Tang Wang, a postdoctoral graduate, works in a private company in the communication industry. I have worked for two years. Because of my high academic qualifications and professional counterparts, I have a set of theories. I win the first prize in every selection and strive for the first prize in all kinds of competitions. As long as he is in a team, others will be eclipsed, and Tang Wang will not feel the embarrassment of others at all. Everyone thinks that his colleagues around him can't catch up with him no matter how hard they try. He brought his own. Tang Wang gradually found that people didn't want to ask him questions or discuss them with him. Even when the project team was established, no colleagues worked with him. He was isolated and, as expected, squeezed out of the circle he thought was an ordinary colleague.
Zhang Xibo, hired by other companies with high salary, is an executive and in charge of the sales team. Zhang Xibo was hired because he has excellent experience in this industry, once stayed in a large enterprise and has management experience in a large enterprise. When he arrived at this startup, Zhang Xibo's development was blocked everywhere, which took up a lot of his experience in dealing with internal contradictions. Especially when some contradictions inexplicably point to himself, he feels excluded and isolated, and he feels that he came to this company to do things, not to engage in relationships. In particular, he spent a lot of time dealing with internal constraints, which went against his original intention. After a while, he resigned from his boss.
There are many such cases, so why did it happen without them? There are at least three reasons.
The first reason: you occupy most of the resources of your dreams. There is a wise saying in the workplace-don't suffer from loss, suffer from loss. Uneven distribution is a problem. Even if everyone is poor and has so many resources, why do you have more than all of us? It's you every time. As mentioned above, Tang Wang is the owner of resources, and these people are the most excluded. In the workplace, almost everyone thinks that they are diligent, pay more and work overtime, and the Excellence and promotion at key moments every year should belong to them. Almost everyone will think so, at least they have this dream in their hearts. However, once the resources are occupied by others, they will think that you have seized what belongs to them.
This is the essence of human nature. When everyone thinks so, it is easy to form a team and crowd you out together.
It doesn't mean that Excellence is wrong. Obviously, the proper compromise in human nature is for better development, and giving up some resources appropriately is not a longer-term career plan. After all, the workplace is a team with limited resources, most of which are for you, and the soup is not left to the people around you. It's strange not to bite.
The second reason: as a latecomer, you can't enter the old circle. People who are a little more careful in the workplace will find that there are various circles in the workplace, such as fellow villagers, classmates, hobbies, drinking friends, relatives and other interested circles. Interest groups, in particular, have no room for outsiders' thoughts. Because of human's xenophobic instinct, they should always be wary of newcomers, because you don't know whether they are malicious or well-intentioned, even if they are well-intentioned, they can't tolerate others' share.
The latecomers may be newcomers who have jumped ship to a new team, jumped ship or graduated from university. They are all recognized outsiders, which takes time to solve. If time can't solve it, it can only be solved by interests.
Is there any way to properly solve this problem? If you must integrate into the small circle, you must disintegrate from the inside and find someone to introduce you from the inside, or you can play a role in bringing interpersonal relationships back to life.
The third reason: too incompetent, incompetent, and not contributing to the team. Bullying the weak and fearing the hard, seeking advantages and avoiding disadvantages are the eternal melody of human nature. No one wants to spend time on the weak, on people who have no strength, and no one wants to have a team of people who are too weak. Incompetence is the label of being excluded and isolated. Don't be a workplace rabbit. It's pathetic.
From the perspective of lengthening the workplace, only by improving strength, professional skills and thinking realm can we gain a foothold in the workplace. For example, in the workplace, if you don't know everything, after a while, your work will go wrong everywhere, and simple questions will often go wrong, which will not only discredit the group, but also make people look down upon it.
Especially if you are incompetent and deliberately please others, it is easier to aggravate the resentment of your colleagues. People's instinctive aversion to wimps is innate.
In addition to the above three reasons-(1) you occupy most of the coveted resources; (2) As a latecomer, you can't enter the old circle; (3) Being too incompetent and powerless to contribute to the team, being isolated in the workplace may also be because you are too close to individuals, and the problem of circle attributes can easily lead to such a situation.
In any case, if you want to get along well in the workplace, the only way is to temper your ability, have your own opinions, make your own plans and broaden your horizons, instead of blindly obsessing about interpersonal relationships, otherwise you will gain more.