A newcomer, a little girl in 1998, was brought in at the beginning of the year, as if she could squeeze water out. On the first day of employment, she excitedly wanted to add me to WeChat.

I took out the QR code and asked her to scan it. I quickly passed her verification, but I heard the little girl say,

"Brother, why don't you send a circle of friends?" Look at you, I think your circle of friends must be wonderful. "

On the topic of friends circle, we talked for nearly half an hour. It can be seen that she actually regards her circle of friends as a "tree hole" and likes to express herself in it.

If you are happy, send a selfie to show off your beauty;

If you are bored, send an invitation to see who is willing to keep the appointment;

If you are sad, just wind up and talk about it, and get a wave of warm concern;

When you are angry, you will send an expression pack, while fighting for a picture, you will feel relieved ...

In fact, apart from Wechat business marketing, the most common contents in your circle of friends are nothing more than these:

seafood dinner, beauty selfie, surprise gift, graceful figure, skillful cooking, sports track, beautiful scenery, reading achievements and so on.

the vast majority of people take selfies in the sun first! It is to brush the sense of existence or derogate from "narcissism". Send a graphic message, centering on yourself and radiating the whole circle of friends, which can be directly understood as: "The sense of existence is insufficient, and it is being recharged."

In the window of famous brand clothes on the street, in front of the garden where flowers bloom, in the dining room of a company or coffee shop ... In front of any high-end place, beautiful women often set up selfie sticks and stand in front of the dining table for a long time like occupying territory. For such people, people around them will surely whisper that she is "narcissistic".

narcissistic English "narcissism" comes from the character "Narcissus" in Greek mythology. Narcissus was a young man who was obsessed with his appearance and eventually drowned.

(The story goes like this: Narcissus was a beautiful young man with a very delicate face. He was not attracted to any girl, only admired his reflection in the water, and finally died of depression in self-pity. Narcissus turned into a daffodil after his death, and remained at the water's edge to watch his own shadow. )

People who like to take selfies are very sensitive to their own image, and they are also very concerned about the evaluation of themselves by people around them, often accompanied by inferiority complex.

In addition, indulging in the circle of friends is also a kind of escapism.

Then, Kan Kan luxury car food, gourmet luxury car, is a kind of goods recognized and praised by the society, which is also called "display consumption".

Many people buy brand-name goods to show off to the people around them. They are thinking, "Look! I have such high quality things! "

everyone has an ideal image in his heart. For example, some people want to be rich, some people want to make achievements in their work, and some people want to be more handsome and beautiful ...

Everyone knows food and luxury cars! For example, Rolls-Royce ...

No matter who they are, they all have a "recognition need" eager to be recognized by others.

most people who like to pursue famous brand goods admit that they have a strong demand because they lack self-confidence. They think that although they have little strength, if they are packaged with well-known brand-name goods, they will be recognized by people around them.

The behavior of making up one's inferiority complex by other means and trying to gain others' approval is called "indirect self-display".

what they really think in their hearts is not so much "I want to be like this" as "I want others to see me like this".

Behind the circle of friends with different images, the lack of "self-trust" is at work. From this point of view, most of them belong to the type of lacking self-confidence and full of anxiety.

Then let's listen to the inner monologue of a girl who is good at cooking and basking in food. It's very interesting!

"I made delicious food. Do you want to eat it?

I cooked delicious food. Do you think it looks good?

I cooked delicious food, and I feel great.

I cooked delicious food, but I don't think you can do it.

... "

In Internet language, this is called: eating in the cloud.

Actually, sending travel photos in the circle of friends is more for sharing and recording.

Quote a famous saying to talk about the fun shared by friends.

Say, "Who enjoys having fun alone or with others?"

yue: "don't be like others."

yue: "who is happier, having fun with others?"

yue: "don't be different from others"

~ Mencius' Liang Huiwang

"I know you are unhappy, and I want to do something for you, but I was not qualified at that time."

"So I just want to send something happy. As long as you smile, I will be satisfied."

The biggest function of the circle of friends is "sharing". We share the life we have experienced and our emotional feelings in the hope of spreading happiness.

but for female friends, I am used to storing all kinds of beautiful photos in QQ space, writing some small diaries and talking about my mood. QQ space is like a private place, which can store all kinds of beautiful moments in life.

it wasn't until she sent out her first circle of friends and received praise and praise from her friends that she had the "real fragrance" effect.

"It's like a small diary. I even know what I did on that day. Every time I turn it over, I will have good memories."

Friends circle exists to record beauty. When we live a good life, we are more willing to record every touch and beauty.

Next, according to Maslow's hierarchy theory of survival needs, after meeting physiological needs and security needs, people will pursue social needs, respect needs and self-needs.

Making friends circle is one of the most convenient, fastest, lowest cost, most extensive and best way to meet the needs of the last three levels.

when friends read your friends' praise, it is friends' social needs, and then your respect needs and self-needs are superimposed.

Of course, for "you" who is envious and hateful in the circle of friends, there is a simple truth: what others bask in happens to be what you lack; What others are experiencing happens to be what you can't give yourself at present.

For example, a friend bought a pair of AJ sneakers and sent them to a circle of friends to bask in. It happened that this pair of sneakers is his dream and he has been afraid to buy them. I can't afford it. If he can afford it, I think he is basking in the sun and showing off, which will easily cause his inferiority complex.

For example, a friend traveled to Thailand and basked in food, scenery and mood in his circle of friends every day. At this time, you were still busy working overtime in the office, and I couldn't go. When he went, I felt that he was basking in the sun and showing off, which easily caused his jealousy ...

In short, there is a saying:

The so-called fit is when you.

The so-called health means that when you come to the 8th,

When you are no longer influenced by the outside world and don't care about other people's ideas, just to record this moment, this scene and this situation, it is extremely simple to make friends.

what do you think?