The so-called social eloquence refers to the language art or talent displayed in social interaction activities between people. That is the ability to express one's thoughts and wishes in accurate, appropriate and vivid spoken language. Below is a collection of taboos about good eloquence in social interactions that I have collected for you. Welcome to learn from them.

With the continuous development and development of society, communication and interaction between people are becoming more and more frequent and close. The use of eloquence in social interactions has become increasingly important. It can be said that any person with eloquence who shines with insights when speaking gives people a sense of shrewdness, wisdom, and humor, and they will inevitably become the best in social situations. So much so that eloquence has become an extremely important factor in a person's life and career success today.

Our country is an ancient civilization in the world with a long history of five thousand years. Some sages, saints, and scholars have left many famous sayings and "experiences" about the way of life, words and deeds to future generations. These include spiritual wealth related to social interaction and eloquence. In history, our country has a bright star of eloquence and orators. Pan Geng can be regarded as the first orator recorded in the history of our country. He used clever words to persuade his subjects to support his move to the capital and saved the political crisis. Su Qin in the Warring States Period relied on his eloquence to establish the seal of the Six Kingdoms; Zhuge Liang in the Three Kingdoms Period was quick-witted and fickle, and fought with Confucian scholars; Yan Zi envoyed Chu, and his name was famous in history; Xie Jin's clever pairings were passed down as good stories. In modern times, a number of eloquent giants such as Wen Yiduo, Lu Xun, Zhou Enlai, Guo Moruo, and Deng Xiaoping also emerged. Numerous facts have shown that people who are good at speaking can handle social situations with ease, get twice the result with half the effort, and can greatly enhance their personality charm.

With the rapid development of today's society, information exchange is more frequent and extensive. In practical terms, information is transmitted in only three ways: language, text, and graphics, and oral language is the most commonly used and convenient method of transmission. Therefore, it is difficult for people without eloquence to adapt to the needs of modern development. Western capitalist countries have long regarded oral expression ability as an important criterion for measuring talents. The emphasis on population in our country is also becoming more and more obvious. For example, the recruitment of civil servants in government agencies and the recruitment of personnel in many companies use oral examinations as one of the important assessment criteria. And many people believe that good oral expression is one of the necessary abilities for creative and pioneering talents.

As the saying goes, "A good word can warm you up in winter, but a bad word can hurt you in June.", "One word can make people laugh, and one word can also make people jump." In their daily work and life, people have to carry out various social communication activities, and they are inseparable from spoken language. It can be said that only people who are good at speaking can make people willing to listen and accept, and can successfully solve many problems, large and small, in reality.

1. Don’t just focus on one person and neglect others.

When talking to multiple people, don’t just focus on one person and neglect others. It is best to use a topic to arouse everyone's interest and let everyone express their opinions.

2. Don’t interrupt other people’s conversations casually

When others are speaking, the topic is suddenly interrupted, which will make the other party feel dissatisfied or suspicious. They think you are ignorant of current affairs, have low standards and have little knowledge; or they think you hate and are disgusted with such topics; or they think you are disrespectful and uncultivated. 10. Don’t talk about topics that the other person doesn’t understand.

3. Don’t use a scolding tone to talk about others.

The relationship between friends and colleagues is equal. They cannot be self-righteous, condescending, or arrogant. Domineering scolding will hurt the other person's self-esteem, and this habit will make you a loner. Human beings have a sexual nature: no one likes to accept orders and reprimands from others. Never be self-righteous, let others have their own face.

4. Don’t talk about your proud things when your friends are in pain and helplessness.

On your proud days, don’t forget your frustrations. ?If a friend reveals his loss and pain to you and confides his/her secrets to you, the original intention is to gain sympathy and comfort. If you unintentionally compare your own complacency with your friend's misfortune and frustration, it will inadvertently stimulate the other person's self-esteem, and he may Thinking that you are laughing at his incompetence is a misunderstanding that is difficult to eliminate, so be careful when speaking.

5. Don’t show off yourself too much

People who boast, talk big, and brag are often the outsiders who do it, and their purpose is just to arouse everyone’s disapproval of them. Pay attention to satisfy your own vanity. The most important thing about getting along with friends and colleagues is trustworthiness. If you brag about things that you cannot do, you will have a flashy impression. If you show off yourself and show that you are talented and knowledgeable, the other party will be embarrassed and this is not conducive to communication.

6. Don’t make impolite actions when talking.

In order to respect the other party’s conversation, the first thing to do is to maintain a dignified conversation posture. Shaking your legs, picking your nose, and yawning are all impolite behaviors. In particular, don't stare at other people's eyes all the time, otherwise the other person will feel embarrassed and uneasy; don't look down from above, otherwise it will give people a feeling of superiority; don't look around or look around, otherwise the other person will feel that you are absent-minded. Or have other plans.

7. Don’t touch privacy at will

Everyone has privacy deep in his heart and a territory that he does not want to be invaded. Modern people attach great importance to the right to privacy. It is your honor to have a friend or colleague tell you their innermost secrets out of trust. But if you can't keep a secret. It will make them sad and even resentful. Privacy is the most sensitive, irritating, and stinging corner of the human heart. Such topics should be avoided whether in person or behind the scenes.

8. Don’t complain endlessly and tell others about your misfortunes.

If you have troubles, resentments, pain, and grievances in your heart, you need to find someone to talk to, but you can’t just talk to others casually. Confide in front of familiar people. First, the other party may not be very interested; second, they do not understand your actual situation, and it is difficult to have sympathy; third, they may misunderstand that you have problems and shortcomings, which is why you have so many troubles. In this way, your venting will easily cause the other party to get bored. Therefore, you must stay mentally calm, control yourself, and strive to have practical meaning in your conversations with anyone.

9. When a dispute arises, do not push the other party to the edge.

When you are about to fall into a conflicting vortex, the best way is to let it go and not argue. Tit-for-tat and aggressive arguments can only defeat people but cannot convince people. People who are forced to say nothing by your eloquence will often be full of complaints and complaints. Don't expect to change the other party's existing thoughts and prejudices just by having a verbal argument. If you are aggressive and insist on arguing until the last sentence, you can get the self-satisfaction of winning the performance, but it is not likely to make the other party like you. Therefore, during the conversation, you must adhere to the principle of "seeking common ground while reserving differences" and do not put your own opinions into perspective. impose on others.