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The great writer Balzac has a famous saying: "What should attract attention in a man is not his horse or other accessories, but his character. . ”

In modern society, more and more people are keen on fast-food love. What falls in love at first sight is facial features. Many people put appearance first when choosing a mate.

There is such an example around me. My best friend Jingyi is a temperamental beauty. She has been practicing ballet before. She has an outstanding temperament and an outstanding figure. Whenever we go shopping together, there are always many strangers. When boys come up and ask for WeChat messages, she usually declines.

In fact, we all know that love at first sight is not unreliable, but most love based on appearance is not reliable, especially between boys and girls. If a boy particularly cares about the appearance of his girlfriend, the two of them are together. In the future, any shortcomings of a girl may cause the relationship between the two to become very tense.

Sometimes it is not a good thing to think too much about your partner. We must learn to accept a person comprehensively and in all aspects, and we cannot rely on imagination alone to fall in love, let alone live a life. .

Zhang Na and Cheng Hao fell in love at first sight. Zhang Na was invited to attend the birthday party of her friend Xiaolin, and Cheng Hao was Xiaolin's cousin. He also happened to be celebrating his birthday at Xiaolin's home that day, and was wearing high heels. When he walked downstairs with Zhang Na, who was wearing a nice dress, Cheng Hao took a liking to her at first sight.

Zhang Na is not a very beautiful girl, nor does she wear heavy makeup. She looks pure and dressed in a white dress, which complements her temperament and the thick foundations around her. Girls with smoky makeup are completely different.

Cheng Hao's attention was naturally attracted to her, and everything went smoothly. Cheng Hao stepped forward to strike up a conversation. Zhang Na was not an active girl. She was introverted and didn't like to talk much until she was a child. Li personally came over to introduce him, and the two started talking.

The fate of love is so inexplicable in many cases. Sometimes there is no feeling of affection after meeting many times, but sometimes the two people just meet once, and the two people fall in love.

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During the conversation, Zhang Na discovered that the two of them actually had a lot in common. They both liked traveling and painting. After the party, the two of them stayed with each other. Downloaded the contact information.

In the beginning, it was Cheng Hao who took the initiative to pursue Zhang Na. Whenever he had time, Cheng Hao would chat with Zhang Na and ask her to hang out with her. Girls are more reserved, but Zhang Na refused at first. As time passed, and with the encouragement of her friend Xiaolin, Zhang Na accepted Cheng Hao's wishes, and the two got together.

When they first got together, they had a really good relationship. They would go on trips every now and then, and occasionally go out to paint together. Like all lovers in love, they fantasized about the future of living together. life, full of expectations for the future.

They had been dating for more than two years. Because Cheng Hao was two years older than Zhang Na and her parents were urging her to get married, Zhang Na met with Cheng Hao’s parents and obtained the consent of both parents. An engagement was arranged. Cheng Hao's family was well off. After they got engaged, Cheng Hao's mother paid a down payment for their future wedding home. From then on, the two began living together. Neither of them expected that each other's nightmare would begin.

Life after living together was far worse than they imagined. Although they could finally have time to go shopping, eat and watch movies together, after living together, Zhang Na’s hair was everywhere in the room. Cosmetics filled the bathroom window sill.

There is still a big difference between Zhang Na before and after makeup. Her nose is not as three-dimensional and her lips are not as beautiful as before makeup. Looking at Zhang Na’s off-duty state, Cheng Hao admitted that Zhang Na was wearing pajamas and looked top-notch. The oily hair and slovenly appearance made Cheng Hao very uncomfortable.

Cheng Hao has a lot of opinions on Zhang Na, and Zhang Na also has a lot of opinions on Cheng Hao. Cheng Hao loves to be clean, but he is unwilling to clean up and do housework. He has to count on Zhang Na for everything, and most of the family She is responsible for all the housework.

In addition, Cheng Hao had dated many girlfriends before her. When she moved to a new house, she brought several photo albums with her. Zhang Na saw them and found that all of those women had outstanding looks. Although the two are engaged now, Cheng Hao is not so law-abiding.

As long as he is at home, Cheng Hao will hold on to his mobile phone. Before going to bed at night, he will also look at the mobile phone and laugh secretly. He invites his brothers and friends to drink every now and then. Every time there is a large group of people, girls are naturally indispensable. .

After living together, Cheng Hao disliked Zhang Na for being sloppy and not caring about her. Zhang Na felt that Cheng Hao was out of tune and did not care about her family. The two had many conflicts. In the end, it was Cheng Hao who spoke first: "Although we are engaged, I still feel like we're not a good fit.

Look at the glamorous clothes you used to wear. Now, what do you wear at home all day long? What do you look like? "

"Do you really care about this? "

Zhang Na's heart froze at that moment: "I can stop looking at your phone and check your WeChat, but you still dislike me? Who do I dress up for all day long? "

"Don't make excuses for your laziness. Do you really think you are so good-looking? Who would see you without makeup? "

After Zhang Na heard these words, she also understood why the man in front of her loved her. He was so hypocritical and there was no need to continue.

"Okay, you Don’t you like the decent me and hate the sloppy me? Then don't get married, let's separate. ”

Falling in love at first sight is determined by the five senses, and staying in love for a long time is determined by three views. For the relationship between people, love at first sight is always about appearance, and only long-term love is the real intention.

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Beauty does not last long, character and soul are unique.

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The tragedy of the love story between Zhang Na and Cheng Hao reminds me. Li Ao and Hu Yinmeng

I still remember that when the movie "Lust, Caution" directed by Ang Lee was released in 2007, Li Ao said: "The only thing good about Tang Wei is my ex-wife Hu Yinmeng. That’s called beauty. "

Hu Yinmeng is indeed a great beauty, and Li Ao also fell in love with her at first sight. She was the kind of person who saw Hu Yinmeng in the crowd and fell in love with her.

Li Ao He spoke highly of Hu Yinmeng and said: "If there is a new woman who is beautiful and drifting, charming and confused, sad and sexy, incomprehensible and unreasonable, it must be none other than Hu Yinmeng. . "

No matter how high the evaluation is, the love story between Li Ao and Hu Yinmeng is very ridiculous. I can only use the word "ridiculous" to describe it.

Hu Yin Meng was born very beautiful. In the 1970s, there were four beauties in the Taiwanese film industry, "Shuang Lin and Shuang Hu". Among them, "Shuang Lin" refers to Brigitte Lin and Lin Fengjiao, and "Double Hu" refers to Hu Yinmeng and Hu Huizhong. .

We all know that Li Ao is a talented person.

It is said that in September 1979, he met Li Ao for the first time at the home of his friend Xiao Mengneng. At the age of 26, Hu Yinmeng was astonished. Although Li Ao was already middle-aged, he was suddenly attracted by the beautiful Hu Yinmeng.

They fell in love at first sight, and Li Ao was attracted. Hu Yinmeng was deeply attracted by her beauty, which led to a fierce pursuit.

Later, when the two of them really got together and lived under the same roof, they had quarrels because of various trivial matters in life. Li Ao's behavior is rather weird. He not only restricts Hu Yinmeng's freedom, but also ridicules her for some things in her life that are not common sense.

For example, because of Hu Yinmeng's wrong way of cooking meat. And furious.

Of course, the most classic thing is what Li Ao said in front of reporters after their divorce:

"I am a perfectionist, and one day I had no intention. Pushing open the unlocked bathroom, I saw her squatting on the toilet with her face flushed from constipation. It was really unbearable. "

Isn't it ridiculous? What do you love about Hu Yinmeng? Is it possible that you wouldn't be like this yourself?

Hu Yinmeng is a real person. She is not a living person in a painting.

Hu Yinmeng looked away at everything and just replied: There are neither great men nor beauties under the same roof. < /p>

Some people are like this. They are not really in love, but they are just self-righteous in love, turning their lover into what they imagined, but they have forgotten that in fact, true love is between the souls of two people.

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The love story between Li Dan and Kuroo-chan is worth pondering. Li Dan is not handsome. He can even be said to be a "silly guy", his eyes narrow into slits when he smiles, and everyone can see Kuroo-chan's beauty, and she can handle even Yujie's sweet style.

Everyone knows about their love. Their good looks are the same, but their interesting souls are unique.

Li Dan must be a very talented person, otherwise Kuroo-chan would not be a good match for him. .

So, if a person falls in love with you the first time he sees you, but after discovering your shortcomings and seeing your sloppy side, he feels that you have changed, then this is No matter who you are, we all understand that the first impression is important, but after getting married in the future, there are many things that two people need to face, and the other person is not just a person. You have to accept your sloppy appearance and even your own temper. Only those who can tolerate, respect and accept each other can have a happy marriage.

Su Qin said: "Don't just be obsessed with love. Character is more important than that. Love is temporary, character is eternal. When love slowly fades, the relationship between two people is maintained by kindness. Take a good look at how he treats the people around him, maybe that will be your future life state.

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Therefore, this article is a reminder to unmarried men and women: In love, do not be a member of the Appearance Association. It is useless for a boy to be good-looking. In a relationship, pottery is more important than a vase. Pay attention to a man's character.

In addition, if you blindly please a person, then such a relationship is destined to be fruitless, and it will be difficult for such a relationship to last long. Therefore, I would also like to remind girls that no matter when, they must remember to work hard to improve themselves and make themselves more capable, so that they can match better people and have a better life.

Secondly, you must love yourself well. Love is destined to be just a consumable, and feelings will fade over time. What can really keep a person is your unique inner self. Only you are good enough and good enough. Being attractive can keep your love fresher.

If a person only loves you for your appearance, or even dislikes you because your appearance has changed, let him go without any nostalgia.

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