First, people should learn to give up, decompress themselves at any time, go into battle lightly and surpass themselves.
In real life, many people feel very tired and stressed, and it is difficult to relax. In fact, the reason why you live very tired is that you don't know how to decompress yourself, give up and what you really want.
I know a friend who entered a college to teach after graduating from Normal University. At that time, he said to me: "I will definitely come out to study for a master's degree." However, four years later, until today, he still has no movement. Sometimes we really can't give up "work, feelings or people, things and things around us", but it is precisely because we can't give up that we live very tired. The more we carry, the less interesting life becomes. There is a good saying: "What is the secret of success-immediate action", so in order to develop ourselves better and faster, we must know how to give up and give up immediately.
Second, people should take the initiative and grasp the trend.
In other words, a successful individual can master the trend of the times only by taking the initiative to do things. Just like doing business, many people fail in their careers because they lack vision and are too short-sighted. Only by taking a long-term view can we foresee the future. Such as Sina. Com has been losing money for several years before its establishment, but the boss has been investing and insisting on it, because he thinks that in China, the Internet will be the mainstream of future development. Finally, in the eighth year of the company's development, the company turned losses into profits (so did Zhicheng Human Resources Company). On the other hand, we should take the initiative, take a long-term view and grasp it from a "strategic" height. That is to say, make a long-term strategic plan for the company. For example, Mitsubishi Corporation of Japan has made the development plan of the company after 100 years in advance and predicted the product development of the company in 2 100 years, so such a company will definitely take the initiative (have goals) in the future competition. There is a saying in marketing that "your enemies will tell you what you forget and can't remember".
Third, correctly handle the relationship between IQ, EQ and AQ.
IQ= IntelligenceQuotient, that is, IQ, is a person's ability to understand scientific knowledge. Nowadays, people in the world have similar IQ. Up to now, Italy's Leonardo da Vinci IQ index ranks first, followed by Shakespeare and Einstein, with an IQ of 135. The IQ of the average person is between 90 and 1 15.
EQ=EmotionalQuotient is emotional intelligence, that is, your ability to control emotions and operate team relationships;
AQ = AdversityQuotient is adversity quotient, that is, the ability to resist stress in the face of adversity.
The relationship between the three: generally speaking, the higher the IQ, the better the EQ, and the stronger the AQ, the easier it is to succeed; On the contrary, no matter how good IQ and EQ are, AQ is not strong. When they get cold feet in the face of adversity, they will certainly fail. Nowadays, many bosses and presidents are not well educated, but their careers are very successful. The reason is that they have high AQ, are willing to endure hardships, are not afraid of difficulties, and can turn the corner. Many young people are not like this now. They can't stand the slightest sign of trouble, they always run away from home and even commit suicide. This is a social tragedy.
AQ (adversity) can help people survive and enhance their fighting spirit, such as Mao Zedong and Chiang Kai-shek, Arafat and Sharon, South African President Nelson Mandela and Indian founding father Gandhi. It is their enemies who help them grow and survive. Reasons: ① The enemy helps to grow; (2) be vigilant in crisis; ③ Dilemma stimulates thinking.
Fourth, success is a habit.
The biggest difference between successful people and unsuccessful people is that successful people form the habit of success at an early age. For example: be proactive and pursue Excellence; I have a strong desire to win, and I will never give up until I reach my goal. For example: Napoleon, in fact, Napoleon's IQ is not high, but Napoleon's greatest feature is persistence! Anyone who has read the Biography of Napoleon will know that the sixth page of the book describes a little thing about Napoleon's classics. When he was in the sixth grade of primary school, one day he fought with another big classmate in the same school during recess. Because Napoleon was short, his eyes soon became swollen. At this moment, the bell rang, so he went on with his class. After class, Napoleon continued to fight with this classmate, resulting in an eye injury. After the bell rang, he went to class again and then fought again. So for the fourth time, Datong said, Napoleon, you can't beat me. What do you want? Napoleon said, "Unless you apologize to me, I will fight to the death". After hearing this, Datong University immediately apologized to Napoleon. This incident reflected Napoleon's resolute character and laid the foundation for Napoleon never to give up in his later battlefield career. There is only one belief in his heart: conquest, and this is Napoleon.
Five, dare to take personal responsibility
There are two kinds of people in the world: one is constantly displayed every day; Another kind of people constantly argue every day, "I think …, I think …" and "I support … I think …", but in fact, such people are making excuses for themselves. Therefore, when there are problems at work in the future, don't say "I feel …" and don't make excuses for yourself. When there is a problem, just say "I was wrong" and then solve the problem. You should dare to take personal responsibility for your mistakes. At present, the educational environment of domestic children is very bad, and too much doting on children will inevitably affect their future development. Nowadays, young people born in 1980s in China have a bad reputation, because no one is willing to suffer hardships. Not as good as children's technology atmosphere in the 1990s. Low technology, unwillingness to suffer hardships and low AQ lead to low social evaluation of the post-80 s generation. People will often see these people change jobs frequently, one unit after another, ungrateful to their previous units and irresponsible for their own mistakes.
Sixth, learn to build your own "pipeline"
There is a book "The Story of Pipeline" in America, which is translated into Chinese as "The Story of Pipeline". In the preface of this book, a story is told. 180 1 year, there is a small village in Italy. Because the village is far away from the place where water is taken, it is difficult to get water. Later, the village decided to hand over the work of transporting water to a pair of cousins, Poirot and Luno. They are also ambitious and want to get rich in this way one day. So the next day, two people began to carry water in buckets (a penny in a bucket). Soon, Poirot put forward a plan to Luno-to build a pipeline to bring water from the river to the village. And Luno thought it was a dream and it felt impossible, but Poirot insisted that this way was feasible. So he carried water for half a day and spent the other half of the time and weekends building pipelines. At this time, the villagers laughed at Poirot and thought that his income was only half that of Luno. A few years later, the pipeline in Boluo was finally completed, and the villagers gathered around to watch the water flow from the pipeline into the sink, so fresh water was continuously supplied to the village, and people from other nearby villages moved to this village, so the village suddenly prospered. At this time, Poirot no longer had to carry a bucket. Whether he does it or not, the water keeps flowing. While he was eating, the water was still running. While he was sleeping, the water was still running. The more water flows into the village, the more money flows into Poirot's pocket. Later, Poirot became famous, saying that he was a miracle worker and begged him to run for mayor. Poirot didn't. His plan is to build pipelines all over the world.
This is the story of the pipeline. The success of many successful people in the world lies in their early establishment of their own channels. With these channels, even if they run around, money keeps entering their pockets. Bill Gates, the richest man in the world, Li Ka-shing, the richest man in Hong Kong, Zhang Ruimin, the president of Haier, and so on, all these people's success can't be separated from the pipeline they built in the early stage. With these pipelines, they can't be rich. Zhang Ruimin Haier, president of Haier, started out as a small factory facing bankruptcy in Qingdao, but later, the enterprise started with "employing people" and "management", made plans and created brands, and set up production lines on household appliances such as refrigerators, air conditioners and washing machines, that is, created assembly lines.
Seven, keep a positive attitude.
There is a saying that "personality determines fate, and tolerance affects the pattern." In fact, there is also a saying that "mentality determines fate, and details determine development." In real life, many people think that the reason for their low quality of life and low status now lies in how dark the society is, how complicated the interpersonal relationship is, and how sinister the people are ... In fact, such people are more extreme in seeing problems, and often feel inferior and lack self-confidence. Seriously speaking, they have psychological problems. There is a fable about a young man who is very introverted and always compares himself with others. Every time he compares himself with others, he thinks he is shorter than others. Once he compared himself to an old man. The young man said, "You are so old and have experienced so many vicissitudes. How can you be taller than me?" The old man went on to say, "In fact, you are the tallest. The reason why you think others are taller than you is because you only look at others' heads through your eyes. In fact, you also have a head, "so the young man suddenly realized. Therefore, the focus is on mentality. A bad attitude is negative. There is a good saying, "the more active you are, the more active you will become;" "The more negative you are, the more negative you will become." Then if you want to improve your quality of life, you must change your mentality, change your negative mentality into a positive one, and be confident and self-reliant. Only in this way can you completely change your life.
Eight, have a "grateful heart"
Many people think that "this is my own effort and has nothing to do with others." I don't need to thank others. " In fact, these people are all wrong. Every step we take is inseparable from others. You will never succeed without the help of others. Every morning when I do exercises, I will relive the song "Grateful Heart", but who can really be grateful? When a man comes into this world, he must repay two favors. One is his parents, who gave us flesh and blood and brought us up. The second is the schools and teachers we receive education. They have endowed us with knowledge and the ability to stand on and contribute to society. Actually, these are just two of them. We should thank anyone, even your enemies and opponents, for everything we have done. Because your enemies help you grow, stimulate your brain, improve your vigilance and make you achieve greater achievements, we should also thank our enemies. So we treat the enemy like this, can't we have a grateful heart for others?
Nine, the correct use of "classmate relationship"
"Classmate" is a very general concept, including students from our primary school, middle school and university, students from the same school, and students who take part in social training and attend classes together during re-education. But no matter what form of classmates and what period of classmates, don't forget that they are your classmates and your friends. These people may be your future work partners or helpers, so you must make good use of this resource. Just like our school, although the concept of class is not obvious here, we are still classmates. Maybe in the future, we will jointly open a beauty shop and a hairdressing shop. Therefore, we say that "connections are the veins of money, and connections are the lifeblood" is the truth. Therefore, we should make correct use of the classmate relationship, give full play to its greatest advantage and become your money pulse.
10. Don't be afraid and don't regret.
(Story) Thirty years ago, in a mountain, a young man of 18 years old decided to leave his hometown and start his own future. Before he left, he visited the patriarch of his family and asked him for some life advice or suggestions. When he went to the patriarch's house, the patriarch was practicing calligraphy. After learning what the young man thought, he wrote three big words: Don't be afraid! Then he said to the young man, "son, the secret of life is only six words." For your half-life, I will tell you three first today. " Thirty years later, when the young people reached middle age, they not only married a beautiful and virtuous wife, gave birth to a pair of lovely children, but also became rich. However, many troubles were added to his heart, so he took his family back to his hometown and visited the patriarch who died a few years ago. But the patriarch left him a letter. He opened the envelope and wrote three words inside: Don't regret it! So the middle-aged people suddenly became enlightened.
Generally speaking, a person is in the golden age of starting a business before middle age. If you lack courage and can't let go of your hands and feet before middle age, it will be difficult to achieve anything. Therefore, before people reach middle age, it is most taboo to lose morale. After middle age, people often reflect on the past, regret many things they have experienced, and ask for trouble for no reason. Therefore, regret is the most taboo after middle age. "Don't be afraid before middle age, and don't regret after middle age", which is the most classic advice for life.
Xi. "There are people in my heart, but things in my eyes"
On the eve of graduation, a teacher of our school's employment center gave us employment guidance. He warned us at that time, "When entering the society, no matter where you are or what kind of work you are engaged in, you must remember the words' someone in your heart, something in your eyes'". "There is someone in your heart", that is to say, you should always think of others in your heart and pretend to be everyone, so that everyone will like you and accept you; "There is something in your eyes", that is, you must be proactive, have the courage to undertake the task and work hard to complete it, in order to achieve greater results in your work. At work, we should do more things, talk less, and do what we say. Remember, "people have one mouth and two ears because they want us to do twice as much as we say." In fact, in our work over the past few years, I have always remembered the teacher's teaching and realized the true meaning of these eight words, which is to teach us how to be a man. "No one in my heart" will make you complacent and complacent; Nothing in your eyes will make you have no sense of time, no sense of urgency, nothing to do all day, and it is difficult to become a climate. Zhang Ruimin, president of Haier Group, famously said, "Always be afraid, walking on thin ice". Only in this way can we have a sense of responsibility and mission, and dare not slack off, and our cause will make greater progress.
Twelve, strengthen the "capital" and accelerate its own development.
A person's success needs a lot of conditions and capital to support, and it is impossible to succeed in official career by one hand or one kind of capital. Some people say, "I'm good at my major, and I don't have to learn anything else." Actually, this is not right. Personal success requires the exertion of your comprehensive ability, and it is impossible to rely solely on your own professional knowledge. "In today's society, the more professional you are, the less professional you will become." "Every industry knows something, but there are several industries that need to be proficient. This is the realm. " So mention your own capital and skills. "How much capital you have in your life, how much you will achieve in your life." .
Of course, there are many "capitals" in our cause, including intellectual capital, knowledge capital, wealth capital, skill capital, experience capital, image capital, eloquence capital, relationship capital, opportunity capital and so on. With this capital, you will achieve greater success. "2 1 century, learning ability determines competitiveness." Therefore, in order to develop ourselves faster, we should strengthen our study and strive to improve our "capital", for example, we should exercise our eloquence, learn knowledge and skills, and handle interpersonal relationships well. Only with these conditions can we make greater achievements in our future work.