Because of this, many people hope to gain the envy of others by showing off, and some people are jealous because of others' showing off. There are even people who pretend to be doing well knowing that they are not doing well.
Take the circle of friends "drying cars, watches and houses" as an example. Some people will say, "I send a circle of friends just to share, not to show off."
Indeed, there is a difference between sharing and showing off-the sharing mentality is: "I will show you what I have and tell you that you can have it"; The ostentatious mentality is: "I show you what I have because I know you don't have it."
This is also an important reason why many people don't exclude others from sharing, but don't like others to show off.
Laozi said in the Tao Te Ching: "People who see themselves are unknown; If it is a natural person, it will not be shown; Self-cutting, reactive power; Those who are complacent will not last long. "
The meaning of this sentence in Tao Te Ching is that a person who often shows off his cleverness can't see where his cleverness lies; People who are always self-righteous can't show their true advantages; People who like to brag and take credit, but no one will admit his achievements; It is difficult for a self-expanding person to become a leader.
It can be seen that as an adult, you should know how to hide your light and show off the following three things less. It seems to be sought after, but it is actually annoying.
Xunzi said: Only by establishing harmonious interpersonal relationships can people live a social life. We can see the importance of contacts, but is it a good thing to show them?
First of all, the so-called contact is essentially an exchange of values. When you are strong enough, your connections are useful. If your own ability is limited and your friends and classmates are awesome, what can you get from it?
Secondly, if others know that you know some elites, will you help or not when others want you? Even if you are willing to help, will your contacts sell you face? Even if your relationship will lose face, how can you repay this debt of gratitude?
Showing off one's contacts is a harmful thing.
Lin Yutang, a famous modern scholar, once summed up the top ten social bad words, the first of which is: if you have ten pence, your clothes will tremble.
Many people think that others will cast envious eyes when exposing their luxury cars, luxury houses and high-end life, but most people will not, but will think that this person is vulgar.
This is the imprint of traditional culture: in the spirit of ancient literati, they are always ashamed to talk about money, so when it comes to money, they always say "copper stink".
Moreover, in the national culture, "focusing on making a fortune" is the correct choice for good development, and "shooting the first bird with a gun" is also the law since ancient times.
Now some young people, having read a few books and gained a little experience, look down on the people around them and always feel that the pattern and vision of the people around them are too low.
A philosopher once said: The more you know, the more you will find your ignorance. Why do you say that? Like a circle on white paper, the circle represents what you know and the outside represents what you don't know. The bigger the circle, the wider the unknown range you touch.
What's more, no matter how shallow and profound the knowledge is, everyone has his own unique way of life. No matter how extensive knowledge is, it may not be able to guide others' lives, but it will be annoying because of pointing.
The motto Lian Bi said: A true gentleman values fame, merit, virtue and affection; What ordinary people pursue to show off is clothing, ornaments, housing and life.
As a truly mature adult, you should understand that it is an ability to restrain yourself from showing off your desires. If you live well, you steal happiness; If your life is bad, try to get better.
If a person needs to show off to get inner satisfaction, it is conceivable how barren this person's heart should be!