Education and politeness are different and interrelated. The difference is that education reflects people's essential quality and moral level, and reflects a positive attitude and behavior towards themselves and others, while politeness is only an external behavior of humility and respect when people communicate with each other. Their connection is that educated people always resort to politeness when getting along with others. Therefore, we can neither say that a person who is polite in social occasions but always speaks ill of others in private is educated, nor that a person who is very enthusiastic about helping others is educated.

In other words, we need not only the beauty and perfection of internal moral quality, but also the courtesy and propriety of external behavior. The unity of the two helps us to establish good interpersonal relationships with others. Otherwise, others will either "avoid us" (if we are hypocrites) or "stay away from us" (if we are enthusiastic people who are full of foul language).

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"Cultivation" plays an important role in good interpersonal relationships, such as caring for others, respecting others, being measured, understanding, gentle, paying attention to details, caring for others, being broad-minded, sincere, open and aboveboard, and so on.

The essence of education is caring for people. Because I care, I can pay attention to and accurately grasp the scale of communication, leaving necessary private space for others; We will overcome all kinds of inconveniences and make our behavior conform to the requirements of social morality; Pay attention to the use of polite expressions everywhere and strive to create a gentle and peaceful atmosphere.

There is a basic principle in interpersonal communication: don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you. You care about others, be considerate, thoughtful, sincere, decent, respectful and decent, and others will usually treat you in turn. Over time, you will have interpersonal attraction, and your social communication and social identity needs will be fully met. So you will create a good interpersonal environment conducive to sustainable development.

In this way, you have one of the most important external resources that a person can rely on: healthy interpersonal relationships.

Therefore, the concern in education is a great concern for people and themselves, which is helpful for interpersonal communication to enter a virtuous circle.