Paul Bao Deng Yan, author of Six Ways to Find a Job, said, "The biggest mistake a job seeker makes is not being himself. They don't show people their true colors and can't be completely honest, but they give you some answers that he thinks you want. "
During the Qianlong period of the Qing Dynasty, there were two calligraphers. One of them imitates the ancients very seriously, paying attention to each stroke as a stroke, such as Su Dongpo's writing sideways and Li Taibai's writing sideways. Naturally, once he reached this point, he was quite proud. The other is just the opposite, not only practicing hard, but also demanding that each stroke be different from the ancients and pay attention to nature. Only by practicing this step can you feel that your heart is solid.
So, who is better? None of them obeys anyone.
One day, the first calligrapher laughed at the second calligrapher and said, "Excuse me, my dear friend, which of your words belongs to the ancients?"
The latter one didn't get angry, but smiled and asked, "By the way, my dear friend, which of your words did you say yourself?"
The first one is tongue-tied.
From the perspective of creationism, the first calligrapher is nothing new, except endlessly repeating others, which is really nothing and extremely undesirable; The second calligrapher worked tirelessly to create his own unique style and achieved "I am me"!
Be yourself, don't imitate others. This is also the advice of American composer irving berlin to the new generation composer george gershwin. When Berlin and Gershwin first met, Berlin was already very famous, and Gershwin was just an unknown young composer. Berlin appreciated Gershwin's talent and hired him as a music secretary at three times the salary he could earn. But Berlin called Gershwin and advised him: "Don't accept this job. If you do, you will be Owen Berlin's second at most. If you can persist, one day, you will become a first-class Gershwin. "
Gershwin accepted the suggestion and gradually became a great composer in contemporary America.
When Chaplin started filming, the director asked him to imitate the famous comedian at that time. As a result, he achieved nothing until he began to be himself. Bob hope had a similar experience. He sang and danced for many years, and it was not until he used the gag technique that he really became popular.
Mary mark Hill was on the radio for the first time. She tried to imitate an Irish comedian, but failed. It was not until she showed her true colors-a country girl from Missouri-that she became the most popular radio star in new york.
Kim Autrey has been trying to get rid of his Texas accent and dress like a city man. He also claimed that he was from new york, and as a result, others laughed at him behind his back. Later, he began to play the lyre and sing country songs, which established his position as the most popular cowboy career in movies and radio.
William james once said: "The average person's brain utilization rate does not exceed 10%, and most people are not sure what talent they have. Compared with what we should have achieved, more than half of us are still awake. We only use a small part of our physical and mental resources. People often live in their own limitations. We have all kinds of resources, but we often fail to use them successfully. " You are unique in this world. There has never been anyone like you before, and there will never be anyone like you again. Therefore, we are a brand-new self in this world, so be happy for it! Make good use of your gift. In the final analysis, all art is self-expression. No matter good or bad, you just need to manage your little garden well, no matter good or bad, you just need to play your own instruments in the orchestra of life.
-Quoted from "Inspirational Package" by Yanbian People's Publishing House