In the real world, not everyone can communicate openly with you. Some people are good at taking part in accidental amusement. If you can't see through it, it's easy to fall into a vicious circle of "the more you pay, the more disappointed you are" and make yourself a fool in the eyes of others.
If you are an honest person with no mind's eye and straightforward personality, you are defenseless against anyone in social life, and it is easy to be used by people with ulterior motives and get into trouble.
Shakespeare once said, "An honest man is a fool. Although he meant well, he still suffered. "
This kind of "fool" is kind in nature. They treat people sincerely, preferring to suffer for themselves rather than disappoint others. If they meet people who treat each other sincerely, it is easy for them to establish deep friendship.
However, everyone will meet all kinds of people in his life. We can't hope that all the people we meet are good people. If you don't want to be treated like a fool by others, just remember these three sentences.
Kindness is a noble soul.
Lu Ling has a famous saying: "Good behavior has one advantage, that is, it makes people's souls noble and enables people to do better behavior."
I once saw an event on the Internet. A group of kind people couldn't bear the suffering of stray cats, so they set up shelters for stray cats and provided them with shelter from the wind and rain as far as they could.
This is a kind thing, but someone has kidnapped a kind person morally and sent a cat that he doesn't want to feed to a shelter, which means that he can arrange a cat for free and want a good reputation, as if he were a caring person.
These people have never considered the cost of owning a cat. Once rejected by the people in the shelter, they will stand on the moral high ground and criticize them for putting on a show and showing no love.
In this case, do you still insist on your kindness? In the face of extraordinary people and things, only by extraordinary means can we defend our rights and dignity.
Kindness without a bottom line will only make others think that you are stupid and easy to bully.
Losing is a blessing, which is something we are familiar with. Some people simply understand that suffering is their own blessing. The more you suffer now, the happier you will be in the future. Some people regard it as a sharp weapon of moral kidnapping, which naturally makes others suffer and seek personal gain for themselves.
You should know that "losing money" is a clever art. A person who only knows how to lose money will not improve his happiness in life, but will become a "tool person" in the eyes of others and ask for you endlessly.
Liu Meng is a newcomer to the workplace. She is a stranger to the company's business. She has no chance to show her ability, and it is difficult to get in touch with the core things.
On one occasion, the senior pushed her job to Liu Meng, and she took over the job without saying anything. As time went on, more and more colleagues asked her to help with her work.
Compared with the newcomers who joined in the same period, Liu Meng's life is very hard. He stays up late and works overtime every day, and the hard work is not rewarded materially.
In the eyes of colleagues around him, Liu Meng is an honest man, who only knows that he is suffering, and he has no complaints when he listens and does it.
Until one day, Liu Meng declined the request of her predecessors to help share the work. Many people think that she is working hard, but in fact, she is already familiar with the company's business and will be promoted and raised in the short term.
An honest man who is good at losing money knows how to improve his personal ability and accumulate experience to complete the transformation.
Honest people who do not think deeply suffer in order not to be isolated by others. Maybe he has no complaints in his heart in the short term, but he suffers losses day after day, and he has paid time and energy for no reason, but he has not been rewarded, which will inevitably affect the happiness of life.
So you can suffer, but you must have a bottom line, and don't let yourself become a tool used by others.
Zhou Zeng, a famous writer, said: "Excellence and happiness are the most desirable things in life, and both of them are inseparable from wisdom." The so-called wisdom is to understand the fundamental truth of life. "
A wise man may be simple-minded, but he will never be stupid again and again, because he knows what he really wants and will not be easily confused by appearances.
Some people say that a woman in love has zero IQ.
In a relationship, some women long for true love, but they can't tell whether a man is sincere or not. Even after they find out that a man has made a mistake in his feelings, they first reflect on themselves and forgive him again and again.
Just like Qiao Simei in the domestic TV series "Qiao's Children", she knew that men were romantic and affectionate before marriage. After marriage, she found that men are constantly having an affair with other members of the opposite sex, and their nature cannot be changed. She still chooses to believe again and again.
A person who punishes himself with other people's mistakes will only get farther and farther away from the road to happiness. Whether it is love or life, it is better to stop loss in time than to be stupid again and again.
Being a kind and honest person, with a little more wisdom and a little more bottom line, can double happiness.
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