1, people with high emotional intelligence can often lead each other's emotions to the front and reduce the concept of direct conflict. ?
For example, if you see a person with a supercilious attitude, it may be difficult to say a lot. Seeing a very enthusiastic person, the depression in my heart is much less. This is like the first standard of a martial arts master, not that you can't be beaten (although being beaten is a basic skill), but that it is difficult for others to hit him. ?
2. People with high EQ are better at controlling their emotions and are not influenced by each other. Just because someone scolds you doesn't mean you should be angry. Note that this means that emotions are not negatively affected; Instead of being negatively affected and hiding.
3. People with high emotional intelligence have a wide range of choices. If they find that they are not appetizing, they are more likely to choose to avoid it.
Three common misunderstandings in judging high EQ:
Myth 1: I think the old fritters are high emotional intelligence.
There are many smooth hands in the workplace, and their typical characteristics are: the ability to read minds and understand politics. Know what to say to whom. Do things wisely. Such people are usually not equal to high emotional intelligence. But many should be considered average.
They lack the ability to radiate positive energy. Do you think the world is better when you get along with most smooth people? If there is no profit purpose, will you simply want to be with them?
Myth 2: Do you think that high emotional intelligence is good at hiding emotions?
There is a kind of person whose emotions are invisible. This only partly shows that the other party has some ability to control emotions. At least we can keep it from appearing.
In fact, people with high emotional intelligence are often good at expressing their feelings. A person who can express his feelings is usually healthier. Many psychological problems are caused by not being able to express and vent their emotions.
Of course, most of the emotions expressed by people with high emotional intelligence are positive. This is mainly because their inner feelings are mostly positive. For the negative part, they are also more able to control and choose the way and occasion of expression.
Interestingly, people with low EQ tend to hide their emotions (but they lack control). Part of the reason is that expressing emotions will expose your weaknesses and make people feel insecure.
Myth 3: I feel that often hesitating is high emotional intelligence.
In the case of investigating high emotional intelligence, someone mentioned: "A subordinate, the boss often scolds him, can hold back." ? This is an ability to control emotions. ? But it is far from high emotional intelligence. ?