To know yourself is to know most people. Hesitation is a way to avoid mistakes and sense of responsibility, that is, if nothing is decided, there will be no mistakes and problems. "Qi invaded the border of Lu, and after the report of the officials guarding the border, Huan Gong's attitude was that the enemy invaded and did not ask for instructions. Because the officials guarding the border did not ask for instructions after the war, but before the war, this seemingly simple and correct instruction had the meaning of escape, and fear of making mistakes was the root of Lu Huangong's hesitation. For those who pursue perfection, mistakes and misunderstandings bring unspeakable fear, so every decision will become a matter of life and death. Lu Huangong asked the border officials to deal with the invasion of the Qi army independently according to their own strength, not to mention how capable a border official is, not to mention that "soldiers are state affairs". How can there be a war that has nothing to do with politics in Zuo Zhuan? Escape is the root of hesitation. -Zuo Zhuan's Seventeen Years of Huan Gong was circulated in midsummer. He fought the Qi army in Xi for the border. At that time, the Qi army invaded the border of Lu, and the officials guarding the border came to report. Huan Gong said: "We should be careful to guard our own side and guard against accidents. Just try your best to prevent it. Why should foreign troops ask for instructions when they invade and fight it? " -"One kind of people try to avoid decision-making and postpone decision-making as much as possible; Another kind of person is to pull a scapegoat to frame others. "Lu Huangong's requirements for border officials fully meet two escape conditions, one is to postpone the decision as much as possible, and the other is to let the border officials handle it themselves. In the former, the monarch has no strategy to deal with the invasion of a country's army, and this "complete inaction" will only get the country into trouble; In the latter case, the monarch threw the pot to the border official, and this impulsive and thoughtless behavior would only make the border official fall into hot water; Failure is also conceivable! First, there must be a mistake. A person is not always 100% right. People make progress in the process of action, making mistakes and correcting mistakes, which is the essence of everything. Facing the invasion of Qi army, Lu Huangong subjectively imagined it as a daily border conflict, which was obviously inappropriate. It is conceivable that the mistake of "unprepared response behavior" will bring many subsequent mistakes, at least the border guards will suffer losses. People need to think about the facts, guess the consequences of different actions, choose the best plan, and then do it. If they are indifferent, they can't change or correct their mistakes! The fact is that Qi was invaded by the army, so it is obviously not good for border officials to deal with the invasion with limited forces. Is "just trying to prevent" really the best solution? Second, there must be many mistakes. No matter where, even the most successful people spend much more time on mistakes than on the right things. In most cases, the winner doesn't always win the general! Thank god the winning percentage can reach 50-50! The behavior of "border officials reporting to the authorities" proved that he had no decision-making power and was unable to cope with the invasion of the Qi army. How many mistakes can you make without decision-making ability? How much error time will these errors bring? " 1 successful decisions may be followed by thousands of failed decisions, and 1 successful events may be followed by thousands of failed events. "So, how much loss will 1 failed decisions and 1 failed events cause? The answer is more than ten million! Walking on thin ice, those in power have a great responsibility, for fear that any detail will not be done in place, which will have serious consequences. It is ridiculous that Lu Huangong should "roll with the punches" and "monopolize the power" on the issue of war! National affairs, only worship and honor! Third, mistakes are not terrible. Maybe only being a nobody can never make mistakes. It is helpful to realize the role of self-esteem and self-protection in the process of hesitation. Lu Huangong is more than a nobody. As the monarch of Lu, he will try his best to guard against aggression and fighting. Why did he ask for instructions to show his self-esteem? In the end, he will only destroy himself. "Hesitation is afraid that being wrong will hurt self-esteem and you need to convince self-esteem to serve you. "Tolerance is always the best way to convince your self-esteem, that is, tolerance for uncertainty, tolerance for mistakes and tolerance for problems. When the border officials received instructions from Lu Huangong, they fought the Qi army in Xi. Let's just accept this behavior on the grounds of "trial and error"! Anyway, wrong, Lu Huangong will lose a hair, but the soldiers and civilians on the border will be miserable!