I think in the minds of many parents, children should be God-given treasures. As parents, we always love our children and always want to give them the best.

Giving birth to a child is not a simple matter. In addition to experiencing the pain of childbirth, you also have to accompany the child until he has the ability to take charge of his own life. This whole process is destined to be a mixed blessing.

When we devote time and energy to taking care of our children, we also silently hope that our children will have great achievements in the future and become a grateful person. After all, everyone is born to hope for their own efforts. Be able to give something back.

Not long ago, a video on Weibo went viral and was even reposted by People’s Daily Online.

The protagonist of the video is a 4-year-old boy from Zunyi. It turns out that he inadvertently saw the scar left on his mother’s belly and learned that her mother had such a big scar because she wanted to give birth to herself. The little boy was sitting on the sofa alone and holding back tears because he felt sorry for his mother. Even though his mother comforted him and said it no longer hurt, the little boy still couldn't help but shed tears.

Although the video is only 50 seconds long, the heart-warming feeling lingers all the time

According to the little boy’s mother, she accidentally Zhong Rang allowed the child to see the scars on her belly caused by childbirth.

At the beginning, the child curiously asked where the scar came from, and she explained: "Because you have to come out of it, so I can only make a cut to make way for you."

Who knew that the child was stunned when he heard this sentence, and then asked his mother repeatedly in distress: Does it hurt? And couldn't help but shed tears.

The mother comforted the baby with emotion: "I did it myself, and it doesn't hurt anymore."

But the boy still held back his tears and sat on the sofa looking at him with a distressed look on his face. Mother.

This mother said: Looking at the child's emotions and expressions, she felt that the pain during pregnancy was worth it.

Seeing that netizens were praising her son’s heart-warming attitude, his mother also replied with a happy face: This child is usually very good at taking care of people’s emotions and has been thinking about others since he was a child.

Dan Alander said in the book "Growing Up in Raising Children": The parent-child relationship is the most noble and most gratifying thing in the world. There is nothing on earth. Something to compare to.

As parents, we give life to our children. This is actually our own choice, but even so, we parents definitely hope that our children can remember the hard work of their parents and become a good example when they grow up. A person who knows how to be grateful.

Because knowing how to be grateful is the foundation for every child to settle down and live a successful life.

Professor Guo, a child education expert, said: "The heart of gratitude is a beautiful feeling. Without a grateful heart, children will never truly know how to honor their parents and understand how to help others."

< p> Parents are their children's first teachers, and their children's personalities are deeply influenced by their parents. Parents are primarily responsible for the success or failure of their children's education, so parents' education methods and family atmosphere are very important

Parents must think about their children To know how to be grateful, there is actually no need to deliberately emphasize how much you have given, as long as you know how to guide your children to have empathy.

To explain in more professional terms, empathy is - "putting yourself in someone else's shoes", "empathy", "immersion", "feeling of passion", "feeling", and also generally Refers to psychological transposition, comparing one's heart to one's heart. It is mainly reflected in aspects related to emotional intelligence such as emotional self-control, perspective taking, listening ability, and expression of respect.

To put it simply, empathy is the ability to have emotions. It is not simply seeing the misery of others and feeling sympathy, but being able to imitate or simulate the other person's behavior, situation, and feelings. And the ability to understand other people’s emotions is also part of emotional intelligence.

If you want your children to know how to be grateful, the cultivation of empathy is essential, which requires parents to teach by words and deeds.

There is a famous saying in Satya psychology: There is nothing wrong with the child. If it is wrong, it must be the fault of the parents.

What you are doing and how you do it will have a profound impact on your children, because parents are their children's first teachers.

Therefore, in daily life, parents should guide their children to recognize their own and each other's feelings, learn to share and care about their parents, and parents also need to look at problems from their children's perspective and first understand their children's thoughts and feelings. Feel.

As Nobel Prize winner Mo Yan said: In terms of education, to a large extent, it is the attitude of parents that determines the cognition and happiness of the next generation, rather than how high their awareness is. Knowledge level.

Only when parents provide correct education and guidance to their children can they be kind and positive to others, and can they cultivate grateful children.