Perhaps, attacking from behind is because you are angry and jealous. However, in Internet cafes, it's always not aboveboard. Why don't you have an opinion?
So, I think it's worthy of respect for westerners to fight face to face for one thing.
Reading and seeing many "villains" The meaning is all from the ancients, but I just used today's words to understand it. I am afraid that the little people around me will see it and call on the door to find trouble. For my personal safety, please keep it a secret and destroy it immediately after reading it. Cut!
the origin of villain appellation
the name of villain has a long history. As early as the Western Zhou Dynasty, the ruler had this title for the ruled. In the Spring and Autumn Period, the ruling class was called a "gentleman" and the labor producers of the ruled were called "villains". After the end of the Spring and Autumn Period, gentlemen and villains gradually became special appellations for virtuous and immoral people. For example, "Guanzi Herdsmen" said: "Those who believe in villains lose their scholars." "Xunzi's exhortation to learn" also said: "The learning of villains is also in the ear. Out of mouth. " There is a new meaning: even those who behave improperly or have little knowledge are also different kinds of villains. However, there are other uses: in ancient times, the humble title to oneself, and the younger generation can call itself a villain to show its modesty, respect and courtesy. But it's not the latter.
I'd rather not study all the year round
I can't get close to a villain every day
The ancients were very wary of villains, and even said "I'd rather not study all the year round than get close to a villain every day". Explain how much the ancients hated villains.
"Don't study all the year round" may be exaggerated, but "Don't get close to a villain once a day" is indeed a wise saying. You're afraid you can't hide. How dare you approach him?
as the ancients said, living with kindness is like entering the room of Zhilan, but not smelling its fragrance for a long time; If you are not good at living, it is like entering the abalone shop, and you will not smell it for a long time. Why? The so-called near Zhu Zhechi, near the ink is black, near the sage is bright, near the good is virtuous, near the fool is dark, near the thief is a thief, and the near villain has become a villain over time.
small people enter the room, and the light ones are noisy, making trouble, and the heavy ones are separated, and the family is ruined. Is it that serious? You can look at history if you don't believe it. During the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period, some countries trusted villains and even the country perished, which was recorded in history books. If you don't take the initiative to approach the villain, the villain will try his best to approach you, befriend you, and fill you with ecstasy soup. Once you get into the buckle, it's easy to get on the thief boat, but difficult to get off the thief boat, and humiliate your ancestors for no reason. The energy of the villain can be seen from this.
I'd rather offend a gentleman
not a villain
A villain bears a grudge, which is extremely vengeful, and is deeply buried in his heart, even deep into his bone marrow, and he never forgets for a moment. When the opportunity comes, he will jump out immediately and pay back. This conclusion can be found in novels, stories and reports that I have seen, heard and read. Even if you are kind to the villain, the villain thinks you should be reasonable and natural. The villain has a big appetite, and you don't see his good points at all, let alone take them to heart. It is inevitable to forget it later. If you don't meet the requirements of the villain at all, revenge will fall on you at some point.
an upright man is open and poised, you can refuse his request. He smiled and understood that you were in trouble. A gentleman has shortcomings. He can't thank you enough for pointing them out. When you make friends with a gentleman, you can show your heart frankly and don't have to be wary. Never treat a villain. Although you don't have to surround yourself like you built the Great Wall, and you don't have to wrap yourself in ancient armor, you must have a good way to protect yourself and try not to let villains get close to you.
If there is no way to deal with villains, you must remember: "Be lenient with villains and be strict with them." Talk less and listen more, make promises less easily, praise or criticize others less easily, don't criticize the shortcomings of villains, don't associate with villains if there is nothing, especially don't visit small homes, and try not to let villains walk around their own homes. You must do what you can, decline what you can't, and don't leave a specious message. Respect the villain with courtesy, stay at a respectful distance from him, don't provoke him, and don't joke with the villain. It should be noted that the villain will turn his face and deny people, and he will be annoyed with the pot and take the joke as true, which will make you more than you can bear.
don't make enemies with villains
villains have their enemies
It's not worth making enemies with villains. "The villain is far away, but he can't be an enemy." Knowing who the villain is, you deliberately alienate him, obviously avoid him, and there is a disdainful tone in your speech, which is a bit excessive. If you don't like the actions of villains, you want to "speak out", you want to "fight injustice", and you want to be a model for upholding justice. This is undoubtedly against the villain, taking the blame directly on himself. Originally, the villain still has some fears about everyone as a group, and he dare not openly do the right thing with a group. This is good, and the villain finally found an opponent who can vent his personal anger.
There has been a saying since ancient times: "The wicked have their own grinding." Naturally, the villain also has a villain to cure him, but it takes a process. So, you don't have to stand up and fight the villain. Things in the world are strange, and even the most powerful things have something to cure them. Just like bittern ordering tofu, a worm sucks a toad, everything has its vanquisher. Crops are afraid of frost, and frost and snow are afraid of the sun. Of course, there are people who are afraid of villains, otherwise, wouldn't the world be in a mess? The villain is in power, and the gentleman has good fruit to eat?
How to identify a villain
After a long talk, what kind of person is a villain? How to identify? It's hard to say. There is no writing on the little man's head, and he can't ask "Hey, man, are you a little man?" Still not slapping you? However, it doesn't matter. The ancients pointed out a few things, and it is enough to master them well:
● Everything goes my way, flattery is loud, ecstasy is tight, and the villain is anxious.
● Yang obeys yin and disobeys, one thing to face, and then another. What if you talk to your face and go your own way behind your back, not a villain?
● I am extremely suspicious. I always suspect that others have ulterior secrets. I always feel that others are hiding something from me. I always feel that I am wronged. I always feel that big guys are bullying me. In short, doubt everything and trust no one.
● A dog fights against a man's strength, smiling at the last one, and holding a chicken feather as an arrow at the next one as if someone owed him tens of thousands of dollars. What a villain!
● He is good at whispering to leaders, telling Zhang San Li Si and Li Si Wang Wu, and in turn being a good person and a villain.
● The villain is shameless. Grab when you see honor, hide when you see difficulties. If there is a problem, it must be someone else's; You don't have to ask about your achievements. He must be the first to confess.
● I want to get a promotion, so I climb up on other people's heads at all costs, and even dye my own ceiling with other people's blood.
● The villain lies, and the lie is even more true than the truth, which makes Zhang Er and Monk feel puzzled. Be good at playing numbers games and making superficial articles. Even the superiors are confused, so what about the subordinates?
● I'm talented, but I don't need to be in the right place. In the words of ordinary people, it's not what I thought. A gentleman thinks about things, but a villain thinks about people. There must be many mistakes made by the officers, and it is my pleasure to say incantations and make sarcastic remarks without the officers.
● The villain is distorted, dark and full of jealousy. I can't see that others are better than myself. If others are good, they will be angry. I suspect that others' promotion is a gift, and others' new house is bought with bribes. If others are worse than themselves, they will do their best to laugh at them.
the villain is very vindictive. I have said it before, so I won't repeat it.
it may be difficult to recognize a villain for a while, and you may even recognize him as a friend. However, the villain can deceive you for a while, but it is impossible to deceive you for a year; Even if you haven't seen it for a year, can he deceive you for a lifetime?
The further development of villains is bad people, and there are countless villains in history. Nearby, Kang Sheng, a gifted scholar, vividly described the process of turning villains into bad people. Fortunately, the villain is a minority after all, but its destructive power cannot be underestimated. A grain of mouse excrement spoils a pot of broth. Moreover, the madness of villains can turn a country, a region and a unit into a malodorous mess, without suppressing evil. What else can we talk about?
How to guard against villains
As the ancients said, villains are also born in heaven and earth, and they should be completely destroyed, but they should be self-disciplined. In particular, it is necessary to be humble and make it self-balanced. When it comes to pity and excitement, it touches many evils. It should be noted that there is no such thing as a bad flatterer, so flattery is not poor.
to put it bluntly, you have to be right. Being upright, being upright, thinking upright and upright, there is no place for villains. The upper beam is upright, the lower beam is upright, and the purlins and rafters are all in their places, nailing is nailing, riveting is riveting, and each is busy, and there is no leisure to make irresponsible remarks. There is no seam in the egg that can't attract flies with maggots. A gentleman is upright, and a villain has no market for tricks. He will either become a gentleman or pack up and leave.