Marriage is never a compromise. A good marriage is the result of the concerted efforts of both parties. In today's society, there is no compromise marriage, only a happy marriage. Therefore, I don't think it is a compromise marriage in today's society.

A person's fate is in his own hands. At present, most marriages are free to fall in love and get married. No one will impose people he doesn't like on you. Even if someone introduces someone, there are matchmakers. Compromise is just a ritual kidnapping in the old society. In ancient times, the young lady of a big family clearly knew that she and the person she liked, but her parents didn't agree, so she had to find a suitable in-law. Will such a marriage be happy? If she was not careful, she would be swept out of the house.

Stories like this abound. In the Water Margin, Pan Jinlian, fighting as beautiful as flowers and jade, just married a short man, Wu Da. Is there any emotion in this marriage? Pan Jinlian's father married his daughter to a fact that he didn't want to accept from the bottom of his heart, no matter from which side, it was wronged.

A good marriage is never a compromise. It is also fascinating and wronged. What kind of good marriage is this? Whose good marriage is it? In the final analysis, for some people, a marriage that never wronged themselves but wronged others is a good marriage.

the captain has three points to say about marriage: first, a good marriage should be suitable for each other, not right or wrong.

There are different abilities, different contributions and different positions, but we should recognize each other's contributions. As far as families are concerned, their roles are different, but their personal dignity should be matched appropriately. Those who earn more money, pay more, have higher abilities and have higher positions have no right to discriminate against the other party at home. Second, a good marriage has a measure of tolerance.

To understand tolerance is not to seek perfection through grievances, but to give support to each other on the basis of understanding, so as to maximize the appreciation of both sides' interests. Compromise is only to satisfy the other party, but the overall interests have not increased, but have been impaired. Tolerance is a tool to make the relationship between the two sides harmonious and a kind of wisdom. Third, a good marriage has principles and a bottom line.

this is the biggest difference between tolerance and connivance. Tolerance has principles and a bottom line, but connivance does not.

having a principle and a bottom line is to ensure that you are not wronged or lose your dignity. And connivance, it is the sacrifice of self-sacrifice, and finally will only make the other party worse, and finally the marriage will break down. Therefore, the captain generally agrees with this sentence, and hopes that more relatives can have a suitable, happy, principled and bottom-line marriage that understands tolerance and wins.

I quite agree with this sentence. 1

Some people regard compromise as love and tolerance. In real marriage, two people are equal, and their feelings are mutual giving and understanding, and they give in to each other unconditionally and unconditionally. If they live like this all their lives, they will be hurt the most. Such a marriage is a failure.

If the love in marriage is given unilaterally, if you can't wait for the person who loves you to the same degree, you will feel humble, maybe so humble that it is worthless in the eyes of the other party. This kind of feeling is not like love, but like doting, and this marriage will not last long. 2

There is such a young couple around. When they are in love, the girl is infatuated with the boy's feisty appearance, and tells the silly story that he will not marry in this life.

The boy is a punk. He has no job and no skills. He idles around all day. He can be satisfied by saying a little courtship to the girl. He not only lives with him, but also takes his salary for him to eat, drink and have fun.

Married, during pregnancy, the boy's nature was exposed. Instead of coming back to accompany his wife, he blamed her for not going out to work and often staying out at night. In fact, there was someone outside for a long time, but the girl still didn't believe it.

When the girl's parents caught her in the hotel, the girl was still waiting for him to change his mind. It was considered that the boy had some consciousness and told the girl that he had never liked her, just because she was gullible, and he had never seen such a stupid person. 3

When you are sincere to him, your compromise is worthless in his eyes, but it becomes the reason why he hates you. Conclusion

Love is mutual love, not unilateral sacrifice. If you can't wait for almost the same return, most of them don't love you so much. Break up early so as not to regret it after marriage.

If you are not dispensable, how can he be hot and cold?

He doesn't like you, but he just happens to meet you, so he just stays away like a dog. Don't bother him for the rest of his life from now on. Don't expect him to be with you. He is no longer worth liking. It's false to dare to love and hate. It's true to forget that it's cool to go on alone. Don't wronged yourself any more. Forget it. It's always right to let go of someone who makes you sad.

You just showed up when he was bored, and he gave you the illusion that he liked you. However, when you really got stuck, he would walk away and tell you, I'm sorry, so you were unwilling. You thought you had a good chat, obviously you had feelings for each other, and you were unwilling to give up, so you stalked and chased, hoping that you could really do as you thought. You become beautiful for him, but you forget that he doesn't love you at all.

"He is not shy, he just has nothing to say to you" Yes! Very experienced. Just as "if you are not dispensable, how can he be hot and cold?" Know yourself well, don't deceive yourself! I believe tomorrow will be better. There will always be someone who loves you and can stay with you until you are old.

I don't agree

Two people entered marriage because of love, but marriage is not just about two people, there are old people and children.

If a lover is wronged, if he can release it in front of the closest person, he will not accumulate bad emotions and lead to unhealthy health; Old people have different ideas from young people, and occasionally there will be barriers. If you have to fight for each other every time, the family will lose harmony; As a new individual, children can't do everything according to our ideas, and they can only be wronged when they are hard.

So, adults just have to swallow grievances and occasionally seek perfection. After all, "everything is prosperous at home".

how many are truly equal?

hello, I'm @Nave jun, and I'm glad to answer this question. First of all, I personally agree with this sentence.

Many answers upstairs have been very detailed. I don't talk about feelings. I will talk about it from the perspective of "relationship". "compromise" in family relations

in general family relations, the "relationship" that is most prone to compromise is parents and children, not their partners. What we usually call a giant baby, Mabao, is cultivated under the background of parents' overindulgence and excessive responsibility for their children in family relations. This kind of person is a typical over-dependent personality, fragile, selfish and lacking independence and responsibility.

The cultivation of Giant Baby and Mabao is inevitable: the relationship between family of origin's parents is generally irreversible. But the relationship established by marriage is different: husband and wife are equal; There is no obligation to discipline, raise and spoil like the other parents, not to inherit this special relationship between parents and children.

The marriage that makes you compromise is bound to be a marriage under abnormal relationship. The giant baby mother will not grow up, but will drag you down even more. Everyone will make mistakes in marriage, and everyone will be tolerant and grow. Only a marriage with misplaced family relations can't, can't and can't be saved. This doesn't have much to do with feelings. The other person may not love you or care, but he will only bring you more harm after he forms an "over-dependent" and "alienated" character in family relations during his growth.

I agree that your injustice will only bring him more arrogance, which will lead to aggravation and even domestic violence.

If there are no children, then separate immediately! If you have children, then you will slowly run in! After a long time, it will get better slowly. If you are a woman, you will have time to dress yourself up and have the ability to work. If you are a man, you should learn to care about your wife and children, and go home with them more often. Because of the contradiction in life and work, love can go further because of mutual tolerance. In fact, many people's behaviors and ideas are extremely contradictory. Because they like one person very much, they especially love another, but they are afraid of spoiling each other at heart, because trusting each other can bring family happiness!

I hope the above is helpful to you. I wish you a good marriage and happiness! ! !

I've always been wronged, but I don't want to get a divorce, because I control my husband's money.