How to determine whether a man is worth marrying?

To put it simply, when a person has inappropriate thoughts, he will act in extraordinary ways, and his behavior often does not match his normal words and deeds. This is called action deformation. For example, if a person wants to be promoted, he will be obedient to his leader, flatter him, and try to please him in various ways. But a wise leader should realize that this kind of behavior of his subordinates is only limited to when he wants to be promoted. When he gets promoted or doesn't get what he wants from you, his behavior will immediately return to normal. The great road leads to simplicity, and different paths lead to the same destination. Similarly, when a man first starts dating you, he wants to get your approval, or wants to trick you into having sex. In short, he is very eager to get something from you. At this time, men's behavior is the same as how someone who wants to be promoted treats their leader. It can make you feel like a spring breeze and make you feel that this man is too kind to you and is completely obedient. But this behavior is often deformed and unsustainable. Often after two or three years of being together, or after getting married, men tend to show their normal behavior patterns.

Of course, the same is true for women. We cannot say that this kind of deformation is wrong. This is human nature. I have to admit that most of the vows made by men during the period of passionate love are true, because at that time and in that scene, his heart was sincere. But after they get married, they treat you like air and feel tired of being together, which is also true. This is all human nature. If a man, or a woman, expects the other person to treat him as well as he did at the beginning, it is anti-human and of course unrealistic. So, back to the original question, how can we judge whether a man is worth marrying? The answer is: Don’t look at his deformed movements, but look at this man and his normal behavior. Is it acceptable to you? status. But it is not an easy task because it requires wisdom.

If a person wants to live well, he needs wisdom. Most girls are emotional animals. They are easily moved by flowers, wine, candlelight dinners, and courtesy to please, and become little animals that lose their judgment. In other words, they are smart enough to make various calculations about the other person's house, car, savings, and what benefits they can bring to themselves, but they lack great wisdom. Whether he is easily moved and loses judgment, or he is clever and calculating, it is actually difficult to see a man in a more real and normal state. People are multi-faceted. When facing different people and different situations, people will use different values, attitudes and behavior patterns. Therefore, it is not easy to see someone clearly.

But there are several ways. One is time. The ancient saying "Knowing the power of a horse from a long distance will make a difference in people's hearts" is a wise saying. Time will lengthen everything, present all real things, and average everything out. Like many people born in the 1970s and 1980s, it is no longer realistic to stay in a relationship for seven or eight years or even longer before getting married. But it is difficult to see a person clearly in two to three months, or a year. Try to be in love for as long as possible. But long time is not enough, but it is necessary to have the wisdom to see through the phenomenon and see the essence, and to judge the other party's true status, especially his values ????from his various behaviors. The second is to participate as deeply as possible in the other person's life, especially in different scenarios. When they are in love, the two of them do not interfere with each other, whether they are watching movies, eating or traveling, and of course they live a comfortable life. However, after marriage, a child is enough to turn your life upside down and bring endless troubles and problems to your life.

So, you must see what the other person’s attitude is in different scenarios, especially when facing the real marriage life in the future. For example, when faced with many troubles in life, does the other person shirk and evade, or is he brave enough to take on the troubles? When it comes to housework at home, does he slack off, shirk, AA, or be proactive? The third is to look at the other person's attitude towards people he is familiar with in his daily life. Such as parents, brothers and sisters, relatives and friends. These people are often the people he is most familiar with, and their behavior patterns are often normal and undeformed. Because if you are determined to be with him, one day you will also become his relative. There is no logic in wanting a person who has no helpless reasons but lacks gratitude to his parents to treat you well throughout his life.

Of course, the same rules apply when men look at women. Although it is said that whether you are a man or a woman, the most successful thing in life is not how much money you have to become a big official, but having a happy family. Most young people will not understand this truth. Because at this time, men think that having money means everything, and women think that they must be independent and self-reliant. When they get older, people will find that except for their body and emotions, which are the most important things in their lives, everything else can be pretty much the same. However, to have a happy family, finding a suitable person is of course the key, but the most important thing is yourself. Are you the one who is willing to compromise, sacrifice, and contribute to your family and each other? If not, no matter how good a man or woman you find, you will never be able to have a happy family.