At this time, you will find that the so-called mutual care, lasting forever, is a condiment based on material. Love without substance is like a loose sand, which will collapse when the wind blows.
I like a sentence recorded in Bai's "vernacular": "Men will attract nearby women because they see far; If you only look at women nearby, women will look far away. "
It's probably like this: "Men look at the distance and strive for their future life and a good future for their families;" When a man looks at the woman around him, it is a desire for control and a sign of not seeking progress. "
When you are in love, a woman can chat with you by bike, just because you are kind to her, and nothing else matters. After marriage, marriage is a combination of rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, and it is also a trivial daily life. Why do you have to bear the cold wind with your children and live a life of no fixed place?
Perhaps the poverty in the student days is caused by family reasons, which we have no choice, but many years after graduation, you have entered the society, married and had children, and your life is so miserable, which is your own reason.
Being poor at first is not poor, being poor for too long, or even being poor for a lifetime, all are problems of ability. I can't even support myself on my meager salary every month. I want to ask, which other woman dares to give her future to such a person.
You have no money to send flowers and presents, but at least you stand tall and fight for yourself and your life. But it's no wonder that a man who is always arrogant and unwilling to make progress will be rejected.
Love is just the function of hormones, and marriage is the daily necessities. When a person does not make progress and covets the immediate comfort, then he will be unreliable sooner or later.
On the other hand, no matter where a man is, as long as he has a heart to run forward, even if he can't provide a solid life for the other half now, countless women will fall in love with him.
There is a classic quotation in Pride and Prejudice: "Marriage that only considers money is absurd, and marriage that does not consider money is stupid".
The starting point of marriage is love, and material is the foundation of marriage. With love and material blessing, marriage can be happier and longer.
Every woman sees not only the present but also the future. Of course they don't mind walking side by side with men and fighting side by side.
What women want is a stable and lasting marriage. They can also endure the triviality of ordinary life and work hard for the daily life of their families in front of the stove, but they can't accept living with a man who is not motivated.
Long-term marriage needs not only basic material satisfaction, but also spiritual and spiritual nourishment.
Don't worry about choosing between love and bread, because love without bread is bound to die!