It’s not that “people with good intentions have bad luck”, but that most people with good intentions have bad luck.

Because most of them are people who are willing to help others but do not know how to refuse others in a timely manner. It's not like before, where you accidentally helped a rich man, and then he gave you a good position or a lot of money.

Nowadays, it is more common for others to ask for help because of their kindness. Even if they are not willing, even if it takes a lot of their own time and energy, they will eventually agree. After a long time, the other party will not thank you, but will take it for granted. When you want to refuse, the other party will think you are strange.

This also confirms the saying "A good person will be bullied by others, and a good horse will be ridden by others." If the other party is an unforgiving person, they will be more enthusiastic when they see you being easy to bully, but when they encounter such a strong person, they will die down.

So, I would like to say to those kind-hearted people, take care of yourself first, satisfy your own emotions first, and then take care of others. We must remember that "if you are successful, you can help the world; if you are poor, you can only benefit yourself."

I know this habit is difficult to break, but think about those people who ask you for help without considering your feelings. How embarrassed they are and why you are embarrassed to refuse.

My father is such a person. Every time he goes out, he will bring local specialties to his "friends". During every year and festival, he will edit a unique blessing and send a red envelope to everyone. "Friends" have If you ask for help, he will do it without hesitation. But when he needed help, everyone made excuses.

After feeling cold, I realized that maintaining friendship in the adult world requires strength in addition to kindness. The more valuable you are, the stronger the relationship will be, even if you don't give anything away.

To sum up, you can be kind to others, but you cannot wrong yourself or let yourself get hurt. If you want to maintain a relationship by being nice to others, it won't work. The most important thing is to make yourself valuable.

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A kind-hearted person must be soft-hearted, and a soft-hearted person must be prone to disaster. The ancients said that a person with a weak face will always be poor, and it is true. If a person is kind, he will be bullied easily, and if a horse is kind, it will be ridden by others. The eternal truth. On the other hand, a house that accumulates good deeds will always be blessed, and blessings will come one day. Therefore, as a human being, don't do good deeds because they are small, and don't do evil because they are small. Do more good deeds, don’t do bad deeds, and cultivate blessings for yourself. It doesn’t matter if you endure a little hardship. You must be open-minded and believe that no hardship in this world is in vain!

Zhuangzi said that those who kill living things will not die, and those who give birth to life will not live. This is a great good and a true merit and virtue. It forgets both things and myself and responds to random circumstances. It is not attached to good and evil, so it is harmonious and harmonious. hinder! But kind-hearted people are generally soft-hearted, worry too much, and cannot stick to the golden mean. Over time, their innate vitality is damaged and their qi movement is not smooth, so they are deeply in love and do not live long! People with good roots should not be bound by external appearances. They only need to find corresponding things, diseases and medicines! Doing good deeds without the intention of doing good deeds, without expecting rewards, and without following the principles of affairs, is this really good! Establish your own destiny and seek your own blessings! There should be no distracting thoughts, and it has nothing to do with language! Being happy all the time is kung fu and doing good deeds!

The education we have received since we were young is: good people will be rewarded. However, the cruel reality made these words make his cheeks bulge two feet high. This is the fundamental reason why some people think that "people with good intentions have bad luck".

The most typical example of good-hearted people being misfortune is the story of the farmer and the snake. The farmer was kind-hearted. When he saw the snake freezing, he kindly held it in his arms to save it. When the snake woke up, it bit the farmer in return. The farmer was poisoned and died. This can be said to be a bad fate.

Why do kind-hearted people have bad luck? There are three main reasons. These three reasons can be said to be the fatal flaws of good-hearted people.

First, trust others. If you have a kind heart, you will easily trust others, so you will inevitably be fooled. In a person's life, some of them may be insignificant, but some of them will affect their whole life.

Second, do not know how to refuse. It is difficult for a kind-hearted person to refuse the unreasonable demands of others. At critical moments, this kind of intolerance will often come at the expense of one's own future and destiny.

Third, I can’t do it. People who are kind-hearted and moral do not have the scheming and skill to be ruthless or cruel. For example, when others do whatever it takes to kill you, they won't fight back and can only let others kill you.

We always say that our destiny is in our own hands. In fact, this sentence is not necessarily correct. For cruel people, their destiny can be controlled by themselves, but for kind-hearted people, their destiny is often in the hands of others.

No matter from any perspective, there is nothing wrong with being kind to others. However, kindness also needs to be divided into objects. Be kind to good people, and you will gain kindness; be kind to bad people, and you will gain danger. Therefore, don't spread your love and kindness everywhere. It is stupid to be kind to others regardless of the target.

"People with good intentions have bad luck." This idea and statement itself is biased and cannot withstand scrutiny.

"Kindness" and "fate" are two different things and cannot be confused.

Kindness is a person's moral quality and innate cultivation; while destiny is determined by a person's living environment, the degree of his own efforts, and his hidden thoughts. To be objective, at certain times, God has already arranged whether a person's fate will be smooth or not.

If you think that people with good intentions have bad luck, would people who feel this way say that people with good luck have bad luck? Have they become sinister and vicious people?

According to this: kind-hearted people have a bad fate, while vicious people have a good fate. From this, it can be inferred that in order to have a good fate, people all become cold-blooded and cruel. , can this continue to develop?

In order to overturn this statement, I will give an example to demonstrate:

Aunt Wang is a kind-hearted person. She has been praised by the elderly for her kindness since she was a child. For example, she would go to the corner of the field to collect hogweed. If she found that other people's corn seedlings had been knocked down by the strong wind, she would bend down to help each corn seedling up.

Also, no one taught her that when she was a child, Aunt Wang would also fetch water for the lonely old people in the village. This behavior continued until the day she got married.

Aunt Wang, who moved to another place after her marriage, was always present in every big and small event in the village. What's more, whether a person is kind or not can be judged from the details.

One year, a man who came from far away to exchange jars for grain was passing by the door of Aunt Wang's house. At that time, Aunt Wang's house was not short of jars, water tanks and other objects. She saw that the man who carried the jar was sweating profusely and shambling, so Aunt Wang asked the man who carried the jar to put down his burden.

Before the two parties could bargain, Aunt Wang arranged for the person who picked the jar to sit down and brought him a bowl of tea. At this time, Aunt Wang signaled her husband to smoke dry cigarettes for the person who picked up the jar. While her husband was chatting with the person who picked up the jar, Aunt Wang cooked the rice again. The person who picked the jar had eaten and drank at Aunt Wang's house, and Aunt Wang only mentioned the jar.

But what was unexpected was that when the person who picked up the jar left, Aunt Wang did not remove the jar, but gave the person who picked up the jar 10 jins of corn and 5 jins of rice for free.

In the eyes of people nearby, Aunt Wang is a kind-hearted person. But until now, no one said that Aunt Wang's fate was bad!

First, her family is harmonious; second, her children are filial and mature; third, she has a good mentality, good health, and is respected by the locals. Especially one year there was a heavy rainstorm. Before the house where Aunt Wang lived was washed away by a mudslide, it was the snake she had rescued that brought Aunt Wang and her family out of despair.

From this point of view, it is false to say that people with good intentions have a bad fate. It has no scientific basis and will mislead people to "abandon good and follow evil". For the sake of his own good destiny, he treats people and things with indifference, and is cruel and cruel.

Therefore, the world is inseparable from truth, goodness, and beauty; the fate of false, ugly, and evil people is extremely bad. I will not give examples one by one here. Therefore, only when everyone has a kind heart can we support a blue sky!

Some people say that people with a kind heart will encounter difficulties at every step. He also said that good people are rewarded. He also said that good deeds will be rewarded with good deeds, and evil deeds will be rewarded with evil deeds. There are many different kinds of evil, with different endings. But it still feels like there is no good retribution for good people.

Good people are often taken advantage of by evil people, and for a while, they encounter storms. During the Cultural Revolution, how many people confused right and wrong, violated their conscience, made false accusations and slanders, and finally died unjustly. If you can't wait for Zhaoxue, you can't wait for good retribution. I sincerely believe that good deeds will be rewarded with good deeds.

There are also people who are struggling to find the answer to the question that good people do not live long. Later, a layman had a saying: The general idea is that person A had killed someone in a previous life, and God punished him to make up for his mistakes in this world. It happened that person A saved a child who fell into the water, and person A completed the atonement halfway. End punishment. So in the eyes of ordinary people in the world, Ren A, a good man, died at a young age. This is just a family statement.

In other words, people focus on individual cases and think that it often happens that good people are not rewarded. In fact, there are still many good people with great longevity and great virtues everywhere, but we have ignored their huge contributions because they are too low-key. For example: famous expert, Zhong Nanshan.

A kind-hearted person has a bad fate? There is such a saying, and there are also such people in reality. This may be due to ideological understanding, ideological concepts, moral character, etc. The opinions, thoughts, styles of life, etc. are different, so the evaluation, comments and fairness are The argument is different. People should still be kind-hearted. Being kind to others is the tradition and style of the Chinese nation. But good people have bad luck. Our country has proved it over the years, and I have also proved it myself. I am over sixty and have always been To be kind and to be a good person, it can be said that I have served the people heart and soul over the years. As long as I can do it, wholeheartedly, and do not leave any way for myself, and be a sincere person, it can be said that the standard of a party member is, I have done everything I can to serve my boss and my boss, but God is not fair. I am really sad. I don’t know how to describe my fate. I cry to the sky without tears and scream to the earth. What should I do? But I have confidence that I will be fine. Everyone will be fine this way. Work hard and hope for good luck tomorrow.

The hearts of kind-hearted people are relatively weak, and they fully accept criticism and accusations from others.

Good people sometimes use tricks to harass others, and kind people can only endure the humiliation. This kind of kindness makes him feel very sad, and he will choose to endure the humiliation and bear the burden. Not sad, not happy, not angry, burying the pain in my heart.

Destiny changes as things develop. A good person can only regard kindness as virtue and endure humiliation and bear heavy burdens. This spirit is worth learning. The so-called bad fate changes according to the environment and the development of things. Caused by too many good deeds. There are also mistakes that occur due to doing good deeds, which change the perception of oneself and others. People who do good deeds always feel that their fate is bad, and they also have their own shortcomings and mistakes. This is the rule for everyone. He is also a mortal, and he also makes his own mistakes, which leads to his bad fate.

This is quite normal. Blindly doing good will make people realize their mistakes, and the road is very tortuous. The so-called "good people are bullied, and good horses are ridden" is wrong. But he can stand his own test. Self-search for your own shortcomings and perceptions. Destiny comes step by step. Often turn one's destiny into Taoism. I would rather suffer a loss myself than let others suffer a loss. Therefore, good people have a bad fate.

There is a kind of person who is kind-hearted but stupid. He is constantly being asked for, but there are greedy people around him, and he is eventually sucked dry. Therefore, kindness also requires wisdom, to help the people who should be helped, and to stay away from dependent vampires. In rural areas, girls are often asked for unlimited favors by the men in their families.