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In response to the 29th "World Leisure Sports Conference" in Qingdao, I was dragged by my friends to participate in the "Mini Marathon" on the weekend.

This is my first time to participate in such an event. At first, I had the mentality that I would not be able to run and walk down. But when I stood on the track, my mentality of wanting to win did not let me down. Dragging your friend forward.

My friend laughed at me for being too nervous. He said: "Marathon is not a 100-meter race. It doesn't care about the few seconds before the start, let alone the front and back of the starting line. It cares about perseverance and persistence and the distribution of strength throughout the entire process."

I looked at the people competing around me. There were old people, children, men, women, fat people, thin people, and some people even had oil paint on their faces. Everyone looked at them. Set out towards the same goal, enjoy the scenery along the way, and enjoy the fun brought by sports. Compared to the entire race, the starting line is really insignificant.

I suddenly remembered the famous saying popular in the education circle: "Don't let your children lose at the starting line." It's really ridiculous now. Life is not a 100-meter dash, but a marathon. Compared with In terms of the whole life, what is that starting line? It’s still growing in the back!

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The famous Taiwanese writer Lin Qingxuan once said: "It doesn't matter if you lose at the starting line, but what matters is whether the child keeps running." And he himself is a person who keeps running.

Lin Qingxuan revealed that he was not good at studying when he was a child and could not get 60 points in the exam. Finally, I passed 60 points in the exam one year. I was so happy that I took it home to show to my father. My father happily said: "I have been looking for a successor for so many years, and now I finally found it!" He was frightened. The third generation of his family is Farmer, my father wants him to be a farmer! He did not want to be a farmer and studied seriously from then on.

I finally got into high school and was about to take the college entrance examination. As a result, I failed to pass the exam for two years. In the third year, I finally got into college with a score of 0 or 5 points higher than the admission limit.

According to our traditional concepts, Lin Qingxuan was indeed not considered the winner in life during the exam. But his determination to be a writer has never stopped since he was in third grade. He started writing 500 words a day in elementary school, 1,000 words in middle school, and 2,000 words in high school. He persisted all the way and won all the literary awards in Taiwan: the National Literary Award before the age of 30. , Sun Yat-sen Literary Award, Golden Tripod Award, Times Literary Award... until he stopped participating, he was known as an award-winning professional. He has been named one of Taiwan's top ten best-selling authors for ten consecutive years. His works have been selected into Chinese textbooks for primary and secondary schools many times, and he is known as one of the "Eight Great Contemporary Prose Writers".

Lin Qingxuan is a runner who starts late and runs slowly, but he is tenacious and able to persevere, and finally wins a medal in the marathon of life.

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In fact, someone who has a similar experience to Lin Qingxuan is the well-known father Ma Yun. Jack Ma failed the college entrance examination for the first time, scoring only 1 point in mathematics. In the second college entrance examination, I failed again and my math score improved to 19. In the third college entrance examination, I still failed, 5 points shy of the undergraduate score. Because of my excellent English scores, I was admitted to the Foreign Languages ??Department of Hangzhou Normal University to study. It is such a person who failed the college entrance examination three times, was not good-looking and was still messing around, but in the end he built an Internet business empire and became an idol sought after by everyone.

In fact, everyone knows that the secret of Jack Ma’s success lies in his persistence and enterprising spirit. You see, does Jack Ma’s success have a lot to do with the starting line?

You can find that many successful people around you did not start from a high starting point. On the contrary, there are many people who win at the starting line but lose on the track.

Some time ago, news broke about a master’s degree from a famous school eating his old age. Isn’t this a living example? The first half of my life was full of joy, and I sang loudly while reading. But the second half of my life is extremely miserable. I stay at home playing games and eating away at my old age while holding the title of a master's degree from a prestigious school!

I went to junior high school in a school for children of government agencies. Most of my classmates were children from families in government agencies and institutions. Their family conditions were relatively good. After graduation, through their parents' arrangements, they entered the schools that everyone envied. A good place to work. Most of my classmates in high school are children from rural areas. They have no background or connections. Many of them have lived in rural areas all their lives and did not go to the city for the first time until they were in high school. But with their own efforts, most of them got into college and went to work all over the country after graduation.

Decades have passed, but my classmates who entered the public institutions early are still living the same life for decades. The days of drought and floods are like boiling frogs in warm water, making everyone suffer in the pancake pot of life. . However, my high school classmates are prospering and their lives have begun to turn around. Some of them have entered national ministries and commissions, and some are already executives and chairman of large companies.

So, the starting line does not determine whether a person can succeed, but what matters about success is whether a person keeps running.

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As parents and teachers, how can we keep our children running and be good cheerleaders and cheerleaders on the track of their lives?

First of all, we must be a person who can awaken the inner seeds of children.

Children become enlightened sooner or later, and their personalities have their own characteristics. We cannot evaluate children according to one standard. Can you say that poplar trees are timber but cypress trees are not timber? Can you say that plum blossoms are beautiful but chrysanthemums are not? Every child has their own strengths and weaknesses, and our parents should be good at discovering their children's strengths and helping them grow into talents.

The famous American swimmer Michael Phelps had always had poor academic performance when he was a child. Shortly after his parents divorced, he was found to have attention deficit syndrome with ADHD. But her mother used her strengths to avoid weaknesses and used exercise to treat his ADHD. As a result, under the strict training of coach Bowman, Phelps became the athlete with the most gold medals in the Olympic Games. He maintained the 100-meter butterfly, 200-meter butterfly, 400-meter The medley record has never been broken.

If Phelps did not have the support of his mother and coach to teach him according to his aptitude, his life might be a bad hand, and the world would be missing a "flying fish".

Secondly, we must teach children the ability to face setbacks

Children are very likely to encounter stumbling blocks and fall on the road of life. Some children with fragile psychology may After a setback, some children are able to get up, return to the track, and continue to compete. We parents and teachers must be the ones who help our children get up.

There is an article in the middle school textbook "Take One Step, Another Step". It tells that little Hunter was weak and timid since he was a child. Once he climbed a cliff with his friends and could not get back down. Later, his father found him and encouraged him to overcome the difficulties and his inner cowardice, and finally escaped from danger. From then on, little Hunter embarked on the path of confidence. When encountering any difficulties in life, he could take one step and then another to overcome them.

If Hunter's father climbed up the cliff and rescued little Hunter, Hunter would still choose to wait and be cowardly if something like this happened again in the future. We appreciate Hunter's father's approach. He lets his children learn their own ability to overcome difficulties, which is more important than anything else!

Finally, we must teach our children the ability to love.

In the journey of life, we cannot accompany our children all their lives, but the ability to love can allow him to gain friendship, love, and family affection. These true feelings can help him complete the game and reach the finish line.

Lin Qingxuan once said: "The world's elites are not the top students back then. Their rankings in the class are from 7th to 17th. The reason is that these children have better interpersonal relationships and can interact with the top students." You can also be friends with the last one. Children have less pressure, have easier lives, and have the best creativity."

In fact, why do these children have good interpersonal relationships? Because they have the ability to love. He who loves others loves others. When he loves others, he will also gain the love of others for him. Therefore, these children will gain good interpersonal relationships, and good interpersonal relationships are the cornerstone of success.

Children who always come first in exams often receive flowers and applause, and receive the admiration and admiration of others. Over time, they unconsciously develop a feeling of superiority and ignore many feelings that need to be cared for and maintained. Once they encounter setbacks, these children can easily fall into a situation where they are surrounded by others. They will be unable to bear it psychologically and go to extremes.

Therefore, wise parents will not ask their children to pursue perfection, because only an imperfect life is truly complete.

I hope we can all be good parents, no longer pursuing whether our children lose at the starting line, but paying more attention to their children’s understanding of life and expanding their vision of the world.

If we can all be "big in our wishes, strong in our ambitions, humble in our hearts, and gentle in our spirit", then on the track of life, our children will eventually be able to appreciate the scenery along the way, enjoy the fun of the game, have the last laugh, and become the winner. !