The Analects of Confucius says: "If quality is better than literature, then you will be wild; if literature is better than quality, you will be history. If literature and quality are gentle, then you will be a gentleman."

It means that a person has high knowledge and good moral character. But he is poor at speaking, too straightforward, and often has a poor attitude towards others, giving people the impression of being dull and rude. Similarly, if a person has good eloquence and a dignified appearance, but lacks content in his heart and his moral character is not pure enough, he will come across as exaggerated and false. Only when both internal and external aspects are cultivated and the two aspects cooperate well can one be considered a gentleman.

In the workplace, many people have been playing clowns without even realizing it. When the dismissal letter was handed to me, I still didn’t know why I ended up like this. To sum up one or two, it is mostly because of the disconnection between "quality" and "literary" that one cannot leave a good impression on others, thus affecting one's own personal growth.

The first type of person may still be able to survive, but the second type of person will find it difficult to survive.

A person's inner and outer appearance are both very important.

01

I remember that when I first graduated and started working, there was a eldest sister in my workplace who was the first type of person. He is very capable, has a loud voice, and has a bad temper, and he often does not take the leadership seriously. People around her are afraid to get along with her.

As a newcomer, I was led by her and lived in fear every day. As long as there is a small flaw or something I don't understand at work, I will criticize him all over the place. However, because she has strong professional skills and speaks with authority, everyone unanimously recognized her work ability, so I did not have any disrespect for her at the time. Instead, I felt that working with such a person would make my nerves tense every day. Progress quickly, grow quickly, and master the business quickly.

She talks about all kinds of rules and regulations, and can see flaws in the work quality of those around her and her subordinates at a glance. It is impossible for everyone who works with her to cheat and cause the company to lose profits. However, she spoke directly and never considered other people's feelings. She directly questioned the leader in high-level meetings several times, which made the leader very embarrassed. Although every step she took was based on her own ability, it did not win her a good reputation.

Some people behind her back often say that she is very capable, but too aggressive. It seems that the unit cannot function without her. She simply thinks that she is Archimedes and can move the earth. The leader didn't let her take charge just because he couldn't find a more suitable candidate.

About a year later, the unit spent a lot of money to transfer a new supervisor from an outside company to take her place. The leader placed her in a relatively leisurely position, which was regarded as recognition of her hard work over the years. effort.

Before leaving, she suddenly put aside her indifference and arrogance and complained to me. Why should we drive her away? All her actions are for work from beginning to end, not directed at anyone, and never for her own personal gain. In recent years, she has focused all her attention on work, and her family has not been well managed. She just divorced her husband last year. Unexpectedly, the job for which she devoted all her efforts would send her to the edge, leaving her disheartened and hopeless.

I comforted her, "Maybe the new position is more suitable for you? But to be honest, you can try to change your methods. After all, not everyone can understand your character and heart."

p>

It is difficult for a person's behavior and external appearance to change quickly due to the change of roles. The eldest sister's aggressiveness at work will inevitably be brought to the family. This is probably an important reason why she cannot manage a good marriage. reason.

But fortunately, she is capable and has a high professional level. Although she cannot win the love of her leaders and colleagues and is marginalized, at least she has not lost her job.

The eldest sister has done a good job because of her ability and inner spirit, but she has offended many people because she often speaks fiercely and bluntly. This mismatch between inside and outside prevented her from reaching a higher level. Instead, she regretfully went to a position she didn't like.

On the contrary, the supervisor whom the company spent a lot of money to hire was not only highly professional, but also gentle and personable. Received unanimous praise from superiors and subordinates. When subordinates make mistakes, they must be strict and correct them in a timely manner, and when they make progress, they should be given appropriate encouragement. When balancing the relationship between superiors and peers, you can also be neither humble nor overbearing, humble and polite. The entire department quickly stopped complaining and worked together as a team in a happy internal environment.

Internally, you have self-persistence; externally, you can get along easily with others. Being able to balance between the two is true wisdom.

02

Compared to the first type of person, it is probably more difficult for the second type of person to gain a long-term foothold in the workplace.

This kind of person often leaves a strong first impression on others. Looks beautiful, speaks freely, loves to express himself, and is eager to be praised by others. However, because the inner character and knowledge cannot support the external expression, over time it will make people feel exaggerated and superficial, and what they do will be as ridiculous as a clown in the eyes of others.

A few years ago, there was a pretty girl named Yang in the company. She thought she was beautiful, smart, and capable, so she liked to be the first in everything.

The first appearance was when the company asked each department to come up with a quarterly work plan and make a PPT to show it at the regular meeting. Miss Yang volunteered not long after she arrived. When the department leaders saw how motivated the little girl was, they immediately taught her step by step.

After taking the stage to demonstrate, the department leaders were dumbfounded.

Ms. Yang's PPT did not do what he said, and she extended a lot of new and unrealistic things. She was eloquent and boastful at the meeting, and from time to time she would flip her hair and smile, while the department leaders were sitting on pins and needles and regretful.

After the meeting, the department leader asked her why she changed the plan without authorization, but Ms. Yang said that she had come up with many innovative ideas to make the plan even better.

The department leaders had no choice but to give up and suffered a silent loss. The top leaders thought that the plan was presented after being checked by department leaders, and believed that what was presented could be realized. But almost all of the new things Miss Yang added to the plan were flashy and unachievable.

The department leader was reprimanded twice that quarter, and appropriate explanations were given to senior leaders. From then on, Miss Yang almost planted a seed of vanity and impetuousness in the leader's heart. Leaders no longer dare to leave important work to her casually.

I originally thought that Miss Yang would be able to reflect on herself after this incident, but unexpectedly she was unaware of it. He's great at his job, but he's extremely enthusiastic about every opportunity he can get to perform. When the leader receives customers, she is the first to rush over to take photos. When the company holds annual meetings, she can sing and dance. She is the first to take credit for the results of the department. When senior leaders come to inspect their work, no matter what questions they ask, she can answer them quickly and sweetly, although her answers often make the department leaders nearby break into cold sweats.

Even though she dressed up beautifully and fashionably every day when she went to work, had a charming and charming smile, and spoke in a high-end and upscale manner, she still could not escape the fate of being fired.

Finally, when the company laid off employees, the department leader and the human resources department worked together to find a reason and handed her a dismissal letter.

Romain Rolland said that only the soul can make people noble. All those who claim to be noble but do not have a noble soul are like mud.

Miss Yang has always believed that beauty can withstand everything and that beauty can bring appreciation and recognition from others. So she tried her best to show off her external beauty, but neglected her inner cultivation and ability development. This kind of person may make people happy when they meet her for the first time, but over time, others will realize that she is lacking in heart and just has an empty skin, so they stay away from her.

Voltaire said that external beauty can only please people's eyes, but inner beauty can infect people's soul.

03

The story told in the movie "The Devil Wears Prada" starring Anne Hathaway also illustrates this truth.

Andrea Sanchez, a country girl who just left school, was lucky enough to get the opportunity that every girl in the world dreams of - Miranda, the editor-in-chief of the most famous fashion magazine "Runway" in the big city. ·Served as an assistant to Presley. However, although Miranda looks noble and fashionable on the outside, she is an out-and-out devil when treating her subordinates.

In order to meet Miranda's requirements, Andrea began to change her not-so-good external image. She learned how to match clothes, changed her hairstyle, wore Chanel, and carried Prandal on her back, making her look radiant and behave elegantly.

At the same time, she has plans and skills. She memorized two thick rosters in one afternoon and arranged the affairs before the boss issued an order.

Through continuous hard work, she has made all impossible tasks a reality. Even if something goes wrong occasionally for some reason, it can be repaired perfectly. The picky boss finally fell in love with this careful, hard-working, and beautiful girl.

When she is already comfortable in the workplace and her boss loves her very much, she can still remain kind to other colleagues and ask for advice humbly. When other colleagues asked her about work matters, she would carefully take out her notebook and record them carefully. Good co-worker relationships are also one of the reasons for her success in the workplace.

Coco Chanel said that true luxury is both inside and outside.

Although Andrea finally gave up the job in order to respect her inner persistence, her inner and outer parts have reached an agreement through the training in the workplace. Because she had the matching character and beauty, she completed her growth and transformation and became a better person.

04

Even if a person is not born with beautiful appearance, he must also learn to have a calm attitude, elegant conversation, and noble taste. After all, in the vast sea of ??people, the first thing that catches the eye is the outside. Your behavior and conversation may be the key to opening the door to career advancement.

If you have not cultivated good character, you should work harder to improve your inner qualities and let your appearance be sublimated through your heart. After all, beauty cannot be comforting if the soul is removed.

Just like a famous saying of the Indians: "If we go too fast, we have to stop and wait for the soul to catch up.

”

Wujie 365-day extreme challenge daily update camp? Day 40