Margaret Thatcher said:

On the road of life, the biggest obstacle to growth we encounter is not money or ability, but One's own words and deeds.

If you indulge, your life will become more and more charming. If you exercise restraint, your life will be more perfect.

The best attitude in life is to take care of yourself and do what you should do.

Taking care of oneself is a kind of upward order, a sense of propriety for growth, and responsibility for one's own life.

An eminent monk once said: "It is better not to speak up about other people's rights and wrongs; it is better not to speak up about falsehoods."

Every person's life has its own direction and direction. At the ferry crossing, everyone has their own reasons for doing things.

Wisdom comes from listening, and harm comes from speaking.

When interacting with others, you should not be arbitrary with your words, but should be measured.

In the movie "The Beautiful Legend of Sicily", Malena is the most beautiful woman in the town.

Whenever she wears a skirt and high heels and walks on the streets of the town, she creates a scene of her own.

But this beauty brought disaster to her.

When her husband went off to fight and lost news, almost everyone felt that a woman as beautiful as her would not be willing to be lonely.

Because of this prejudice, one rumor after another came to her.

The women in the town said behind her back that she was a slut, seducing men, and even took her to court for some unfounded matters.

It seems that if the rumors spread too much, they will become evidence that can convict her.

Marlena's father refused her entry because of this. She also lost her job, her reputation became worse and worse, and she couldn't even buy food. Survival gradually became a problem.

Someone said:

Yes, a soft tongue can break a person's bones. Words can sometimes hurt people more than violence.

Taking care of your mouth is a lifelong learning topic.

As Hemingway said: "It takes us two years to learn to speak, but it takes sixty years to learn to shut up."

Don't say much whether you understand or not; Know or don’t know, don’t tell nonsense.

A person who does not talk about human affairs when meeting others is a person who has nothing to do in the world.

Mr. Ji Xianlin said:

A person's mood often determines the way the world looks in his eyes.

A good mood makes people appreciate the flowers blooming and sigh at the willows; a bad mood makes people sad that the flowers have withered and the angry willow catkins fly.

What kind of emotions a person has, what kind of life state they have.

Lou Shide, a famous official in the Tang Dynasty, worshiped the prime minister twice in his life and was famous in both the government and the public.

His emotional management ability was widely praised by future generations.

Lou Shide's younger brother was appointed as governor of Daizhou. Before leaving, Lou Shide asked him:

"I am the prime minister, and you are also the governor of the state. How about this?" Honor and favor will inevitably attract jealousy. How can we avoid causing trouble?"

The younger brother said:

"I will control my emotions and not be evil to others. Even if someone vomits in the future? I was drooling all over my face, but I didn’t talk back, I just wiped the drool away silently.”

Lou Shide shook his head and said:

This is the idiom “Spit in front of you”. The origin of.

This is how Lou Shide educated his younger brother, and he also followed this approach in his own conduct.

It is recorded in "Zi Zhi Tong Jian" that once, Lou Shide went to court with a colleague. Lou Shide walked slowly because of his obesity.

His colleagues stopped many times to wait for him, but he still couldn't catch up.

The colleague was angry and scolded: "You country bumpkin! Why are you so slow?"

Lou Shide smiled and said: "Shi De is not a country bumpkin, who is a country bumpkin?"

The anger of his colleagues disappeared instantly.

Social psychologist Festinger once had such a theory:

No matter how intelligent a person is, once he is controlled by his emotions, he will behave in a bad way when dealing with things. Seems clumsy.

No matter how small a thing is, once the emotional reaction is too strong, then the small thing may become a big thing.

Only by managing your emotions can you better control the development of the situation.

A truly mature person does not have to be highly accomplished, but a person who has warmth and understands emotions.

As the old saying goes: "The weak are as angry as tigers, and the strong are as calm as water."

The smarter the person, the better he knows how to manage his emotions.

A girl accused her boyfriend of being too un-young in a program.

The reason is that my boyfriend never stays up late and basically doesn’t drink. He must have three meals on time. No matter how busy he is, he must exercise regularly. When he has nothing to do, he studies soup making to maintain health.

Girls feel that these things are only done by the elderly, and they are too un-young.

But the instructor of the program said:

Everything in the world has cause and effect. Every time you ignore your body because you are young today, it may become a disease buried in your body tomorrow. bomb.

I read a question: "Why do most people start health care when they reach middle age?"

Someone replied: "Because people only realize in middle age that if they don't Without health, young people will die. ”

When people are young, they have the illusion that illness and death only visit those who are old, but this is not the case.

In recent years, news of young people dying at a young age due to alienation from health management has become almost common.

A few years ago, Yu Juan, a female doctor from Fudan University, suffered from unhealthy lifestyle habits such as overeating and lack of sleep for a long time.

At the age of 32, I was diagnosed with breast cancer. After fighting cancer for one year and four months, I sadly passed away from this world, leaving behind my 2-year-old son.

At the end of 2019, 35-year-old Gao Yixiang suddenly left at work at around 1 a.m., leaving behind his girlfriend who was talking about getting married.

On the first day of 2021, the 25-year-old "Balala Little Demon Fairy" actor Sun Qiaolu also passed away, leaving her mother to suffer the pain of a white-haired person giving away a black-haired person.

The Dutch philosopher Spinoza said:

In this life, a person can have no money or not get ahead, but he cannot be sick or live without health.

Only by having good health can you love what you love, ask for what you want, walk the path you want to take, accompany the people you want to accompany, and live the life you want to live.

Having good health is the greatest blessing for you and your family.

"Liao Fan's Four Trainings" says:

Everything in the world originates from the heart. Wherever the heart goes, so does the work.

Life is a practice. On the road of practice, you must keep your words, be determined, and be kind to your body. Don't let things go, don't do anything arbitrarily, improve yourself day by day, and hone yourself.

Watch your mouth, don’t speak carelessly, speak carefully and cultivate yourself.

Manage your emotions, do not act willfully, and be sincere in your ambitions.

Take good care of your health, don’t live a casual life, and be careful about yourself.

Taking care of yourself is really more important than anything else.

Author | Xu Jiuqing, a woman who walked around the earth in her dream.

Pictures | Visual China