Love should be between two people. But in the process of marriage, the relationship between two lovers becomes complicated, which will gradually be mixed with many other factors, such as money, fame and fortune, society, family background and so on. Two young people who love each other are not thinking about whether they love or not, but whether they love or not, and sometimes they even become chips. It is said that girls in Shanghai and Beijing get married now, first of all, to see if the other party has a house. If there is no house, it is probably more difficult to win their hearts and enter the marriage hall than to "climb the Shu Road"!
A handsome young man in Shenzhen married a rich old lady. Faced with people's confusion, his answer is "when people want to use money, they never look at its release date." This sentence was later widely used by many female college students when discussing Yang Zhenning's wedding. Once upon a time, there was a subsidized female college student who married her sponsor without hesitation after graduation. She is very proud of this and put forward a very fashionable point of view, that is, "you give love, I give love."
Nowadays, among female college students, "it is better to marry well than to do well" has become a fashion. Some people think that people live to have a car, a house and a comfortable life. In fact, men are all the same. It is better to find a rich man and struggle for at least 20 years. "I don't want to wait, I want that position." Therefore, middle-aged successful men known as "spots" are becoming hot items for young women. Even some young women, not afraid of being accused of being immoral, are willing to be a "third party" and dig the corner of other people's marriage, which is also euphemistically pursuing their so-called love. It can be seen that the weight of love and wealth in marriage is self-evident. Mr. Lu Xun said: material is far-reaching and love, material is water, love is a boat, and water can carry a boat or overturn it.
Now many modern men and women keep saying that marriage should be based on love. But in fact, I refused to show my love, at least I refused to show my love first, so it became difficult to get married. In big cities, the increase of older youth and even the emergence of single aristocrats are obvious examples. I really appreciate what foreign young men and women asked when they got married in church: Would you like to marry him (her)? Rich or poor, in sickness and in pain, they will never be apart. This sentence is extremely common, but since you have made a promise, it is not easy to really practice it.
So, is there pure love in this extremely materialistic society? Can a marriage that you still love without all the aura and any attachment still exist? In fact, marriage is like a beautiful vase, both strong and fragile. If placed in the right place, it can withstand the weathering of years, but it may become a pile of fragments as long as it is touched lightly or dropped on the ground.
We say that the progress of science and technology and the civilization of business not only bring people material enjoyment and convenience, but also divide and surround people's hearts and spirits. Jesus said, "It is only because of the increase of illegal activities that the love of many people has gradually cooled down." The excessive pursuit of material things has led to the dilution of people's ideal of love.
Engels thought that marriage without love was immoral. But marriage with love can only be a distant dream in the era of commodity economy. Love is a condiment. With it, marriage will be happy; Without it, there will be no great threat to marriage. Those who want to break out of the besieged city should not only have courage, will and super endurance, but also pay a certain economic price. After all, marriage is not playing cards. If you make a mistake, you can start over. It will cost a lot to reshuffle the cards. Reality is reality, and no one can live in the so-called ideal without reality. Therefore, too many people can only live in a mediocre, vulgar and "moral" marriage for the so-called responsibility and harmony.
Nevertheless, we still believe that no matter what era or society, people can't live without ideals. As an indispensable ability in the depths of human nature, love will never be lost. The Bible Song of Songs says it well: "Love is as strong as death ... a lot of water can't be put out, nor can floods drown it." If someone exchanges all the treasures at home for love, it will be despised. " In fact, without love, people's need for love and love will be more urgent.
Life is precious, but love is more expensive. This famous saying accurately reveals the value and significance of love in people's lives. Life is too short for the dead. If a person's life is only bread without love, what is the difference with lower animals? What's the point of this life? Although people will make some compensation in other ways. But in general, no love is the biggest regret in life! Facing the life problems of love and bread, people who are or will soon enter the besieged city should think carefully and make the right choice!