There are thousands of men who may be good husbands for a woman.

There is a saying from a girlfriend who is a lawyer. When I spit it out word by word, I almost slipped from my chair to the floor opposite me.

Don't make a fuss. This can also be said to men in turn, there are thousands of women in Qian Qian who can be your good wives. You know I don't want to do everything. My upbringing and occupation prevented me from saying such stupid things. I am so unconventional because of the "uniqueness" that writers often advocate in their works. Girlfriend Kan Kan.

There is no uniqueness. The only thing is lies. Looking around, what is the only thing? The sun? There are countless suns in the universe, and the brighter one is the Ganges River. Fingerprints? Fingerprints are the same, although theoretically only possible among billions of people. Fortunately, we don't need to be so precise in finding husbands, not criminals. Many things in the world, too precise, are bound to be harmful. A partner is basically a fuzzy math problem, and you must be sloppy when you should be sloppy.

There is a famous saying that is very harmful, that is, every green leaf is different. I believe that under the electron microscope of scientists, there will be great differences between leaves. But in the eyes of ordinary people, they do look alike. It is neurotic to have to look at basically the same thing in a very different way.

Marriage is a common problem of ordinary people. Don't complicate things artificially. The person who is suitable to be your husband is by no means unprecedented. Just as we are ordinary women who have existed for a long time, those ordinary men have lived on the earth for many years. We are not only a person, but also a type. Just like people who like to eat jiaozi, most of us also like to eat steamed stuffed buns and pies. Science has long proved that onions and carrots are congenial and will surely become good friends. Soybean and castor were born in peace. Roses and lilies are planted in one place, with flowers and lush foliage. But cabbage and celery are the same, and they are incompatible. Lilacs and daffodils are incompatible. Tulips will simply forget the grass until they die ... If you are a rose, you can basically get happiness as long as you find one of the lily species soberly and firmly.

Of course, although the absolute number of a certain kind of people is quite large, the earth is very big and people are walking around. Whether we can meet a suitable partner at a certain time is not very optimistic.

Believe that the only one, you are doomed to stumble in the vast sea of people, just like a boat trying to catch a trout that doesn't know where it is, waiting for you are countless thirsty dawns and sleepless moonlit nights.

Holding the only wish will often make women have the idea of assembling boyfriends and husbands. Appearance is a very important bargaining chip, and naturally it is among the best. Coupled with this high degree, that family is good, and the other has a gentle temper and a successful career ... How wonderful it is that women can't break men down, cut off their best parts, and stick them together by hand with the above parts to become a beautiful new man!

Unfortunately, the universe is vast, where can I find such glue!

The core of this seemingly beautiful fantasy is a false fog at work. The only natural couple in marriage hardly exists. At many weddings, we thought that the marriage made in heaven disappeared like lightning. Real golden and silver weddings are mostly eternal running-in and tacit understanding.

Women should not pin their happiness all their lives on choosing men before marriage, thinking that choice is everything. If you are right, everything will be fine, and if you are wrong, you will be defeated. Choice is just an opportunity to make a decision. Of course, right is better than wrong. But the right choice is just a good start. Even if the direction is right, we will still encounter a storm. Fresh water is gone, the boat is rowed away, and the sail is broken ... All kinds of dangers are like reefs, lurking in waterways, and the boat may overturn anywhere. Wrong choice, but lost the first game. Of course, it's annoying to start badly, but the season is still long and we can prepare for the coming year. As long as you win the final victory, you will always be a good chess player.

In our life journey, we have to often enter the shopping malls that sell our failed products. There, the pain wrapped in a gorgeous coat was forcibly sold to us. This heavy and painful burden makes people depressed. So out of the shop, many people use their forgotten hands to throw away their pain as quickly as possible. This is emotional self-protection, understandable. But it is a pity that buying bamboo slips and returning pearls is not worth the candle. What you pay is the gold coin of life, and all you get is garbage. If we can endure the suffering of the soul and carefully open the layers of packaging, we will find a precious gift given randomly by failure at the heart of the pain-an experience and sentiment that thousands of dollars can't buy.

If you insist on believing in the only one, and you find nothing after searching hard, or you get it back, you will be bored. You can always add some credit to the income column with the certificate of deposit you have saved painfully. When it accumulates to a considerable amount, squeezing it out on a lonely night may kill you.

Even if the choice is lucky enough to be close to the "only", you can't let go. "Unique" is not a life-long safety policy, but a fresh creature that needs to be preserved, moistened, fertilized and carefully cared for. Nothing needs nutrition and clean vitamins more than a small animal like marriage. Just as there is no eternal enemy, there is no eternal lover. Lover rises with the new sun every day. The more emotional love, the easier it is to rot, just like delicious broth. If it is not cooked every day, it will soon breed miscellaneous bacteria and even rot.

Don't believe in uniqueness. There is no unique occupation in the world. As long as we work hard and work hard, there are thousands of jobs in Qian Qian that are suitable for us to run. There is no only benefactor in the world. As long as you are kind to others, there will be warm hands to greet you in times of crisis. There is no unique opportunity in the world. As long as you are prepared, hope will shine tenaciously. No one in the world can only be your wife or husband. As long as you have self-knowledge, find a type that suits you, and really love each other for a long time, you will experience the happiness that accompanies you.

When my girlfriend finished, meditation enveloped us. I said, a lot of your words made me feel very enlightened. but ...

But ... what? Let's get this straight. Girlfriend is a frank person.

I said, is it because work and love are not your only thing, so you are so determined? No matter what you say, I still believe there is a "unique" probability in the world. Just like jade, we can't deny its value just because we don't have it.

My girlfriend said with a smile, if a probability is almost zero, why insist? How many marriages in the world are painful because of the pursuit of the ethereal "only"! For us ordinary men and women, the only way to resist may be the road to happiness.