Inferiority is a negative self-evaluation or self-awareness. Inferiority is a negative emotion in which an individual has a low evaluation of his own abilities and qualities. The generation of inferiority complex is often not a difference in understanding, but a difference in feeling. The root cause is that people do not like to measure themselves with realistic standards or measures, but believe or assume that they should reach a certain standard or measure. Such as "I should be like this", "I should be like someone", etc. Most of this pursuit is divorced from reality and will only breed more troubles and low self-esteem, making oneself more depressed and self-blame. Inferiority is the enemy of success in life. Since ancient times, how many people have been deeply troubled by low self-esteem, and how many people have struggled to find ways to overcome low self-esteem. The following approaches and methods are quite practical and can help people get rid of inferiority complex and move towards self-confidence.
Use compensation psychology to transcend inferiority complex
Compensation psychology is a psychological adaptation mechanism. Individuals always have some deviations in the process of adapting to society in order to obtain compensation. From a psychological point of view, this kind of compensation is actually a kind of "displacement", that is, in order to overcome one's physical defects or psychological inferiority, develop one's strengths and advantages in other aspects, catch up with or surpass others' It is a psychological adaptation mechanism. It is the function of this psychological mechanism that the sense of inferiority becomes the motivation for many successful people to succeed and the "turbo boost" for them to surpass themselves. The greater the "physiological defects" of people, they The stronger the inferiority complex, the greater the desire to seek compensation, and the greater the capital to achieve great things.
Lincoln, the American president who emancipated the black slaves, was not only an illegitimate son, born in a humble birth, but also ugly in appearance and lacking in grace in his speech and behavior. He was very sensitive to these shortcomings of his own. In order to compensate for these shortcomings, he strived to draw strength from education and worked hard on self-study to overcome his early lack of knowledge and ignorance. He read in front of candlelight, lamplight, and waterlight. Although his eye sockets sunk deeper and deeper, the nutrition of knowledge fully compensated for his shortcomings. He eventually got rid of his inferiority complex and became an outstanding president of the United States. Beethoven had a hearing defect since he was a child. After being completely deaf, Beethoven overcame the difficulties and wrote the beautiful "Ninth Symphony". His famous saying - "Man, you should help yourself!" has become the motto of many people who strive for self-improvement.
Under the influence of compensatory psychology, inferiority complex has the resilience to make people move forward. Due to low self-esteem, people will be clearly or even overly aware of their own shortcomings, which prompts them to work hard to learn the strengths of others and make up for their own shortcomings, thereby tempering their character. A strong character is the psychological basis for success.
Inferiority can drive people to success. The humanitarian Witt Boku pointed out that there is a spirituality deep in everyone's heart, and with this spirituality, people are able to accomplish many great achievements. This spirituality is a force latent in everyone's heart, that is, the power to maintain individuality and resist external aggression. It is human "dignity" and "personality". In order to maintain their dignity and personality, people require themselves to overcome their inferiority complex and defeat themselves. Therefore, embarrassing factors can often become a springboard for self-development. A person's true value and morality depend on whether he can transcend the trap set by himself, and the only one who can truly save us is ourselves. That is to say, "God only helps those who can save themselves."
Strong people are not born, and strong people are not without weakness. The reason why a strong person becomes strong is that he is good at overcoming his own weakness. When Pele, the football king of the generation, first arrived at the most famous Santos football team in Brazil, he was afraid that the big stars would look down on him, so he was so nervous that he stayed up all night. He was a leader on the court, but he doubted himself and feared others for no reason. Later, he managed to forget himself on the court, focus on playing football, and maintain a calm mentality. Since then, he has scored more than a thousand goals with an unstoppable momentum. The process of overcoming inferiority complex by football king Pele tells us: Don’t doubt yourself or belittle yourself. As long as you move forward bravely and take action, you will surely achieve success. Over time, you will be freed from tension, fear, and low self-esteem. Therefore, not being willing to feel inferior, working hard, and actively making amends are good medicines for treating low self-esteem.
Psychological compensation is a mechanism that enables people to turn defeat into victory. If used properly, it will help expand the realm of life. However, two points should be noted: first, do not be too ambitious and pursue impossible compensation goals; second, do not be driven by anger. Only positive psychological compensation can motivate yourself to achieve higher life goals.
Facing failure with an optimistic attitude
In the process of self-compensation, failure must also be faced correctly. The road to life is rarely smooth sailing and has many twists and turns. Success is made up of countless failures. As Walt, the founder of General Electric Company, said: "The road to success is: double the number of failures you have." "But failure is a kind of "negative stimulus" to people, which always makes people unhappy, depressed, and inferior. So, how to face it? How to free yourself? It becomes the key to overcoming inferiority complex and moving towards self-confidence.
In the face of setbacks and failures, only an optimistic and positive attitude is the right choice.
First, be persistent and not give up the pursuit due to setbacks; second, pay attention to adjusting and lowering the original "goal" that was unrealistic, and change strategies in a timely manner; third, use "partial success" to motivate yourself; fourth, Use self-psychological adjustment methods to improve psychological endurance.
To prevent yourself from becoming a "constant loser", you must be good at exploring and utilizing your own "resources". Although sometimes individuals cannot change the "arrangement" of the "environment", no one can deprive them of their rights as "self-masters". It should be said that today's society has greatly increased the development opportunities in this area. As long as you dare to try and fight hard, you will definitely make a difference. Qu Yuan was exiled and wrote "Li Sao", and Sima Qian was castrated and was later written in "Historical Records". This is because they never get discouraged or feel inferior at any time, and they have perseverance and perseverance! With this, you will break free from the shackles of difficulties and move towards the glory of life.
In addition, as a modern person, one should be mentally prepared to face failure. The world is full of opportunities for success, but also full of possibilities for failure. Therefore, we must constantly improve our ability to cope with setbacks and interference, adjust ourselves, enhance social adaptability, and firmly believe that failure is the mother of success. If you can "understand" after every failure and regard every failure as a prelude to success, then you can turn negativity into positivity, and turn inferiority into confidence.
Build self-confidence with practical actions
Conquer fear and overcome inferiority. You cannot just talk and stop at fantasy, but must put it into practice and see it in action. The fastest and most effective way to build self-confidence is to do what you fear until you succeed. The specific methods are as follows:
1. Stand out and sit in the front seat
In various forms of gatherings and in various types of classes, the seats at the back are always filled first, and most of the people occupy the back seats. , all hope that they will not be "too conspicuous". And the reason they are afraid of being noticed is because they lack confidence.
Sitting in the front builds confidence. Because if you dare to be the first, to go in front of others, to dare to put yourself in the public eye, you must have enough courage and courage. Over time, this behavior becomes a habit, and inferiority complex subtly turns into self-confidence. In addition, sitting in a conspicuous position will enlarge your proportion in the field of vision of leaders and teachers, increase the frequency of recurrence, and strengthen yourself. Try this as a rule and sit as far forward as possible from now on. Although sitting in the front will be more conspicuous, remember that everything about success is conspicuous.
2. Open your eyes wide and look at others.
The eyes are the windows to the soul. A person’s eyes can reflect his character, reveal his emotions, and convey subtle information. Not daring to look others in the face means inferiority complex, timidity, and fear; avoiding other people's eyes reflects a dark and unforgiving mentality. Looking squarely at others is equivalent to telling them: "I am honest and aboveboard; I respect you very much and like you." Therefore, looking squarely at others is a reflection of a positive attitude, a symbol of self-confidence, and a display of personal charm.
3. Walk quickly with your head held high and your chest high
Many psychologists believe that people’s walking posture and pace have a certain relationship with their psychological state. Lazy posture and slow pace are manifestations of low mood and a reflection of unpleasant feelings about yourself, your work, and others. If you observe carefully, you will find that body movements are the result of mental activities. Those who have been beaten down and ostracized often drag their feet and lack self-confidence. In turn, changing the posture and speed of walking can help adjust your mood. To show extraordinary confidence, walk faster than the average person. Speeding up your walking speed is like telling the whole world: "I want to go to an important place and do something very important." Walking briskly and with a high posture will bring a bright mood to people and make people feel inferior. Escape, confidence breeds.
4. Practice speaking in public
Speaking in front of a large audience requires great courage and courage. This is an important way to cultivate and exercise self-confidence. Around us, there are many people with sharp ideas and high talents, but they are unable to use their strengths to participate in discussions. It’s not that they don’t want to participate, it’s that they lack confidence.
In public, people who are taciturn think: "My opinion may not be valuable. If I speak it out, others may feel stupid. It's better for me not to say anything. Besides, others may think it's stupid." They know more than I do, and I don't want them to know that I'm so ignorant." These people often make vague promises to themselves: "I'll speak up next time," but they know very well that they can't fulfill this promise. Every time he becomes taciturn, he is poisoned by lack of confidence again, and he will lose more and more confidence.
On a positive note, if you speak up as much as possible, your confidence will increase. No matter what kind of meeting you are attending, you must take the initiative to speak every time. Many people who were originally dull or stuttered became confident by practicing speaking in public, such as Bernard Shaw, Tanaka Kakuei, Demosthenes, etc. Therefore, public speaking is the “vitamin” of faith.
5. Learn to smile
Most people know that laughter can give people confidence, and it is a good medicine for lack of confidence. But there are still many people who don't believe this because they never try to smile when they are scared.
Real laughter can not only cure one's own bad emotions, but also immediately resolve the hostility of others. If you smile sincerely at a person, he or she will have a good impression of you, which is enough to make you confident.
As a poem says: "Smile is the rest of the tired, the day of the depressed, the sunshine of the sad, the best nutrition of nature