A life without self-discipline is a life of mediocrity and waiting for death!

Self-discipline has always been a scarce commodity.

The reality is often like this:

Sad for his misfortune, and angry for his indisputable!

Life without self-discipline is an anticlimactic life, a broken life!

What I want to say is: in fact, real self-discipline happens where you can't see it.

First, what is self-discipline?

The book The Road Few People Walk defines self-discipline as follows:

"The so-called self-discipline is an important principle to solve the pain of life with a proactive attitude."

The first sentence pointed out that life is full of hardships.

Indeed, a person's life is made up of countless problems. When we encounter problems, do we choose to turn a blind eye and let it go? Or choose to blame others and have an unfair fate?

Only by facing all kinds of problems and pains in life with a positive attitude and internalizing self-discipline can we solve life problems and eliminate life pains.

Self-discipline is the stepping stone to "open life"!

Do you know what happened to those self-disciplined "perverts"?

Recently, I fell in love with two women: one is Chen Shu and the other is Sun Li.

In Perfect Relationship, 43-year-old Chen Shu plays the overbearing president Stella, who walks with style and needs temperament and figure.

In Settle Down, 38-year-old Sun Li is dressed in an ordinary suit and plays the role of "there is no room that can't be sold".

After reading them, I realized that age is not the enemy of women; A good figure is never just "thin".

Forty years old, why not live as a greasy middle-aged aunt? Instead, it is getting more and more glorious?

The answer is-self-discipline. Self-discipline makes them shine.

Chen Shu said that she has been practicing yoga for 20 years, and she spends at least 30 minutes every day as long as conditions permit.

No matter how busy filming is, as long as conditions permit, she always goes to bed before 1 1 at night and gets up at 6: 30 in the morning.

Sun Li is also a Pilates fan, and can practice anytime, anywhere. When filming Settle Down, she always recites her lines while practicing.

When women are generally worried about age crisis and physical crisis, they just repeat the same insistence day after day: going to bed early and getting up early, exercising, self-management and living a regular life.

These persistence, one or two days, don't see any difference, but a few years or more, will inevitably become an insurmountable gap.

Time will never beat beauty. Accurately speaking, it is a woman who has never been defeated or disciplined! As Chen Shu said: Over the years, I have never given up my self-demand and pursuit of beauty!

In the eyes of others, they have good resources and luck, but they have never seen that the essence of their success lies in decades of self-discipline.

Seeing this, you may disdain to say, who doesn't know that self-discipline has a happy ending? Just male and female servants can't do it! I'm too cruel!

Second, why should we be self-disciplined?

Self-discipline: the beginning is painful, the process is enjoyable, and the ending is beautiful.

Self-discipline is against human nature!

It is human nature to pursue comfort.

People are naturally lazy, hate work, like to avoid problems, lazy and short-sighted, and have a high opinion of themselves, but it is difficult to keep their feet on the ground. Many talented young people have succeeded, but their bright future has been ruined by lack of self-discipline.

The book "Self-control" concludes that "it is a very common challenge for human beings to concentrate, refuse temptation, control impulses and overcome procrastination." By its nature of self-protection, the brain usually blocks out these problems.

The better people are, the more they understand human nature. They deliberately hone their will, so that they can have cheetah-like patience, insist on independent thinking, and be good at solving various complex problems. This is inseparable from their strong self-discipline spirit.

Self-discipline can not only make us finish our work more efficiently, but also make our life healthier and even our marriage happier.

Once, I was also a late procrastinator, because of lack of self-discipline, I missed many "opportunities", such as procrastination, which led to my failure to get a promotion and raise; There are also various problems such as the inability to insist on practicing postpartum yoga after childbirth, which leads to the loss of shape.

Everyone knows that it is anti-human to face problems and pains, but society is developing at a high speed every day, and there is no extra time for us to grow up slowly, if we dare not get out of our comfort zone.

Before that, what we can do is to improve ourselves. Self-discipline is a gradual process of self-improvement, during which it will inevitably experience a lot of pain of giving up, and the ending must be "very beautiful".

Third, how can we achieve self-discipline?

The book "The Road Few People Walk" points out that self-discipline is a means and tool to get out of the predicament and gain mental maturity.

Self-discipline, simply put, is to take the initiative to ask yourself to suffer and solve problems with a positive attitude. The four principles of self-discipline are: delaying satisfaction, taking responsibility, being loyal to facts and keeping balance.

1. Delay satisfied

Delayed satisfaction is relative to "immediate satisfaction". Self-discipline is never an overnight process, but a gradual process of waiting patiently.

Just like "spring ploughing and autumn harvesting", sowing and harvesting are never in the same season. Many people can't understand such a simple truth. Many times, it is often the word "quick success" that blinds people's eyes.

For example, writing, many people often ignore that writing is actually a cumulative process. They fantasize that by learning some writing skills and routines, they can achieve the goal of "realizing" in a short time.

This is the psychology of instant satisfaction. I think it makes sense to do something only if you see the result immediately. In fact, I was too eager for quick success and instant benefit. I overestimated my ability for one year and seriously underestimated my ability for ten years.

Therefore, no matter what you do, if you want to achieve more lasting achievements and happiness, please remember that at the beginning, it is best to lower your expectations, postpone your satisfaction, abandon the mentality of instant enjoyment and give yourself more room for growth!

2. Take responsibility and solve problems in life in time.

In real life, once something goes wrong and accountability is needed, many people will choose to escape, shirk their responsibilities and protect themselves.

But can escape really solve the problem? Can shirking responsibility really protect yourself?

Obviously not!

Next time the same problem happens again, do you choose to avoid it or pass the buck every time?

In this case, instead of escaping, it is better to face the problem bravely, take the initiative to take responsibility and solve the problem in time. At this time, you may find that the problem is not as difficult as you think, and you are not as fragile as you think. Isn't this a windfall?

Be loyal to the facts

Each of us knows the reality like a map. The more we know about maps, the more handy we will be in dealing with problems. However, the authenticity and accuracy of this map are crucial. We must constantly revise this map according to the changes actually observed.

The most obvious is the change of life stage: from a weak child who has to rely on adults, to an independent adult who relies on others, to a weak old man who needs to rely on others, the world in our eyes has never been out of our control, to more and more controllable, and then out of control.

Some important events in life will also stimulate change. For example, after becoming parents, many people's sense of social responsibility soared and began to look for new meaning in life, while others encountered great challenges in intimate relationships. Unexpected natural and man-made disasters may also change our world outlook and outlook on life.

These moments require us to make a large-scale revision of the map in our hearts, and the revision work often brings us pain. Because people generally like the feeling of happiness and control, and change brings risks and fears.

So some people, like ostriches, turn a blind eye to change, while others try to maintain the status quo, which is a sign of disloyalty to the facts.

The author points out: to be faithful to the facts, we should spend our whole life conducting uninterrupted self-reflection, we should dare to accept external doubts and challenges, and we should remain honest all our lives. All this will bring temporary pain, but it is far better than indulging in a false comfort zone.

Accept questions and challenges from the outside world, for example, you can listen to others' opinions appropriately, change them if you have them, and encourage them if you don't. But you need to make sure that you don't let other people's comments affect your self-evaluation.

For example, the project didn't pass, and the partner complained because you didn't seize the opportunity. At this time, you should reflect on yourself, don't attack him personally to protect your self-esteem, and don't agree with other people's comments casually. We should have our own ideas.

4. Keep balance and find the right "degree"

Self-discipline is a hard, long-term and complicated job, which needs to be balanced.

For example, anger, "anger hurts the liver"-many people know that anger is bad for health. Therefore, it is natural to think that anger is harmful to health, so try to avoid strong anger. Therefore, it is natural to control anger through "self-discipline" and not let it show.

However, many people only know one thing and don't know another. The more they suppress their emotions and prevent them from flowing freely, the more serious the consequences, such as depression, and even a few people have suicidal tendencies.

Therefore, regarding emotional issues, "blocking is better than sparse." Expressing emotions is also a basic human need. It's normal to be emotional. There is no good or bad mood. The key is our attitude towards emotions: it is good to see, it is good to admit, and it is good to get along. There is no need to force yourself to ignore it or suppress it.

On the contrary, letting emotions flow is very beneficial to our physical and mental health.

Therefore, when dealing with emotions, we need to maintain a balanced "degree".

The same is true of self-discipline, which requires balance and an appropriate "degree".

Write it at the end

Self-discipline does not mean that we must live an ascetic life, but let us give up briefly in exchange for a broader and freer life.

Only self-discipline can give you the life you want.

Behind self-discipline is a more beautiful scenery.

Self-disciplined people are not necessarily excellent, but excellent people must be self-disciplined.

If you can't even do self-discipline, what qualifications are mediocre?

I hope that in the rest of your life, you can use self-discipline to improve yourself and embark on the road of mental maturity that few people take.

(Group 26, Jane)