible temptations. She doesn't need to make progress, but is encouraged to slide to bliss. When she found herself fooled by a mirage, it was already too late, and her strength had been exhausted in the failed adventure. What he encourages is to let every woman learn to resist the temptation of debauchery, self-love, self-improvement, independence and elegance.
Of course, the mother group is also useful. Give yourself more consideration and care, and let yourself participate in family life clearly. This is the responsible way for children and this family.
Many mothers have a big problem, forgetting that they are a woman first, then a mother, and that sex appeal and charm are the core of their birth. So they involuntarily locked their skirts in the wardrobe, buried their earrings and jewelry in the deep cabinet, put cosmetics on hold until they expired, and put high heels on the shelf.
Caroline, the muse of Lancome, once wrote a sentence in the book Being an Elegant Parisian Woman: Parisian women are selfish and full of maternal love, but they can never forget themselves. You won't find the Virgin in Paris.
Elegant Parisian women have a natural passion for fashion and travel. You may not know that those sexy models in Paris that you saw in fashion magazines may have just given birth last year. In their eyes, children can't be the fetters of their progress. They will still fly around the world and see the scenery they want to see. The only difference is that this time, they will take their children with them.
Take your children to travel and see the world, and you will find that this is a process for mother and son to grow up together and get to know each other. Because the mother-child relationship can evolve into a teammate relationship during the journey, because children need to see the world more, and so does their mother, so they go together to explore fun and care for each other during the journey. Only in this way can both sides get real growth.
As long as you observe carefully, you will find that mothers and children who have just got off the train and plane will have a different kind of certainty on their faces. They firmly believe that what happened in the last second will always get perfect feedback in every moment in the future.
No wonder some people say that when a woman gives her body and mind to nature and has seen all the scenery in the world, all the changes in her heart, appearance and posture are enough to prove that traveling is her mother's most relaxed luxury.
Writer Wu Zhihong said: I support every mother to live for herself and take her children to see the world.