Life is about mood, people live is about mentality.

If you can see things in the world, you will be happy, if you can't see them, you will be troubled.

How well you live in this life often has a lot to do with your mentality.

If you have a good attitude and everything goes well, you will be happy.

With these three mindsets, you will have a better life.

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If you have an open mind about everything, you will be happy.

"Cai Gen Tan" says: "You sleep eight feet at night and eat two liters of food a day, so why bother about everything."

"Lü Mengzheng's Maxims" writes: "The time is also, Fate and luck are beyond our control. ”

That is to say, timing, fate and luck are not within our control.

This is not helplessness and pessimism about reality, but looking away.

Those who are open-minded, no matter how many setbacks they encounter, can still have good hearts and encounter good things.

Su Shi's official career was extremely bumpy. During his forty-two years as an official, one-third of his time was spent in "decentralization."

When he was 42 years old, he was slandered by villains because of the "Wutai Poetry Case" and was demoted to Huangzhou by Song Shenzong.

However, he did not become depressed and do nothing. Instead, he did everything he could to benefit the people.

He maintained a lively interest in life, climbed mountains to see scenic spots, wrote poems near the abyss, and worked hard to find happiness in life.

This positive and optimistic attitude towards life has improved his realm of poetry, articles and even his life.

Later generations discovered that many of his famous poems were composed in difficult circumstances.

Lin Yutang commented on Su Shi: "A figure like Su Dongpo is indispensable in the world, and it is difficult to have two. His life is singing and dancing, enjoying it deeply, and smiling away when troubles come."

In this life, people will always encounter too many dissatisfactions. What kind of mentality you maintain will determine what kind of life you will have.

In life, we are experiencing different things every moment, some are exciting and some are depressing.

These things can be big or small. For example, when you are serving rice, you accidentally break a bowl that you particularly like. If you are entangled, annoyed, and self-blame, it will affect the mood of eating delicious food, and even affect your mood for many days. If they are all unhappy, then this matter has been exaggerated.

If you look at it a little bit, the broken bowl can also be interpreted as "broken" peace, or you can laugh at yourself "the old will not go and the new will not come", your mood will immediately change. Same.

If a person looks at the problem from a different perspective, his inner feelings will also be different.

Some people regard troubles as obstacles that cannot be overcome, and some people regard troubles as tests on the road of life.

Things have many sides, and people have the right to choose. We can choose how to treat life.

When things happen, you have to be open-minded and leave worries and worries behind, and your days will be brighter.

No matter poverty or illness, what can accompany you out of trouble will always be your optimistic attitude and good mood.

The harder life is, the better the mentality is. No matter where you are or what you encounter, if you can see it openly, it is heaven; if you cannot see it, it is hell.

Bad roads will eventually pass, and unfortunate days will eventually come to an end. Don’t give up, everything will get better.

There is no obstacle that cannot be overcome, and there is no haze that cannot be cleared away. The sun rises every day, and hope will always be there.

No one can confiscate your happiness and joy, as long as your own heart always faces the sun. If things don't go as planned, trust that life has other plans. Everything you have experienced will become a spark shining in the darkness, illuminating your way forward.

No matter what difficulties you encounter, you must face them with a positive attitude. I believe that everything will pass when the rain comes and the sky will shine.

Those who take things lightly and smile at life will eventually be able to penetrate the fog and illuminate the darkness.

Looking at everything is wisdom and growth.

Not being able to look away becomes a psychological burden and torture.

If you have a more open mind when encountering problems, your mind will become simpler and people will be relaxed.

The more you look at everything, the more relaxed your mind will be, and the happier your life will be.

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The best way to live is to change yourself without complaining when things happen.

There is a proverb that says: "Don't be worried, don't be angry, don't use a blood pressure monitor."

In life, no matter who you are, you will encounter people and things that irritate you.

Complaining is like having bad breath without knowing it, but it is annoying.

If you want to change, the best way is to stop complaining, because as long as you can get rid of the habit of complaining, your life will be very different.

I often hear people say: "This is so unfair."

All people who complain cannot see or are unwilling to admit their own problems. In their view, their journey to where they are today is all the result of bad luck, misfortune, and fate. Complaining is not to solve the problem, but to say "I'm not wrong, it's all other people's fault."

This unreflective attitude determines that complainers can only get worse and worse, from one failure to another.

When a person is used to complaining, he closes the path to happiness.

Everyone wants to see someone with a bright face. Life is hard enough. If you want others to be with you, you can't just take a pill, but a piece of candy.

Complaining cannot solve any problems. Unsatisfactory life must eventually be solved by returning to life.

A young man complained because he was never appreciated by his leader. One day, he visited an old man and told him his troubles.

After hearing this, the old man led the young man to the river. He bent down and picked up a stone, threw it into the pile of stones, and asked, "Can you pick up the stone I just threw out?"

"I can't." The young man replied.

"What if I throw a diamond?" The old man asked again, looking at the young man with deep meaning.

The young man suddenly understood, thanked and left.

If you are just a pebble, even if you look better, a pebble is still a pebble, and no one will look at you with admiration.

But if you are a diamond, then there is no doubt that no one will ignore your existence.

If you feel that you are not appreciated, it only means that you are not outstanding enough.

There will always be many unsatisfactory things in life. It is understandable to complain about the same thing once or twice, but complaining repeatedly can only mean that it is a human problem. The best way to deal with a problem is to start solving it.

Complaining seems to be a kind of catharsis, but in fact, it is constantly adding negative energy to oneself. Small things that are originally unsatisfactory will be infinitely magnified, and eventually turn into anxiety and uneasiness that oppresses oneself.

Complaining habitually is like pouring water into your shoes, which will only make you more and more uncomfortable over time.

No one can succeed by complaining, and no one can gain a good relationship by complaining. You must know that complaining is the common feature of all unhappy relationships.

If you want to solve a problem, you must first clarify what you want, and then find a way to work in the direction you want instead of complaining all the time.

If you are dissatisfied with your current life, you have no choice but to change.

Find the reasons from yourself, use the time you spend complaining to improve yourself, and help yourself become a better person. Why not?

A rational person rarely complains because he knows that complaining cannot change anything. Even if his life is full of feathers, he will tie it into a feather duster to sweep away the dust of life.

A truly strong person never complains about others, because he knows that in order to make things better, he can only make himself better.

There is a saying: The secret of success is to spend time on progress rather than complaining.

Sometimes life cannot be changed, but we can change our thoughts, then change our attitude towards life, and finally change the outcome.

If you can turn the time and energy of complaining into the power to change your life, how can life treat you badly?

The young genius Hawking suffered from a critical illness and soon became completely paralyzed, even the ability to speak was completely deprived of him.

But he did not complain, and still worked hard to live and study, so there was a "scientific giant" in the world.

Sima Qian, who was extremely talented, suffered castration and experienced the most cruel torture in the world.

But he did not complain about the unfairness of his fate. Instead, he worked harder to write books, and thus the famous "Historical Records" was created.

If God pours a glass of cold water on you, boil it and throw it back; if life gives you a lemon, squeeze it into juice and add some sugar.

Only by transforming the emotion of complaint into the power of striving for upward growth is the beginning of a happy life.

Complaining will only make you stand still or even regress, and you are destined to achieve nothing.

Don’t complain about many things, because doing so will not solve the problem and may even bring worse consequences. Furthermore, few people really care about your complaints.

No matter how wronged you are, no matter how bad your life is, it is wise not to complain, but to act silently and work hard to change.

The habit of complaining will affect your life and make you achieve nothing. Only by changing it as soon as possible can you live a good life.

Can we change this habit by stopping complaining? The answer is yes. You can get rid of the bad expressive habit of complaining by consciously avoiding it.

An act of not complaining may not seem to have a big impact on your life, but the moment you control yourself and hold back a complaint that is about to come out, you are abandoning the old thinking habits. Over time, old thinking habits lose their power over you.

Although developing the habit of not complaining will not help you solve all your problems immediately, nor will it make you suddenly successful, it can turn you into a proactive person.

These are actually the keys to happiness and success, because when you truly achieve such a transformation, you will find that not only your ability to solve problems has improved, but your luck has also improved.

Changing the habit of complaining may be the key to opening another door in life.

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Only by not caring can life be easy.

In life, you will inevitably encounter people and things that you don’t like. If you care about everything, you will be exhausted physically and mentally.

Only if you open your mind and don't care about it can your life be comfortable.

Some people say: The height of life is not how many things you see clearly, but how many things you underestimate.

You have to see clearly that some people are not worth wasting your energy and words. For some things, not caring is the best way to deal with them.

We can't change the world, nor can we change others, but we can change our own mentality and not care about others.

During the Warring States Period, Lin Xiangru of the State of Zhao was named prime minister for "returning the jade to Zhao intact", and his official position was above that of the veteran general Lian Po.

Lian Po was very dissatisfied with this and said to everyone he met: "I have been through life and death and made many great contributions, but Lin Xiangru only relied on his sharp tongue, and his official position was actually higher than mine. If you let me If I meet him, I must humiliate him face to face."

After Lin Xiangru learned about it, he tried to avoid it and did not care about General Lian.

Lin Xiangru's guests thought that their lord was afraid of General Lian, and they all fought against him.

Lin Xiangru said:

"The reason why Qin's tiger and wolf troops dare not attack our Zhao is because Zhao has General Lian and me.

And If we don't unite, it will harm the national interests. My tolerance and concession to General Lian is to put the country first and the individual behind."

Lin Xiangru does not care and puts the overall situation first. The situation made Lian Po ashamed.

Then there is the story of Lian Po's "asking for forgiveness".

Lin Xiangru has a broad mind, is tolerant of others, and can turn enemies into friends.

Someone once said: When you interact with others, be friendly and don't care too much, you will have the opportunity to improve relationships, eliminate misunderstandings, and bring blessings.

Don’t take everything too seriously. What belongs to you cannot be avoided, and no matter how hard you drive it away, it will never go away. What doesn’t belong to you, you can’t ask for, and it’s useless no matter how hard you force it. Don't force it. Otherwise, it will not only affect your mood, but also your life, and the gain will outweigh the loss.

You have to look down upon it. It is impossible to be satisfied with everything in your life. It is enough not to owe others or wrong yourself. In the complicated world, people who deal with it indifferently are the most satisfied.

Most people who care too much about everything live unhappy lives.

The more people care about something, the more painful it will be and the easier it will be to lose. People who care about things are petty and prone to overthinking. If people think too much, they will have more troubles and life will become harder. No matter how much you care about, no matter how shrewd your calculations are, in the end the gains will outweigh the losses and you will suffer yourself.

The more you care about it, the more tired your heart will be. If you care too much, the road in life will become narrower, and the road ahead will not be easy. No one wants to associate with someone who is calculating.

The more people care, the worse their fate will be; the more people care, the less blessings they will have.

Caring too much often means that we think too much and cannot let go. On the contrary, it shows that our own cultivation, feelings, and structure are not enough, and we need to continue to practice and improve.

In life, there is as much pain as there are caress. There is as much joy as there is tolerance.

The more you care, the more pain you will suffer. The more forgiving you are, the greater your happiness will be. In fact, what you care about is the past. You are holding on to the pain of the past and not letting go, which naturally becomes a burden. Only by letting go can you have it.

Life is never easy. As long as you don’t care about it and don’t dwell on unnecessary worries, people will naturally be open-minded and cheerful.

Not caring is the eternal practice rule for a happy life.

Be more free and easy, be less careless, and allow yourself to understand and interpret life with an open-minded attitude.

If you look more at the good aspects and worry less about the bad aspects when encountering problems, your mood will really improve.

Don’t care about it, your life is all stories.

If you don’t care about the troubles made by bad people, you will gain respect;

If you don’t care about your lover’s faults, you will gain happiness;

Don't care about your own gains and losses, you will gain happiness.

A person's happiness does not depend on how much he has, but on how much he cares.

Don’t care, not only letting others go, but also letting yourself go.

The world is like a mirror. If you frown at it, it will also frown at you; if you smile at it, it will also smile at you.

Learn not to complain, be open-minded, and care less, and your life will be simple and happy.