Master Hanshan said, "The crossbow string is always broken first, and it is easy to hurt every time you see the steel knife mouth. Right and wrong don't have to compete with each other, so why talk about each other? " In fact, Lou's generosity is well known. He and Li Zhaode go to court at the same time every day. Because he is obese, he can't help but move slowly. Li Zhaode is impatient and swears at "Tian She Fu" (a swearing term in the Tang Dynasty, meaning a rough country bumpkin). Teacher Lou is not angry, but laughs and says, "Yes, the teacher's morality is not Tian She Fu, but who is Tian She Fu?"
One day, Mr. Lou's younger brother was preparing to go to Daizhou to take the post of secretariat. Mr. Lou said to his younger brother, "I am a prime minister and you are a state shepherd. How can we avoid being jealous?" His younger brother replied, "If someone spits in my face in the future, I won't get angry, just wipe it off silently." On hearing this, Teacher Lou said, "No, people spit at you, and if you dry it, it will go against people's wishes, which will only make him more angry;" You should accept it with a smile and make your face dry. " This is the origin of the idiom "do it yourself". Of course, this may sound a little exaggerated, but it is no wonder that the country is rich and the people are safe because there are such virtuous ministers in Wu Hou.
There was a female pianist in Russia who was very picky at the age of 9.
once, she traveled across the ocean to the United States to participate in a major piano competition. This competition has high specifications, many listeners and many contestants. The invited judges are all very authoritative people.
But this 9-year-old Russian girl felt that the piano stool was not suitable as soon as she took the stage and asked for a new one. Throughout the final, ten thousand spectators quietly watched the bold and critical girl.
At this time, if a judge shows a little dissatisfaction with the girl's delay in the competition time, it may cause the girl's performance to fail.
I didn't expect those prestigious judges to tolerate the girl's criticism and let her change a piano stool.
Unexpectedly, this Russian girl has achieved great success, and the audience, including the judges, can't help clapping for her.
It can be said that the tolerance of the judges in this competition is an intriguing tolerance in the history of human art.
3 Death of Xiang Yu
Xiang Yu was trapped in osawa, so he said to his men, "I have been fighting for more than 7 times since I started my army, and all those who resisted me failed; Where it is captured, everyone obeys, and there is a hegemony now. But today I am finally besieged here. This is the fault that God wants to destroy me, not the war. " So he wanted to cross the Wujiang River to the east. The director of the Wujiang River supported the boat and said to him: "Although the place in the east of the river is not big, it is also a thousand miles away in Fiona Fang, with hundreds of thousands of people. With it, it can be called king. May the king cross the river quickly! Now only I have a boat, and the Han soldiers can't cross the river. " King Xiang said with a wry smile, "Heaven is going to destroy me. Why should I cross the river to go back?"? Besides, 8, disciples of Jiangdong and I have set out to the west together, and now I am the only one who comes back alive. Even if my fellow villagers in Jiangdong pity me and make me king, how can I meet them? Even if they don't blame me, don't I feel guilty? " So he pulled out his sword and committed suicide.
Tai Shigong said, "Xiang Yu captured the city and thought of Chu State, but he expelled the righteous emperor and became king on his own. Instead, he complained that various governors betrayed themselves, embarrassed themselves, boasted about their military exploits, and were headstrong but did not follow the example of the ancients. It is believed that the emperor's career must be conquered by force. After five years of hard work, he finally lost his country. When you die in Dongcheng, you still don't realize and reflect on yourself. It's a big mistake! He also said,' Heaven kills me, and it is not a crime to use troops.' Isn't it too confused? "(The Wujiang River crossing ferry mentioned above is the copper bridge crossed by General Yun of Ming Taizu and Yuan Shundi. They all submit to humiliation because of defeat and fled across the river from here. Why can't Xiang Yu stand it because he is a little ashamed? Let's look at Liu Bang's escape at the Hongmen banquet by going to the toilet and riding alone. What will happen? Indeed, we should believe Su Dongpo's comment that "the reason why Liu Bang won and Xiang Yu lost lies in the difference between tolerance and intolerance." )
4 Forgive others for sublimating themselves
When the Buddha was alive, there was an "Achi Shi" king who killed his father, the "Wang Luo", in order to seize the throne, and became king on his own. Soon after, after learning about the crime of killing his father, he began to feel remorse, which led to fever and sores all over his body. After treatment, his condition not only did not alleviate, but became more and more serious. Although he was advised by others to seek repentance and rescue from the Buddha, he was still ashamed and unwilling to go.
Although Wang Piluo was killed by his son, he believed in Buddhism before his death, and he knew that his body and mind were illusory and impermanent. Therefore, he not only didn't have any resentment, but after knowing his son's situation, he showed his spirit and advised him that he was a disciple of the Buddha and was willing to forgive him with his compassion. Moreover, the Buddha was dying. If he didn't go quickly, he would never see the Buddha again, because only the Buddha could save him.
Wang's tolerance is really touching. He showed the true meaning of tolerance, and with this rare tolerance, he not only forgave his son, but also sublimated himself!
Therefore, tolerance is not only an idea, but also an essence that can be practiced, because it is an infinite and broad "emptiness" essence that everyone has enough.
When we return to our pure self, learning to forgive others means learning to forgive ourselves, and giving others a chance to mend their ways means giving ourselves a broader space!
Therefore, learning to be tolerant is a process of constantly learning to surpass ourselves and persistence. The more tolerant we are, the more purified we will be and the brighter we will be.
so, each of us; Everyone should make a deep wish:
Be tolerant of all those who have slandered, envied, despised, humiliated, deceived, and even hurt, harmed and killed me in the past!
I would also like to be tolerant. Now, all the people who are slandering, jealous, belittling, insulting, cheating, and even hurting, killing and killing me!
I am more willing to be tolerant. In the future, all those who will slander, envy, despise, insult, cheat, and even hurt, kill and kill me!
May you be tolerant from generation to generation, forever.
5 The tolerant Emperor of Song Dynasty
Zhao Kuangyin was born in 927, died in 976, and lived for 49 years. In 96, at the age of 34, he became emperor. 17 years in office. Immediately, Emperor Song Taizu and Zhao Kuangyin unified China, and released the military power through a glass of wine, thus realizing the transition to civilian rule. Song Dynasty paid so much attention to literature over martial arts and Confucian enlightenment. It also started the beginning that there was no minister usurping the throne after the Song Dynasty. Zhao Kuangyin not only didn't kill the active minister, which is better than what Liu Xiu did. What is especially rare and valuable is that the emperor tasted Yao Dian and sighed: "In the era of Yao and Shun, the crimes of the four murderers stopped from desertion, so why the secret evil of the modern constitutional program!" Zhao Kuangyin made laws. The law stipulates that ministers cannot be whipped in court. Don't abuse your officials. The liegeman shall not kill except for rebellion and rebellion. And established a system of speaking officials. Since then, the Song Dynasty has become the second period of academic freedom in the history of China since the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period. During this period, the emperor either allowed different opinions, or just demoted foreign officials, or dismissed them, without killing or persecution by the Rightists. The Song Dynasty did not promote literary inquisition, but was more tolerant of scholars. Therefore, there are many poets and poets who have written poems of resentment and arrogance that have been passed down through the ages. There is also the prosperity of Song Ci.
At the same time, the Song Dynasty was also the dynasty that carried out Confucianism the most. Zhao Pu, the founding prime minister of the Song Dynasty, said: Half of the Analects of Confucius ruled the world. Here, I have to say that Zhao Kuangyin is the first emperor of all time who has both achievements and morality. Compared with the world more than a thousand years ago, did the West have to go through the medieval stake to deal with different opinions? The Song Dynasty initiated by Zhao Kuangyin was really great.
Later, Song Taizong and Zhao Guangyi completed the great cause of reunifying China, but failed to recover sixteen prefectures and repeatedly failed to defeat the Khitan. Therefore, the unification of the Song Dynasty cannot be compared with that of the Han and Tang Dynasties. Zhao Guangyi was kind, caring for the people, caring for corporal, and had no hobbies in his life, except reading. Many scholars have been appointed one after another, which can be described as a persevering English master.
Song Zhenzong, Zhao Heng, his son, and their descendants all followed Zhao Kuangyin's enlightened and tolerant policies and respected Confucianism. After Song Zhenzong defeated Liao, he signed a covenant to reward the losers with property. Its essence is: I hate war and don't want to lose my life. At this point, the Song Dynasty concentrated on cultural construction, instead of expanding by force. This is a historical blessing for all the Chinese people. Zhao Heng reigned for 23 years, and in his later years he appointed a group of villains.
Song Zhenzong Zhao Heng's son Song Renzong Zhao Zhen succeeded to the throne. Zhao Zhen likes to learn and worship Confucian classics. For the first time, Zhao Zhen took out the Analects of Confucius and the golden mean of Mencius University and put it together for students to learn. And opened the precedent of four books. An envoy to the north once reported that there were fewer and fewer tributes from Korea and asked for troops. Renzong said: this is just the sin of the king. If we send troops now, the king will not necessarily be killed, but will kill countless people. When he encountered difficult cases, he was lenient. It is said in history that "in the world of Renzong, the suspected prison was subordinate to the light" (Ming Zheng Xuan's "Yesterday's Unfamiliar Day Compilation"). He doesn't like literary inquisition, and he is more tolerant of scholars. At that time, there was a scholar in Sichuan who presented a poem to the prefect of Chengdu: "Burn the broken sword door to the stack pavilion, and Chengdu will be a dry Kun." Isn't this blatant incitement to rebellion? The prefect of Chengdu bound him to the capital and handed him over to the emperor for severe punishment. However, Renzong said, "This is an old scholar who is eager to be an official and write a poem to vent his anger. How can he be punished? It is better to give him an official to do it. " He was awarded to join the army as a steward (ibid.). Renzong was in power for 42 years, and when he died, the obituary was sent to Liao. "People in Yan's border cried no matter how far away they were." Even the emperor Yelu Hongji of Liao held the hand of the messenger and wailed, "I didn't know the military revolution for 42 years." (Song Shaobo's Record of Shao's Hearing) is really worthy of the title of "Renzong". Zhao Zhen of Song Renzong can be described as one of the best outstanding monarchs with a generation of virtue.
6 tolerance creates the beauty of life
Rousseau, a French writer, fell in love with Miss De Firsson, who was just 11 years older than him, at the age of 11, and was deeply attracted by the purity and beauty of the mature girl unique to her, and De Firsson seemed to like Rousseau. So, the two fell in love with a bang.
But Rousseau soon found out that all that De Philson did was just to arouse the jealousy of another man she secretly loved, in her words, "just to cover up some other business activities". Rousseau's precocious and sensitive heart was greatly hurt, and he vowed never to see this woman playing with others' feelings again.
Twenty years later, Rousseau, who was already famous, returned to his hometown. On the sparkling lake, he saw De Ferson sitting in another boat. Her clothes are simple, her face is haggard and her expression is dim, and she has completely lost her former style. If you were a petty person, he would definitely gather together to bring up the past with her, make her regret and make her feel ashamed. What a good chance for revenge! Even if you just say hello in the past, it is also a good demonstration for the extremely proud De Filsson. But Rousseau quietly rowed the boat away. He felt that it was meaningless to settle old scores with a woman in her forties.
Rousseau is a happy man. He is relaxed because of tolerance and happy because of relaxation. Tolerance is a dexterous hand, which can untie the knot of injury.
7 "evergreen tree" in politics-Canadian Prime Minister Chretien (excerpt)
Canadian Prime Minister Jean? Jean Chretien is ugly, deaf and can't even speak English well, but such a small person can rise to the top in politics, and he has stood on the throne of the Prime Minister for three times, becoming an "evergreen tree" in Canadian politics. His experience really corresponds to China's saying: "All that glitters is not gold, but the sea can't compete."
Chretien's success lies in not making enemies, being willing to help others, and having the mind that "the prime minister can hold a boat in his stomach". In 1993, the Conservative Party suffered a crushing defeat in the general election. Campbell, the chairman of the Conservative Party who lost the position of prime minister, was forced to resign as the party chairman. Prime Minister Chretien, who won the victory, allocated an office and a secretary to her former rival, who lost her shelter, so that she could arrange documents calmly. A year later, Chretien offered the unemployed Campbell two alternative positions-ambassador to Russia or consul general in Los Angeles, and Campbell chose the latter-a job with an annual salary of 12, Canadian dollars and ministerial treatment. This is how Chretien turned his old enemy into a friend with his extraordinary tolerance.
8 Picasso doesn't care about fake paintings that pretend to be his works, and never investigates them. When he sees a fake painting, he only obliterates the forged signature at most. "Why should I make a mountain out of a molehill? Picasso said. "Fake painting is not a poor painter or an old friend. I'm Spanish, so I can't embarrass my old friends. Moreover, those experts who identify the original works also have to eat, and I have not suffered anything. "
9 Forgiveness is waiting on the other side of the bridge
Hemingway described a father and son who lived in Spain in his short story The Capital of the World. After a series of events, their relationship became extremely tense. The boy chose to leave home. Father looked for him anxiously.
When I couldn't find it everywhere, my father published searching for you in the Madrid newspaper. The son's name is Paco, which is a very common name in Spain. Searching for you wrote: "Dear Paco, Dad will wait for you in front of Madrid Daily tomorrow. Let bygones be bygones. I love you. " Hemingway then showed the reader an amazing scene. At noon the next day, more than 8 "Pacos" waiting for forgiveness came to the door of the newspaper.
There are countless people in the world waiting for forgiveness. The beneficiaries of forgiveness are not only the forgiven, but also as many people as they can benefit-those who forgive them. Forgiveness is a bridge that keeps us away from pain, heartbreak, despair, anger and injury. At the other end of the bridge, calm, joy and peace are waiting to meet us.
1 In Tang Gaozong, Liu Rengui was a left-hander and Dai Zhide was a right-hander. Everyone respects Liu Rengui and despises Dai Zhide. At that time, an old woman submitted a statement, and Dai Zhide was just about to write instructions. The old woman asked the people around her, is this Liu Servant Shooting or Dai Servant Shooting? The subordinate told her that it was a servant shot. The old woman hurried forward and said, "This is a servant who doesn't care. Give me back the complaint." Dai Zhide smiled and asked people to return the complaint to her. During his tenure, Dai Zhide had no obvious achievements. In front of the emperor and colleagues, also