1. It is important for people to be self-aware

A person who can clearly understand and treat himself is the smartest and most valuable thing. "He who knows others is wise, and he who knows himself is wise. He who conquers others is powerful, and he who conquers himself is strong." It means that being able to understand and know others is called wisdom, and being able to know and understand yourself is considered smart. To know is to be able to know oneself. "It is important for a person to know himself." Laozi believes that a person's ability to know others is a manifestation of wisdom; and being able to know oneself is true wisdom.

2. Recognize yourself

The saddest thing about life is not that you are unable to recover after a failure, nor is it that you have chosen the wrong path in life; Recognize yourself, and you still don’t know your true deeds. To be a good person, you need to recognize yourself, be strict with yourself, and be good at examining yourself by comparing yourself with others, and learn from others. Only when a person first understands himself and finds his goal can he have the right to choose what he wants and reject what he doesn't want. If you don't know yourself correctly and have no goals, and you just put down what you have now because you think it's not good, then you have no independent opinion and have different ideas. If you hesitate like this, you will get nowhere in the end. The ancients said: "When you see a virtuous person, you should think about it; when you see an unworthy person, you should introspect yourself." This means: when you see advanced model figures, you should learn from them and emulate them; when you see the shortcomings or shortcomings of others, you should ask yourself, Check and compare ourselves to see if we have similar problems and deficiencies to avoid repeating the same mistakes, so that we can continue to learn from others' strengths and make up for our own shortcomings. Only by recognizing yourself and knowing whether you are tall or short can others recognize your achievements, and you can enjoy yourself, and then you can truly change your past.

There is an owner of a skyscraper who is worried about the expensive elevator repair costs every month. Because the building is very high, the elevator does not come as soon as you call it. Passengers often wait impatiently and press the button continuously, so Elevator buttons break quickly. Although people see that the elevator button is already lit, they still have to press it again to feel at ease. It seems that the press of others does not count, and they have to press it with their own "magic finger" for the elevator to come. The boss posted many notices next to the elevator, but to no avail. Finally, he posted a reward for anyone who could make passengers change their habits. As a result, a psychologist installed a large mirror on the elevator door and easily solved the problem. Because the mirror allows passengers to see their anxious appearance, as soon as they stand in front of the mirror, they immediately become polite. The originally bustling crowd becomes gentlemen and ladies in front of the mirror, patiently waiting for the elevator. This is the magical function of the mirror. Many times, people don't intentionally do evil things, they just don't know what it looks like when they do it, and they just suffer from not knowing it. The ancient Greek philosopher Heraclitus said: "A person's character is his destiny." This means that a person should recognize his own nature and live a life that is most suitable for his nature, and for him this is It is the best life. To put it bluntly, it means recognizing yourself. If you are a dragon, you should not crawl underground like a snake, letting others control you, and always think about how to fly in the clouds; if you are a duck, you should not try to compete with the peacock. People have different abilities. When you are ready to do something, you might as well recognize yourself first before taking action, so as not to be blinded by the goose instead of missing it. When a person lives in this world, it is important to understand the purpose of his life, recognize the value of his life, and then work hard to realize his value and shine, instead of using his ignorance and empty self-confidence to destroy his youth. On the single-plank bridge of life, one side is the abyss of self-confidence, and the other side is the gap of inferiority. When you are proud, don't forget to act, and don't over-exaggerate your own important role. The earth will still turn without anyone; when you are frustrated, don't be too inferior. "No one is a sage, how can he be without faults?" "A gentleman should examine himself in three days." ” Only by truly recognizing oneself and knowing oneself without pretense can we not deviate from the course on the way forward, and can we “win every battle” in the arena of life. The ancient Greek philosopher Heraclitus said: "A person's character is his patronus." Indeed, once a person recognizes his nature and knows who he is, he will also know what he wants, just like It’s like being protected by God, you won’t get lost in the noisy world. Zou Ji, the prime minister of King Wei of Qi, was handsome, eight feet tall, burly, and very strong. Xu Gong, who lived in the same city as Zou Ji, was also a handsome man and was famous in Qi State. One morning, after Zou Ji got up, he put on his clothes and hat, strode to the mirror and carefully looked at his outfit and his appearance. He felt that he looked really different and superior to others, so he casually asked his wife: "Look, who is more beautiful between me and Mr. Xu from the north of the city?" His wife stepped forward and helped him tidy up his clothes. , while replying: "You are so beautiful, how can Mr. Xu compare with you?" Zou Ji didn't believe it, because Mr. Xu who lived in the north of the city was recognized by everyone as a handsome man, and he might not be able to compare with him. He, so he asked his concubine again, "Who is more beautiful between me and Mr. Xu in the north of the city?" His concubine quickly said: "My lord, you are much more beautiful than Mr. Xu, how can he compare with my lord?" "The next day, a guest came to visit. Zou Ji chatted with him. Remembering what happened yesterday, he asked the guest again: "Compared with me and Mr. Xu from the north of the city, who is more beautiful?" The guest said without hesitation: "Mr. Xu? Not as good as you, you are much more beautiful than him." Zou Ji conducted three surveys, and everyone agreed that he was more beautiful than Xu Gong.

But Zou Ji was a wise man and was not complacent about this, thinking that he was really more beautiful than Xu Gong. One day later, Duke Xu from the north of the city came to visit Zou Ji's house. Zou Ji was stunned by Xu Gong's majestic and radiant image at first sight. While the two were talking, Zou Ji couldn't help but look at Mr. Xu. He felt that he was not as good as Xu Gong. In order to confirm this conclusion, he secretly looked at himself in the mirror, and then turned his head to look at Xu Gong. On the contrary, he felt that he looked worse than Xu Gong. At night, Zou Ji lay on the bed and thought about this matter over and over in his mind. Since I am not as good looking as Xu Gong, why do my wife, concubine and the guest all say that I am more beautiful than Xu Gong? In the end, he finally found the solution to the problem. Zou Ji said to himself: "So these people are all complimenting me! My wife says I'm beautiful because she prefers me; my concubine says I'm beautiful because she's afraid of me; my guests say I'm beautiful because they want something from me. . It seems that I cannot recognize my true self because of the compliments and praises from people around me. "The biggest shortcoming of people is that they are always used to looking for confidence in the recognition and recognition of others, and use other people's coordinate system to determine their position. . In order to cater to others and achieve conceptual unity, even though it goes against one's own will, one is happy to do so. As a result, innovation disappears, personality becomes sex, and characteristics become popular colors. Lu Xun said it well, only by digging out the bad roots of a nation can we prescribe the right medicine to cure diseases and save people. However, it is not easy to recognize yourself. It may be a painful process to have someone analyze yourself carefully from head to toe, but it will benefit you throughout your life. Maybe you are a successful person, but don’t forget that the garland of success often covers up some crises that are not easily discovered. That beautiful laurel crown may blind you, weaken your ambition, exhaust your ambition, and cause you to embark on a downhill road without knowing it until you fall into the abyss and regret it too late. So, recognize yourself, lift off the beautiful garland, avoid the thunderous applause, put down your high posture, so that you can face your own achievements without forgetting your shortcomings and shortcomings. Maybe you are a loser, but don’t forget that the shadow of failure often covers those shining pearls. In the endless darkness, you lose yesterday’s passion and ambition; you lose yesterday’s complacency; you even lose your ideal; you lose the future. ;Losing self-confidence, but in fact you are capable of making yourself successful. So, recognize yourself, push aside the fog-like shadows, avoid the endless darkness, step out of the muddy swamp, raise your once-lowered head, and you will find that you actually have enviable treasures in you. How to recognize yourself, you can only use the mirror in your heart to bravely look at your heart, know yourself, and know what your characteristics are? What's your personality like? If you have any shortcomings, dig out your own bad roots, push yourself all the time, and examine yourself three times a day, only then can you understand yourself, defeat yourself, and conquer yourself. Only by facing all the problems in life in this way can we calm down and think carefully about how to solve them. Therefore, understand and evaluate yourself correctly, so that you will have a meaningful life and be able to prove to the world: I have been in this world before.

3. Know your strengths and weaknesses

Knowing yourself correctly is reflected in two aspects: first, knowing what your strengths are; second, knowing what your shortcomings are. . A large number of people only know their own strengths, or even exaggerate their own strengths, but do not know their own shortcomings, or even avoid their own shortcomings. Such people often claim that they are self-aware. In fact, their "self-knowledge" is only half of self-knowledge at best. Judging from the consequences of their dealings with people and things, they are neither self-aware nor self-aware. The thing is exactly like this, the more people advertise how they are self-aware, the more they are the least self-aware and the least self-aware. You only know your own strengths and don’t know your own shortcomings. When people with this disease talk about their work, they only talk about their achievements and not about their shortcomings; when talking about individuals, they only talk about being successful, not about walking in the city; when talking about family, they only talk about being filial to their parents and being kind to their wives and children, not about those shady things. Tricky. Most people who suffer from this disease have black gauze wings on their heads that can shake. First, because their words are like "imperial edicts", and people follow them whether they are right or wrong, so they always think that they are right and wise; second, there are always a group of people carrying sedan chairs and blowing trumpets around them, praising how wise and wise they are. Great, no matter how hard you serve the people, you feel like you are in a fog all day long, feeling dizzy, thinking that you can really stand shoulder to shoulder with God and Buddha. As a human being, everyone should be self-aware, but as a leader, it is even more important to have the spirit of self-awareness. Leaders at the grassroots level may not be able to qualify as officials, but they are leaders of a unit or a department after all. Therefore, they are not only likely to be surrounded by nepotism, but also may be surrounded by nepotism. It is very easy to be surrounded by some villains who specialize in flattering others. It is not easy for them to hear correct and true opinions and situations, let alone criticism of their own shortcomings. All they hear is flattery. Therefore, without true self-knowledge, it is easy to fall into the mist of clouds and mountains. When a leader is neither a king nor an emperor, he will still have all kinds of people around him, and you can often hear words of compliment and praise. Which of the people who say these words are "selfish" and which are "selfish"? "Those who are afraid of me" and "those who want something from me" must be well aware of it, and you cannot let others fool you in a confused way, otherwise you will be an unqualified leader. Therefore, if you want to develop yourself and gain both academic and career benefits, "self-knowledge" is a prerequisite for developing and improving yourself.

More than two thousand years ago, the Chinese thinker Lao Tzu emphasized that people should be kind to themselves. He said: "Those who know others are wise, those who know themselves are wise; those who conquer others are powerful, and those who conquer themselves are strong." In today's terms, people who can correctly understand "people" are very wise and can correctly understand themselves. A person is a smart person and a person who defeats others. Only a person who can recognize his own shortcomings and overcome his own shortcomings is truly a strong person. Only when everyone truly knows themselves and "knows their strengths and weaknesses" can they choose their own development direction and determine their goals. A person who cannot fully understand himself is a person who cannot evaluate himself correctly. In learning or interpersonal communication, it is easy for him to have two extremes in his mind: one "end" is to belittle oneself and belittle oneself; the other "end" is self-esteem Inflated, arrogant. And "the greatest pride and the greatest inferiority complex are the greatest ignorance about oneself." It is not easy to truly understand yourself. In order to remind people that they must pay attention to self-understanding, in an ancient temple in Greece, the intriguing warning "Know thyself" engraved long ago still remains. Things are constantly developing, and self-understanding is endless. Han Feizi said: "The difficulty of knowing lies not in seeing others, but in seeing yourself." This is indeed the ultimate truth. Some people can see clearly, and they can also see thousands of miles away, but they are blind to themselves. When talking about other people's shortcomings, Zi Chou Yin Mao, Tao Lai, but when it comes to his own, he doesn't know anything about it. When you look at others, you always wear a magnifying glass; when you look at yourself, you can’t see through the wooden glasses. You are so perfect, without any flaws. If you are a person with a certain reputation or a certain official position, I am afraid it will be more difficult to be a "confidant" and it will be even more difficult to get out of the circle of narcissism. As Mr. Lu Xun said: "Celebrities are respected in society, and celebrities are often tempted by their admiration. If you don't stay vigilant, you will be stunned." So know yourself and strive to be a smart person. It is important for people to know themselves. The scary thing is that self-absorption is more dangerous than open challenge. Those who think they are right are not enough, and those who think they are wise are ignorant. After you understand yourself, you can understand others. Once the shooting star shows off its light in the brilliant starry sky, it ends everything. Self-exaltation will lead to danger, complacency will lead to overflowing. When you win, you think you are perfect. When you achieve great things, you take credit for yourself. When you have a high reputation, you feel arrogant. The ancients have classic discussions in this regard. Confucius said: "When three people walk together, there must be one who is my teacher." "Laozi" says: "He who knows others is wise, and he who knows himself is wise." The French thinker Rousseau pointedly pointed out: "The reason why people are They make mistakes not because they don’t understand, but because they think they understand everything.” However, the proletarian revolutionary Comrade Xie Juezai humbly regards himself as a “patch” of the revolution. If the sages of ancient and modern times, both at home and abroad, are like this, how much more can we, a common people like us, be far less wise? If you want to truly understand yourself, you must look at yourself from a different angle. First, "examine yourself." Look at yourself objectively, step out of yourself, and look at yourself, just like looking in a mirror, not only looking at the positive side, but also looking at the negative side; not only should you see your own highlights, but also be aware of your own flaws. This includes self-evaluation of one's own knowledge, abilities, personality, quality, etc., and avoid self-admiration or arrogance. Secondly, we should constantly improve ourselves, think of others when we see good ones, correct them if they are there, and encourage others if they are not. It should be noted that there is heaven outside the sky, and there are people outside the world. Only by truly understanding your own strengths and weaknesses, clarifying which ones need to be carried forward and which ones need to be avoided, avoiding your shortcomings and promoting your strong points, can you accurately position your life coordinates. Progress begins when you realize your shortcomings.

4. Know yourself, understand yourself, go deep into your heart, and don’t be confused by your own appearance.

Today’s society is a society with rapid economic and technological development. Competition is full of every corner of society. Although we have opponents all the time, and opponents are putting pressure on us all the time, but the real The enemy is ourselves. Our self often becomes the biggest stumbling block to our success. Many times, when we fail, the main reason is not because of any other reasons. The main reason often comes from ourselves, and it is us who hold ourselves back. In order for us not to hold ourselves back, we must know ourselves, understand ourselves, recognize our own strengths and weaknesses, make full use of our own strengths, avoid our own shortcomings, and correct our own shortcomings. Only when we know ourselves, can we maintain a normal mentality when we achieve results, and will not become proud and complacent, lose ourselves, and overestimate our abilities; only when we know ourselves can we maintain a normal attitude when encountering setbacks and failures. I will not be knocked down by it, I will continue to work hard for my set goals, and I will not underestimate myself. No one can succeed in a smooth sailing, and nothing can be accomplished without putting in any effort. When we encounter setbacks, when we retreat for various reasons, we must re-understand ourselves. , only on the basis of a correct understanding of ourselves can we regain our navigation coordinates and move towards victory. Many times, we always think that we are right, but when things come to fruition, we discover our mistakes. We often think that we fully understand ourselves, but in fact we are deceived by ourselves, or we are unwilling to be powerless. To understand ourselves, to know ourselves correctly, we are willing to be paralyzed by our own appearance.

How do you know yourself? Understanding oneself means understanding one’s own personality, characteristics, strengths, weaknesses, ideals, purpose of survival, values, interests, hobbies, dislikes, mental state, physical state, life patterns, family background, social status, social circle, circle of friends, and the present. Make a correct and comprehensive assessment of whether you are at the peak or trough of life, what your long-term or short-term goals are, what you want to do most, what your worries are, what you can do, what you cannot do, etc.

5. Learn to control your thoughts instead of letting them dominate you.

Our specific human activities are all preceded by thoughts. Every behavior is controlled by our thoughts, some unintentionally and some intentionally. But the mind is built on our limbs, it must originate from our body. Before thought control activities, we must first proactively guide or control them correctly, correct errors, and issue correct action instructions. In this way, our behavior will reduce impulsive factors, make our emotions more stable, and be able to look at problems more rationally. If we want to control our thoughts and let them be controlled by ourselves, we need to know what we want to do, what we can do, and what we cannot do. After clarifying these, we can mentally set a criterion for our behavior and use this criterion to force ourselves to do what we should do, what we should not do, etc. It is not easy to control our own thoughts. In the process of activities, the rules we originally set for ourselves will be affected by various factors from time to time, making the rules we adhere to begin to waver or even collapse, so During the activity, we must review our behavior from time to time, think about our gains and losses, and reduce our impulsive and radical psychology. Only in this way can we regain control of our thoughts and make our behavior more rational. For example, some people are studying and see their classmates playing football, and they immediately cannot control themselves. Although they struggle internally, they are quickly defeated by the various reasons they find; some people know that the continuous time online is too long. It has bad effects on the body, but they still cannot overcome the temptation of the Internet; some people have bad habits of knowledge theft, but they are still defeated by their material desires, and finally become habitual thieves. When our thoughts begin to waver, we must pay attention to mastering our thoughts, controlling our thoughts, and regaining control of our thoughts. Only then can we consistently complete tasks and achieve our goals. ?

6. Set ambitious goals and find your own idols.

The goal we are talking about is not necessarily to fight for the cause of communism for life. Although in a sense, each of us should set such a goal, but to be honest, This goal is indeed not easy to establish, and many people only pay lip service to it. As far as we young people are concerned, it would be great if we can set the goal of not harming the interests of others and serving the people wholeheartedly. No matter what, we all need to set an ambitious goal. Only by setting an ambitious goal can we have a direction for our efforts and not act blindly. Establish goals, both long-term and short-term. Long-term goals can be what career you want to do in the future, what big things you want to accomplish in this life, or how much money you want to earn at your age, etc. All in all, our goal should be what we want to do most. Of course, it is best not to want to play games all our lives or become a thief and gambler in the future. Our goal must be normal and not harm the interests of others. If No, then you must first examine your own outlook on life and your inner world to see if you have any problems with your personality.

Long-term goals sometimes may not play a big role in our current actions. This requires us to establish short-term goals, preferably short-term goals. For example, how far we have to run during physical exercise this morning; when the homework must be completed; when we must carry this article; we must not enter the game room today; what score should we get in the exam of this unit, etc. Use these short-term goals to correct our behavior at all times and spur ourselves to work hard. If we persist in the long term, our self-control will naturally be enhanced. Setting goals is an important way for us to cultivate and enhance self-control. In addition, we can also find our own idols, use them as our role models, and always adjust our actions and thoughts based on our idols. Idols can be revolutionary martyrs, national heroes, scientists, writers, athletes, business elites, outstanding classmates, etc. Generally speaking, the idols we choose should be people with relatively advanced ideas and greater contributions to society. Only in this way can we use idols as examples to motivate our own behavior and adjust our thoughts to play a better role. Of course, it’s okay to use singers and movie stars as role models. They also contribute to society and can at least play a positive role for us. If we take local gangster leaders, legendary thief, casino gamblers and other negative characters If you become an idol, it will only have a negative effect and push you into the abyss of failure or even crime. Many teenagers' bad habits are caused by negative influences.

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