Family harmony, a loving father and filial piety, and loving husband and wife are the beautiful family life that many people pursue.

Therefore, for nearly a thousand years, Chinese people have been thinking about how to get along with their wives and children.

In "Zengguang Xianwen", there are also some famous quotes about family getting along. If you read them, you will get along well with your wife and children.

01

Don’t scold your wife at Youshi, she will be left alone all night.

Don't scold your wife at night, she will feel lonely and miserable all night long.

I realize that beating your wife at night has to pay a price, at least not for one night. It is inevitable to be cold all night.

If you give your wife a hug, you will get a hug; if you give your wife a cold look, you will get indifference.

02

Everyone teaches their children etiquette and righteousness, but the small family teaches their children harshly.

Translation: People from large families educate their children with etiquette and justice, but people from small families use harsh words and deeds to reprimand their children and grandchildren.

I feel that Dafang Family educates children through precepts and deeds, teaching them with reason and moving them with emotion. Educating future generations on etiquette, justice and integrity will of course produce different effects.

If you scold a child blindly, the child will be resistant; only with a pleasant explanation, the child will be convinced.

03

Filial piety will beget filial sons, and disobedience will beget disobedient sons.

Translation: A filial person will have filial children, and a disobedient and unfilial person will have children who are rebellious.

Understand that children like to learn from others and learn the most intuitive behaviors they see. Parents are the best role models for their children. If you are a filial son, your children will naturally be filial.

If you want to teach your children well, you must first be a good example.

04

The bowls are placed on the shelf and rotated, and the daughter-in-law has her own time as a mother-in-law.

The dishes on the kitchen shelf are rotated, and even the young daughter-in-law has her time to be a mother-in-law.

Don’t be too harsh on your mother-in-law. You are also a mother-in-law. Don’t think about teaching your daughter-in-law a lesson. You are also here as a daughter-in-law.

If mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can empathize with each other, there will be fewer conflicts.

05

Children and grandchildren will have their own blessings. Don’t be a horse or a cow for your children and grandchildren.

Translation: Future generations will have their own blessings, so don’t work too hard for them, like cows or horses.

I understand that Chinese people work hard all their lives and give it to their children after earning a little money. This is a very foolish behavior.

Doting on children too much will result in more rebellious children and fewer filial children.

06

I advise you not to fry vegetables with oil and leave it to your children and grandchildren to study at night.

The translation advises parents not to use oil for cooking, but to leave it for their children and grandchildren to light a lamp and read at night.

I feel that no matter how poor the family is, they must give their children the opportunity to learn and receive education, so that they can broaden their horizons, increase their knowledge, and have the opportunity to change their destiny.

No matter how hard it is, we can’t hurt our children, and no matter how poor we are, we can’t afford education.

07

A husband and wife in one day, a marriage of a lifetime. I have been cultivating for hundreds of generations to cross the same boat, and I have been cultivating for thousands of generations to sleep on my pillow.

Being able to become husband and wife is a fate that lasts forever. It takes a hundred lifetimes of fate to ride in the same boat, and a thousand lifetimes of fate to be a couple who share the same bed and pillow.

Enlightenment Buddha said: It takes five hundred times of looking back in the past life in exchange for passing by in this life. How rare it is for two people to become husband and wife.

The relationship between husband and wife is not easy, but we should do it and cherish it.

08

Only when you are in charge of a family do you know how valuable salt and rice are, and when you raise children, you will know how kind your parents are.

Translation: Only after you become the head of the family do you realize that money is hard to come by; only after you have children do you understand the nurturing grace of your parents.

I understand that we always look at our closest parents with a critical eye and despise their shortcomings. Only by personally raising children can we appreciate the hard work and kindness of our parents.

Be nice to your parents, because one day you will be a parent too.