I saw a sentence in the book: "Smartness is a talent, but kindness is a choice."

I deeply agree.

In life, we always meet all kinds of people. From childhood, teachers have taught us that helping others is a virtue and a happy thing. However, in the adult world, " Kindness” may be too idealistic. Sometimes, a little edge can make life go smoother.

? 01 A person who repays kindness with hatred

Sanmao wrote in "The West Wind Does Not Know the Face": "If kindness is just giving blindly, then I would rather not have this kind of kindness." Life The meaning of friendship has never been about compromise and tolerance. If you can't bloom a flower with kindness, it's better to let yourself be covered with thorns. There is a saying: "There is light in my heart, but there are thorns in my body."

I am following the popular TV series "An Jia". In the drama, Fang Sijin saw that Ning Xin and her daughter had an affair with her. Having similar experiences, I can empathize more and sincerely help the single mother Ning Xin and her daughter.

After getting help, Ning Xin asked her daughter to recognize Fang Sijin as her aunt. From then on, Fang Sijin, the aunt, was busier and more worried than her mother, helping to take care of the children, tutoring homework, taking the children to work in the store, and participating in Parent-teacher conferences are just like raising your own children.

Fang Sijin thinks of her mother and daughter in everything, and truly treats them as family. As long as Ning Xin asked for help, Fang Sijin would always respond. In order to help Ning Xin and her daughter sell the house as quickly as possible, she secretly paid 50,000 yuan. They didn't let Ning Xin know about it, just because they were afraid that she would be psychologically burdened.

But after receiving the help, Ning Xin did not do well with Fang Sijin. What made Fang Sijin heartbroken was that just when the house was about to be signed, Ning Xin and her boyfriend skipped Fang Sijin and made a private deal with the seller. .

Fang Sijin couldn't figure out why this was the case. In fact, she had already regarded them as family in her heart, and had no intention of asking for commission. She couldn't understand why Ning Xin suddenly changed. When she went to Ning Xin and just wanted a reasonable reason, she was asked by Ning Xin: Aren't you just here to ask for a commission?

At this time, Fang Sijin expressed her true feelings. Not only did she not want the mother and daughter's commission, but in order to sell her house faster, she even went to hand out flyers and secretly I advanced money to help her promote it. But Ning Xin always believed that all the kindness Fang Sijin did to them was just for commission.

A person who does not understand your kindness and is ungrateful will think that your help is deserved, no matter how much you give.

You can never wake up a person who is pretending to sleep, and you can never feed an ungrateful soul. If you have a good heart, you should know how to protect yourself; when you choose to do good, you should know how to put kindness into practice. Give the right thing to the right person.

Just like the TV plot, Sun Li, who starred in "An Jia", Fang Jinli, in real life also lovingly supported Xiang Haiqing, a "white-eyed wolf" for 4 years, and the ending was the same. .

Sun Li funded a poor student through a program, and this person was Xiang Haiqing. Xiang Haiqing slowly changed from high school to college.

Not only did he skip classes, but he also spent money arbitrarily, and showed off to his classmates that the big star everyone knew was the person who helped him. In this way, his behavior became more and more excessive, and he wrote several letters to Sun Li, For additional living expenses, 500 yuan is not enough.

After Sun Li learned about his situation, she stopped funding him after careful consideration. However, the greedy Xiang Haiqing repaid kindness with hatred and posted a long article accusing Sun Li and wanting to discredit her. Wait and see She laughs. During that time, Sun Li was pushed to the forefront of public opinion and received some negative comments, and her career was also affected.

Today, because of this incident, Xiang Haiqing has repeatedly encountered obstacles in his job search. He only joined an ordinary company as a small employee, because no one would want a person who is so ungrateful.

Sun Li never expected that she would stage a real-life story of a farmer and a snake. Four years of funding would raise a "white-eyed wolf", which made Sun Li very disappointed.

A person who is ungrateful will resent anyone and anything in the world. In this world, there seems to be no one or one thing that he needs to be grateful for, and he is always in a state of resentment. Among the emotions, do you think there are such people around you?

There are actually many people like this in life. The more you help them, the more they will use your kindness to retaliate against you.

Fighting for rice nourishes kindness, shouldering rice nourishes hatred, the ancestors said it all!

"The Book of Changes" says: A gentleman hides his weapons in his body and waits for them to be used. Isn’t this also true for the edge of life?

? ? 02 People who are ungrateful

The real thing around me is that in order to help her former good friend overcome difficulties, her colleague Xiaoxi lent her 30,000 yuan, and Three years have passed. At first, my good friend said that he would repay Xiaoxi if he had money, but then he stopped talking and refused to repay the money. Every holiday in WeChat Moments, people would go sightseeing and enjoy delicious food. Not only did they not repay Xiaoxi’s money, He also blocked Xiaoxi, stopped answering his phone calls, and could not be found.

It is said that "giving roses to others will leave a lingering fragrance", but it broke Xiao Xi's heart. She worked frugally and saved money, and the money she saved was gone forever. With the help of a colleague majoring in law, Xiaoxi now has no choice but to embark on the road of litigation.

As the proverb goes: "People's hearts are not as good as snakes swallowing elephants. Good intentions hurt themselves when they are wrong." When others treat you better, you will hope that they will treat you better; You don't have enough money, but you think it's not enough, and in turn you think others are stingy.

There is a saying: "Inferior people repay kindness with hatred, middle-class people repay kindness with kindness, and superior people repay kindness with kindness."

For the same rose, someone said: "There are thorns under the flower. It's true that there are thorns under the flower." Disgusting!”

Some people say: “It’s great to have flowers on thorns!”

People who see thorns pick on their faults and look at their shortcomings are destined to be unhappy. .

The person who sees the flowers has a grateful heart. Although the thorns prick his hands, there are fragrant flowers on the thorns, so he can feel happiness.

Face life with a grateful heart and look at everything in life. As long as you are grateful, your life will be happy and fulfilling.

A homeless man fell down from hunger while living on the street. A kind man gave him ten yuan. The homeless man stood up again because of the ten yuan. He was extremely grateful to the kind person and asked him to leave his contact information so that he could repay him one day.

A kind-hearted person said something to the homeless man: I was once in the same predicament as you, and a kind-hearted person gave me ten yuan to get me where I am today. The kind-hearted person also said: I said something, learn to treat others with a grateful heart.

So for everything I did to you today, I sincerely hope that tomorrow, you can also learn to treat another person in need of help with a grateful heart...

Conclusion :

Since the 2020 pneumonia epidemic, we have witnessed unity, the fight against the disease, strong cohesion, our conscience, our gratitude, and our touching. When one side is in trouble, all parties support!

Countless touching moments made us cry, and also made us excited and proud. We can stand up and proudly say to the world: "Our Chinese nation is a grateful nation and a great nation. ! ”

As a person, you must learn to have a grateful heart. Gratitude is a philosophy of life and great wisdom. Know how to be grateful and learn to be grateful, and you will feel happy and happy.