The world is full of temptations, people's hearts are disturbed by the outside world, my heart is more and more anchored, and my life is becoming more and more ironic. When they chose to get married, they all made up their minds to keep going. They didn't think about decentralization, and they wouldn't think of betraying each other. How can you be sure that there are only emotional things? Sincerity is easy to lose, and suddenly our feelings fade. Once one party is not firm enough, the final outcome of a relationship will become an unknown number.
Many people will not betray even if their feelings are light, out of morality and conscience, while some people betray their families and lovers easily because they can't stand the temptation. Most people take the first step to choose cheating behavior with the idea that "the red flag at home will not fall and the colorful flags will fly outside". On the one hand, they want to enjoy fresh excitement outside, on the other hand, they don't want to be harmful to their families, which is also caused by people's inferiority.
Especially for men, this is what they really think. If someone takes care of the home front, I hope someone can give me some fresh excitement for my ordinary life. Enjoy the care of my wife, but also want to gain the knowledge of "lovers" It's just that there has never been an airtight wall in this world. Once you betray, it means that you will be found out one day. If one day an extramarital affair is discovered, can a boy break up with his lover? Depends on three points
1 Look at the state of your own marriage. Most boys choose to cheat in marriage for novelty, which is also the general psychological state of men who cheat after marriage. No matter how sweet and loving lovers are, their feelings will become shallow after being together for a long time, which is certain. Different English Some people have a bad reputation for their husband and wife life. Although they live under the same roof, they have already lived a divorced life, caring for each other and not interfering with each other.
Just for the sake of children, or for some reasons of my own, I didn't announce the divorce. In this state, they don't care about each other's lives and let each other mess around, so there won't be much emotional ups and downs in their hearts. In that case, boys will naturally not break up with their lovers, but will go their separate ways without feeling guilty.
There are also some people who don't love each other as much as they used to, but there are still some feelings between them, and boys have never thought about divorcing their wives from beginning to end. They just regard extramarital affairs as a temporary relief and their hearts are still at home. In that case, once they are discovered, they will immediately stop contacting their loved ones and go back to their families.
The old man Kan in "An Jia" is such a person. He and his wife traveled together from nothing to later, and they had a lot of money. His wife went home to take care of the whole family. Is old man Kan related to his little sister? Judging from the external conditions, does the younger sister have the upper hand and really want to talk to the old man? However, Naoto Kan never thought of giving up his family. He can spend a lot of money on his sister, but he won't give her a name. After the extramarital affair was aborted, Naoto Kan resolutely broke up with his younger sister and returned to his family.
Although Naoto Kan is a scum, he still has a conscience. He still remembers his wife and his own sufferings. He still has feelings for his wife and loves his children, and this feeling can't be broken.
It depends on whether there is true love between a man and his lover. The emotional foothold outside marriage is temporary, but there will be some changes in the process of development. Although the vast majority of marital infidelity feelings are your wishes, it is undeniable that there are some real feelings, but the real feelings here are just decorated with a little ps filter.
With my wife for a long time, we have become strangers. Looking at my wife without makeup, I have forgotten her unkempt appearance every day. At that time, she used to be beautiful. When two people get married, their interest in life gradually decreases, and the rest are dribs and drabs of daily necessities. The wife in front of me will be petty with the stall owner for one or two dollars, which is becoming more and more boring.
The longer two people stay together, the more talkative the wife will become, and the eyes looking at each other are full of defects, and they can no longer see the advantages. This is a state that all married life will have. At the same time, if there is a beautiful young girl who knows the inside story and is full of admiration for herself, it is hard for men to avoid it. In the process of coexistence, it is very likely to return to the state of youth and fall in love involuntarily.
Liu Yang in Dear Yourself, after meeting a beautiful and considerate young Wei Yayun, can't help drifting away. In addition, there is a job between two people, and I have been promoted. I can't help but drift away, dislike my wife, and feel bad about Wei Yayun. After the affair was revealed, he also helped his lover and beat his wife. In the end, he simply didn't go home and lived a small life with his lover. If a man has a real love for his lover, he will not go back to his mother's house even if he sees it, and even will immediately fight with his wife and be more blatant with his lover.
3 Look at the value of a woman. In this world, no matter what kind of relationship, in the final analysis, it still depends on the word rights and interests. Feelings will change, but rights will never change. If there is a community of interests between two people, then the connection will not be broken. Men are very realistic creatures, and they will never leave you, totally depending on your value. There is always a steelyard in a man's heart, which will be evaluated many times and make a more favorable choice for life.
If the wife is an empty person, and the lover is good for her work, then obviously her choice is expected. And if his wife is of use value to himself, and he and his lover are only fresh for a while, then he will break up with his lover immediately and make a choice that is beneficial to life.
Xu Huanshan in Thirty with Nothing is dissatisfied with Gu Jia's self-discipline and Gu Jia's strength, but I know in my heart that this family can't live without Gu Jia. He and Lin Youyou came together to satisfy his own male chauvinism, and he didn't move at all. He is very aware of the importance of Gu Jia to his life and can't leave her life at all. So after being discovered, I immediately broke off relations with Lin Youyou and replaced it with a cold food. If Gu Jia is of no value to her, I think its choice will be completely different.
The feelings outside marriage are full of calculation and consideration, so don't expect to really get each other's sincerity. Without realizing it, the other party may still swear to their love. Once it is punctured, it changes immediately.
Whether a man can break up with his lover depends on the above three points, but even if he returns to his family, his feelings will not come back at that time. Once there is betrayal in feelings, it means that the relationship between two people has come to an end completely, even if the surface can be tolerated, it is difficult to recover. Therefore, I advise you to cherish the person in front of you and don't let the person who follows you wholeheartedly down.