This old man is a treasure I dug up in the corner of the library when I skipped classes in college. Although he was famous for his paintings, I was fascinated by his words at that time. His "indecent" paintings are a bit like children's books, and the words beside them often make people laugh, which makes them like his handstand more.
That year, Mr. Fashion wrote: "This old man who likes to build a house, keep a famous dog, drive a red sports car and collect nearly a thousand pipes has become the oldest Mr. Fashion in history. It's hard to imagine that a person can still be rated as "Mr. Fashion" in his 80 s. For the elderly in Huang Yongyu, fashion is not to catch up with the trend of each season, but to stick to their distinctive personality. The so-called style lasts forever. This sentence suits him. "
Today, ten years later, his anecdotes are still spontaneously active in the public eye. Recently, I extracted a famous teaching quote from Huang's father: "No matter whether you are rich or poor when you grow up, it is cheaper to know more strange knowledge when you are not a celebrity expert." At least you are a happy person. "
Yes, happiness, as an ordinary person, seems within reach, but it feels far away. Master Huang did it. How did he do it? As an unknown fan for many years, I have been aiming at him to cultivate my mind, hoping to live as pure, clean and honest as possible. I recently read the book Lifelong Growth, which seems to have brought some practice.
An ordinary person, wrapped in a fragile skin, walked for a century and always stood on the waves with a happy attitude. He must have the characteristics of keeping pace with the times. This trait, in the words of the author Carol Dwek, is growth thinking.
Growth thinking is based on the scientific understanding of the human brain: the brain, like a muscle, will change, and the more it is used, the stronger it will become. When you learn something new, those tiny connections in your brain will increase. The more you challenge your mind to learn, the more brain cells you have. In this way, things that you used to find difficult or even impossible to accomplish-such as learning a new language or doing algebra problems-will look simple.
Based on the plasticity of the human brain, people who grow up thinking mode think that their basic abilities can be cultivated through hard work. Just like old Huang Man, no matter what period he lived in, he was a man who ran as fast as the wind. /kloc-dropping out of junior high school at the age of 0/3 was forced to go out and wander, which laid the background of inspirational life; 14 years old, making a living by painting as art; Became famous at the age of 32 and made a sensation throughout the country; Get a driver's license at the age of 50; At the age of 80, he was on the cover of Esquire magazine; At the age of 90, she persuaded star Brigitte Lin to participate in a reality show just to find the wild child in her heart.
Carol Dwek, the author of Lifelong Growth, is actually a psychologist. She said that her research actually belongs to a traditional research in psychology and explains the power of human belief to people. She is an outstanding scholar in the fields of personality psychology, social psychology and developmental psychology. Therefore, her book "Self Theory: How They Affect Motivation, Personality and Development" outside this book can be said to be the theoretical basis of growth-oriented thinking.
In the growth mode of thinking, people have clear concerns, wholehearted efforts, endless strategies and learning companions. They are an open energy ball, everything is for their own use, and they can also be used by everything. Growth thinking emphasizes the importance of risk and the great energy of perseverance. The success of growth thinking means being the best you can be, not being better than others. Failure is an opportunity, not a death sentence. Hard work is the key to success.
2017165438+1October 14, delivered a speech "the growth of a middle-aged man" in Tencent starry sky, explaining another version of "how to avoid becoming a greasy middle-aged wretched man". Yu told us with his practical actions what is the real growth thinking, what is the growth personality and what is the growth model.
He insists on traveling abroad every year and writing cultural travel notes;
He has in-depth exchanges with local residents all over the world and shares his income with young people in China;
Wherever he went, he carefully studied its history, present situation and the possibility of future development;
He can also ride horses, ski, swim and walk, and he is good at everything.
He reads 100 books every year to absorb new ideas;
He constantly deals with people who lead the world;
He always makes himself an interesting person.
His speech touched me very much. If it gives me a growing mentality, then Mr. Yu's practice is my action guide to practice growing thinking.
However, how can we cultivate a person's growth thinking? The author Carol Dwek proposed the following steps:
Step one: accept
First of all, each of us should realize that we all have two modes of thinking, one is growth thinking and the other is fixed thinking, which are intertwined like twin trees at different stages of our lives.
Step 2: Observe
Furthermore, we need to learn to perceive in life and find out what stimulus points trigger fixed thinking patterns.
Step 3: Naming
Think of fixed thinking as another self and give him a name. So that we can think about what will happen when the personality with fixed thinking mode is stimulated. Whose character is this? What's his name? How does he make us think, feel and take action? How will this affect the people around you?
Step 4: Education
Gradually learn how to maintain the growth mode of thinking. In order to make growth thinking bear fruit, we need to set goals-growth goals.
After years of thinking and action practice, I look back on myself ten years later, hoping to live an interesting and knowledgeable life like Huang Lao and Teacher Yu, without disturbing others and being satisfied with myself.