1, old "I love all old things-old friends, old times, old habits, old books, aging; And I believe, Tao Le, you must also admit that I have always liked an old lady. " This is what the old-fashioned Mr. Khadyka Sow said in Galsmith's famous play "Compromise". His wife, Tao Le Sai, was a little happy to hear this sentence. The romantic old man still likes her, but he doesn't care at all, because the second half of this sentence shows her old age.
There is nothing wrong with the first half of this sentence. He personally has this hobby. What does he do for others? And in fact, many people feel the same way, thinking that everything is old and good. Besides friends, times, habits, books and wine, there are countless things that the older the better. So someone copied this famous saying in print, put it in a glass frame and hung it on the wall, which seems to be a challenge to those who like old cloth and make it new.
As the saying goes, "people are not as good as old, and clothes are not as good as new." In fact, clothes and the like are still old and comfortable. When I put on my new clothes, I didn't dare to sit, and I didn't dare to lean, shivering. I've seen someone concentrate on the straight lines and trouser legs of his new suit. After sitting down, the first thing to do is to move his knees a few times, lest they make his straight trouser legs into pockets. At this point in life, there is nothing interesting to say! Have you ever seen a small picture of Einstein? He always wears a loose jacket with an open neckline, which is full of small holes burned by soot and patches of sweat and oil stains, but under the cover of this shabby clothes, he wanders in the void.
Shi Shuo Xin Yu records: "Huan's car can't ride new clothes." After the shower, the woman put on new clothes, and the car rode angrily to urge her to hug, but the woman actually hugged it back. Some people say,' clothes are not new, so why buy them?' Huan Gong laughed it off. "Huan Chong is really accommodating. He should say, "Why use new clothes when you have old clothes to wear? "Maybe he just laughed it off because he wanted to keep his inner peace. I have never seen this thing "decapitated crown"; However, there are still many behaviors similar to "cutting feet and fitting shoes". Most people wear shoes, and their design rarely takes into account that one foot has five toes. Although you don't have to "cut" your feet, I dare say that five toes definitely lack living space. Some people just think that new shoes are not easy to wear and can't be discarded.
"New House Completed" Jin Shengtan is listed as one of the "not too urgent". Although it was soon, the subsequent outbreak of "building a small wall and building a new wall" was embarrassing. "If you want to keep the old building for thousands of years, you must first plant a few inches to find the frost roots", but how long will it take! A building, only when it is quite dilapidated, has the interest of "the Woods are overcast and birds are singing up and down" and the joy of "the moss on the upper stage is green and the grass in the curtain is green". In western gardens, we should mow the grass and trim the trees from time to time and dress up fresh and dazzling. Obviously, our gardening standards are somewhat different. Even in the imperial garden, a "Haopu Room" and a "humorous garden" should be arranged outside the pavilion platform to show a little old and desolate. As for the lecture hall, if there is no ivy on the wall and moss accumulated on the feet for many years, can it be considered first-class?
Old things are cute because they have content and can evoke memories. For example, although the solar calendar is officially adopted by us, the lunar calendar cannot be abolished among the people. There are two New Years every year, and only in the old year will you be willing to "exchange new peaches for old symbols". Knowing that you are in the subtropical zone, you still have to cook bacon that often smells like corpses. Dragon boat dumplings are indispensable for the Dragon Boat Festival. How many people think of Dr. Qu, who is "brilliant and boastful", and feel resentful? Isn't it a fake story related to old customs? Appreciating the moon in the Mid-Autumn Festival and climbing mountains on the ninth day will always arouse people's annual indelible interest. Even Laba's pot of porridge is unforgettable. As for what individuals enjoy, of course, the older they get, the more meaningful they are. An Yixing sand pot engraved with Chen Mansheng's inscription, although shabby, smells natural and elegant.
"Pupu Jin Bei was appointed as Yuan Hua, Jin Su Jian Song Zhuang Edition" is enough to make people aloof and travel with the ancients. I have an ancient coin, "Lin 'an House is available, and all provinces must participate". I can't help thinking of watching West Lake singing and dancing in Du Nan. I have a pair of walnuts. My grandfather often rubs it in his hand and then rubs it in my father's hand. They have been ringing for decades, smooth and ruddy, like chalcedony. Now it's my turn to call them. My children and grandchildren almost broke them and took them out to eat! It is not surprising that every shabby house can bring a few old things. So is the country. How many decaying ancient countries have many antiques that can make people admire, appreciate, sigh and sigh!
Of course, there are many places where the past can be nostalgic, and there are many places where life needs a new atmosphere. Although we like to admire ancient cultural relics, we can't linger in beautiful memories forever. We still have to return to this realistic ground. In the museum, we are faced with the auspicious gold of Shang and Zhou Dynasties and the calligraphy and painting porcelain of Song Yuanming, but when we walk out of the gate with sore legs, we are immediately faced with crowded buses, ugly market tricks and glasses that are common in all kinds of drinks!
Old things are usually cute, but old things can't recur. Such as arrogant temper, remnants of slavery, lazy and selfish habits, ugly behavior of chasing dogs, abnormal and morbid aesthetic concepts, and countless diseases, we should go early, and the old diseases may come again, but it is better than the old diseases and new diseases. The most terrible thing is that advocating conservatism is actually just a fascination in the bones; Freshness is an illusion, but it's just a scratch, that is, both the old and the new are lost. dream
Zhuangzi, the great master: "A real person in ancient times sleeps without dreaming." Note: "If he sleeps without a dream, God will decide that the so-called perfect man has no dream." It is not easy to be a man. Just forget things and "suddenly lose coupling". Occasionally, it is a dreamless night for several days in a row. It is common to sleep in the sky, but no one can stop dreaming for a long time. Sometimes I really want to dream about a person, an event, or a place. I am desperate, passionate and profound, but I can't think of it and refuse to dream. Sometimes, things that have never been thought of, absolutely ridiculous things, can jump into dreams, suddenly, lingering, so surprised, so scared, so embarrassed, so ashamed. As for the dream we are looking for, or the dream worth doing, it is a rare thing. Even if we have good dreams occasionally, we are often interrupted by irrelevant things, which makes us feel embarrassed. Generally speaking, good dreams are hard to achieve, and nightmares are repeated.
When I was a child, I often dreamed of heavy snow. It is cold in winter in the north, and it is common for people to love snow. How can it not snow for a year? In my young mind, there is not much shock to the snow. At best, build a snowman in the yard and have a snowball fight. But I often dream that it is snowing all the year round; I dream almost every twenty or ten days. To me, snow is not "Jade Dragon lost three million, and the black sheep flew everywhere" (Zhang's sentence). I don't have that fantasy. There is no magnanimity of Bai Juyi's "poor goose feathers and heavy snow tonight, attracting high-spirited cranes" There is no such feeling as Liu Zongyuan's "an old man fishing in the cold river-snow".
Snow is just a big piece of six snowflakes, sifting from the sky like sound and silence. If the heavy snow covers all the irregularities on the ground evenly, and the earth turns white, as Han Changli said, "the concave ones are covered with bottoms from the beginning, and the convex ones are piled up", or as some people say, "the black dog is white and the white dog is swollen", I will feel relaxed and happy when I wake up. If there is a weak snowstorm with only a thin layer, the litter on the ground is still exposed, and the tiles on the roof can't be covered, I will feel suffocated as soon as I stay, and I will wake up with a splitting headache and end up in discord. I didn't stop dreaming like this until I was fourteen or fifteen.
Then I often have another dream, flying. It's not flying like a lonely cloud, it's not a Dapeng in Wan Li, and it's not what Xu Zhimo said in the article "Want to Fly": "Fly to the sky and watch the earth roll in space, see the sea from the land, and then look back at the land from the sea. See a volley ... ",I don't have such a scale of ambition. I dream of flying. When I am down to earth, I bend my legs, go up vertically and leave the ground. At first, it was a foot high, and then I gradually rose to ten feet away. When my feet gently swing, I easily cross the screen. I jump from one yard to another and turn left and right, which is like meaning.
I often have such dreams, like Peter Pan's "Children Who Never Grow Up", saying that he can fly freely and come and go freely. When I woke up, I felt all over. If you kick your legs in your dream and can't fly, and your body is as heavy as lead, you will wake up depressed and have a bad day. Such a dream ceased to exist when I was eighteen or nineteen. Maybe Peter Pan has grown up, and I just like Shelley said in Song of the West Wind, "I fell on the thorns of life!"
As an adult, I lived a life with my dreams upside down. I had a lot of dreams during the day, but I had nothing to say at night. When Jiang Yan was young, the dreamer gave a five-color pen, so Wen Zao became new.
Wang Meng, as big as a rafter, really became a great event. It is a miracle that Li Bai was a genius when he was young. I'm ashamed to say that I used to have a small four-color pencil with a rotatable refill, and a friend painted "Dream Pen gives birth to flowers", but it didn't help my writing. My relatives and friends gave me countless kinds of thin and thick pens, but I never dreamed of five-color pens or five-color flowers. As for Hua Xu's Yellow Emperor sleepwalking, Confucius' dream of Duke of Zhou, Zhuangzi's dream of butterfly and Tao Kan's dream of Tianmen, it goes without saying that it is beyond my power. I often have nightmares, either I get lost when I go out, I can't find my way home, and I "run into a wall" everywhere, just because I can't find a convenient place in time, even if I can find a place, it's hard to stand on my feet, or I fight with the wicked, and my limbs are weak. The result is probably a cry. Rich experiences like Huang Liangmeng and Conan Dream ... Isn't even dreaming a pleasure?
Dreams are hallucinations and dreams, which are related to past consciousness or future reality, but they have been regarded as a sign since ancient times. The Emperor's Century, written by Huangfu Mi in Jin Dynasty, said: The emperor had two big dreams, one was "the wind blows away the dirt in the world" and the other was "people drive sheep with thousands of crossbows", so he used the spelling method on the rivers and lakes to occupy the dream. According to the previous dream, he thought he was in the Cape after the wind, and according to the later dream, osawa thought he would make progress after grazing. It is said that the Yellow Emperor also wrote eleven volumes of dream-taking classics.
Assuming the reign of Emperor Xuanyuan in 2698 BC, what tools did he use to write books, and how did his books come down? There is no need to ask the official Zhou Lichun, who confirmed that there was an official in charge of dreams at that time. "Looking at the meeting of heaven and earth, distinguishing the qi of yin and yang, taking the sun, moon and stars as good or bad luck, accounting for six dreams, one is a dream, the other is a dream, the third is a dream, the fourth is a dream, and the fifth is a dream." Later generations did not say that dreamers, but dreams are good or bad omen. This concept is still deeply rooted in the hearts of the people. Nowadays, most people dream of coffins and think it is a symbol of promotion and wealth; The dung in my dream is thought to be a sign of gold. What's more, there have been legends since ancient times. Dream bears are auspicious for men, and dream orchids have bodies for women. They even dream that they have a big pine tree on their bellies. It's crazy.
2. Talking about friendship, friends are at the end of the five ethics. In fact, friends are an extremely important ethics. The so-called friendship is actually a good relationship between people, including many virtues such as understanding, appreciation, trust, tolerance and sacrifice. If friendship is the basis, other relationships, such as father, son, husband, wife and brother, can be successfully established. Of course, there is no choice between father and son and brother. Although couples have a choice, once they get married, they will not divorce, and friends are inseparable. However, to put it bluntly, father and son, husband and wife and brothers are all friends, but they are slightly different in form and nature. Strictly speaking, anyone who fully meets the requirements of friends must also be a good father, son, husband, wife, brother and elder brother. or vice versa, Dallas to the auditorium
Our ancient sages attached great importance to making friends. There are many words about making friends in The Analects of Confucius, even in the west. Cicero in Rome has the famous On Friendship, Montaigne in France, Bacon in Britain and Emerson in America all have articles about friendship. In my opinion, modern writers are unwilling to waste ink on this issue. I'm not sure if this is a sign of the decline of uncle Ji's friendship all his life.
In ancient times, the so-called "neck and neck" was too high for people to reach. For example, Damon and Piside, David and Jonaby, I'm afraid it's just a legendary talk. Even if the standard of friendship is lowered, it is very rare to become a true friend. Imagine how many friends you can trust if the money is handled. How many friends are willing to visit you when you are frustrated or sick, or even give timely help? How many people are willing to take care of your weak wife and daughter-in-law when you are not at home, but not too many? To say the least, I have always reciprocated, never against my will. How many people can last longer than failing? If there is no special interest to keep turning, I'm afraid it will be hard not to be a passerby in a few years. Franklin said, "There are three faithful and reliable friends-an old wife, an old dog and cash." The wonderful thing is that none of these three friends are friends. But Aristotle's sentence is the simplest: "My friends! There are no friends in the world. " These words border on cynicism. In fact, there are still friends in the world, but although you don't have to find them with lanterns, it's like panning for gold in the sand, which takes a long time to wash. Once forged, friendship will be rock-solid and never look back.
People who share the same interests in groups can always think it over. Making friends also pays attention to the right door, even if it is not as strict as the nine products, there is naturally a boundary. "Students and teenagers are not cheap, and Wuling horses are light and fat." Can you swim in the old days without moving your eyebrows after being "light and fat"? Emperor Guangwu of Han Dynasty allowed Yan Ziling to retire to Fuchun Mountain, which was very wise. Zhu Hongwu wrote to one of his friends: "Zhu Yuanzhang became emperor, Zhu Yuanzhang or Zhu Yuanzhang." Well said, it's scary to see him slaughter the hero later. People's physical and psychological structures are the same, but once they enter the official career, they may suddenly change. Confucius said, "He who has no friends is not as good as himself." I think, first of all, from the aesthetic point of view, and second, I just said not to make friends worse than myself, not to say that we must go higher. Friendship needs two things. If both sides want to make friends better than themselves, they will never make friends.
As Oscar Wilde said, "There can be no friendship between men and women." Generally speaking, this sentence is correct, because if there is a deep friendship between men and women, then friendship will easily deteriorate. If it is not a soul mate, it is not a friendship. Too much is too late, and that kind of division is difficult to grasp. It is possible to forget New Year's friends. Mi Heng was less than twenty years old, and Kong Rong was fifty years old, so they made friends. Such examples will never be lost. But it seems to be limited to the same sex. And as far as I know, the formation of the turn of the year depends on the same interests and mutual appreciation, but the older party needs to maintain a little childlike innocence and the younger party needs to be somewhat mature. Being old-fashioned is daunting, and being frivolous is unavoidable. It is easy for a single person to make friends, because he has no emotional sustenance, and he needs an accumulation object most when he is wandering, but with a child drinking black tea waiting for him, his mood will be different.
"A friendship between gentlemen is as light as water", because it is light, it can not be greasy and can last. "Make friends and respect for a long time." Respect is to keep your distance, not to be too intimate. However, "respect" means keeping a distance and preventing excessive intimacy. However, it is difficult to "respect it". Most importantly, don't overdraw your friendship, and keep some points all the time. Mark Twain said: "The sacred friendship is so sweet, stable, loyal and lasting in essence, it can last a lifetime, if you don't want money." This is really generous, and friends have profitable friendships, but what a subtle thing it is! The most unforgettable thing in the world is the money lent. When it comes to money, it's hard to sort out the grievances. How many growing friendships have been stifled by this blockage!
Persuasion is the proper meaning of friends, but it is easier said than done. In vanity fair, you are in cahoots, and it is difficult for you to tell right from wrong. How can you make efforts to convince others? On the other hand, it is a good medicine, but advice is hard to listen to. Who wants to be criticized for his lamella? Don't do it in front of a third party so as not to hurt his face, and don't do it when he is upset so as not to make him angry. Confucius said, "Although remonstrance is good, it can't stop." I always thought that persuading kindness and discipline were the negative effects of friendship. The happiness of friendship is positive. Only god beast likes loneliness, and man wants friends. "If a person ascends to heaven alone and sees the grand view of the universe and the beauty of the stars, he cannot be happy. He must find someone to tell him the miracle he has seen before he can be happy. " * * * enjoys happiness and suffers more than * * *, which should be a more normal interest in friendship.