Fu Lei has only three suggestions for his son to choose a spouse: kindness and generosity, and broad-mindedness; Both sides should respect, tolerate and understand; I am interested in your career and can take care of you.
The other person regards you as her whole world, which is very dangerous, but also very precious! Now that you have found out, wake her up slowly. You'd better insinuate rather than point it out directly, so that she can feel that this is to safeguard her personality independence and expand her worldview. If you think of Olivier's story, please ask her to read the book carefully once or twice and pay special attention to that episode. Only love, love, love like Jacqueline (I note: Oliver, two characters in john cleese's Christopher)! Some people are just characters in fairy tales. In the real world, they not only can't get love, but even can't live, because she knows nothing, has nothing, and loves nothing but love. Such a narrow world is not like a world! How can such a one-sided outlook on life be happy!
No matter men or women, only by focusing on career, study and art, and putting aside the ego as much as possible, can they be happy and feel that life is meaningful. Young girls who have never experienced the world often have an absurd dream, thinking that they can still maintain the climax of love after marriage. This is a delusion that goes against the laws of nature. There is an old saying that "a friendship between gentlemen is as light as water"; There is also a saying that "husband and wife respect each other as guests." It can be seen that only calm, implicit and gentle feelings can last; Another sentence means that husband and wife are completely bosom friends, which is what we call lifelong partners.