Since ancient times, parents have urged their children to get married, and the metropolis has moved out of this line, leaving their children speechless. However, with the development of the times and the change of ideas, a group has emerged in society-double income without children, that is, some people insist on not having children although they choose to get married and start a family. Although having children is the premise of the development of human society, it has become a normal social phenomenon that everyone does not have children according to his own situation.
However, based on the existence of traditional ideas, especially for celebrities, it will still cause heated discussion. For example, talented musician Li Jian is a staunch Dink family. He said in an interview why he didn't want to have children, but netizens didn't pay the bill and thought he was too selfish.
Li Jian is a clean stream in your circle. He graduated from Tsinghua University majoring in electronic engineering. But because of his love for music, he finally followed his heart and chose what he liked. His wife Meng Xiaobei is a doctor of sociology in Tsinghua University. She loves life and is full of interest. She is good at piano and painting, loves cooking and tea art, and is a very attractive woman. The two are childhood friends, and they are immortal couples in everyone's eyes after marriage. However, after years of marriage, they have never had children.
Talking about the reasons why he and his wife chose Dink, Li Jian said that there was no need to continue their genes, which was no big deal. He said that if you have children, you will inevitably spend a lot of energy, so that two people don't have enough time to do what they like and realize their life value.
When Li Jian's words came out, it triggered a heated discussion among netizens. Some netizens even said that if everyone thinks like Li Jian, then mankind will be on the verge of extinction, which is selfish.
Of course, most people get married and have children, and human beings will not fall into crisis because of their personal choice of Dink. Whether to have children or not is a matter of personal freedom. Whether the gene is good or not, others have no right to interfere. Everyone has the right to choose his own life, as long as he lives happily and does not affect others.
You often see some people in your life. Because everyone around him is married, he will be anxious to find someone to marry, but the result may be that he is in trouble because he doesn't know each other. The emotional foundation is still not solid, but look at other people's children and you have them yourself. As everyone knows, life after having children is more contradictory. But he doesn't care, and even imitates others to have a second child and wants two children.
Obviously living a chicken feather, but ignoring the reality in front of you. When asked why he did this, he replied blankly, "Isn't that what everyone else does?"
Before, a 29-year-old mother jumped from the 24th floor with her two children, which ended her life and put her children on the road of no return. After investigation, this suicidal mother became a housewife after getting married and getting pregnant. Mother-in-law disliked her for not making money and labeled her lazy, so she had no position at home.
The relationship between husband and wife is not harmonious, and her husband still violently beats his neck and slaps his mouth from time to time, and even once broke her glasses. If it were not really impossible, the young mother would not lead her child into a dead end. However, behind people's indignation, this family conflict must not happen overnight. However, under such circumstances, who gave the woman such great courage to have a second child? I gave two children life, but I personally put out their hope of life. How naive children are, and where are the responsibilities of parents?
It's never easy to have a baby. If you are not ready to be a parent, try not to make hasty choices. Now that you are parents, you should firmly assume this responsibility and obligation that belongs to you, instead of letting it grow like weeds and let it die. If you are not fully prepared psychologically from the beginning, you should still think twice before you act.
Li Jian chose Dink not to have children. He believes that he and his wife have no energy to spend on their children, and they don't have to deliberately create the next generation in order to continue themselves. This is also a responsible attitude. Although in the eyes of netizens, continuity is the most basic meaning of human beings, for ordinary people, carrying on the family line is not only a continuation of a family, but also a contribution to mankind.
But in fact, people who have really been parents have experienced the hardships of raising children, and will not easily persuade others to have children, nor will they easily persuade others to dink. After all, raising children has the advantages of raising children, and there will be a lot of fun and gains that you may not expect. Of course, if you want something, you have to pay the price.
However, if you don't have children, will you regret your function when your mind changes one day and you want to have children again? It's quite possible. When Kang Hui, the host of CCTV, was young, he agreed with his lover not to have children because of his busy work, and devoted himself to his career. This decision did not affect the feelings of their husband and wife, but deeply hurt their parents.
Kang Hui once wrote a eulogy for his mother, saying, "For more than ten years, my mother talked less and less about wanting to have grandchildren, as if unwilling, but helpless, so she accepted the fact that I chose Dink. But if I can do it again, I think I will definitely fulfill her wish early. "
He regretted that his original decision was too decisive, and even wrote in his autobiography "Average Score": "If I went back 20 years ago, I would choose to have children", expressing my yearning for having children. But time will not go back, and there is no regret medicine to sell. It can only be Kang Hui's lifelong regret.
Choosing Dink is indeed a deviant thing in the eyes of the older generation, but people who choose Dink also have their own reasons.
Some people are under financial pressure, others are due to physical reasons, but more people can't overcome their fears as parents. Raising children is not that simple, unlike raising cats and dogs, it is enough to provide them with full love.
Children will grow up, have their own ideas, and may encounter various problems. Raising children is not only an economic reason, but also a mental torture. I remember chatting with a treasure mother, who said, "I have never felt so failed." She graduated from high flyers in 1985, but her children were rebellious and could not make sense. I really feel at a loss.
Singer Pu Shu once said frankly, "I'm not sure to educate my child into a person with a sound personality. There is no way to watch him eat junk food and watch junk TV dramas. " This is actually the reason why many people finally dink.
Some people think that the value of life can only be realized by getting married and having children, and children and grandchildren represent a person's real success. Some people think that it is not in vain to pursue your career and maximize your personal value all your life.
Different choices lead to different results. However, no matter which lifestyle you choose, you will eventually have an ending that you won't regret. Otherwise, be an ordinary person, experience the ups and downs of the world, and live an ordinary life like all beings.