The word "vanity" is explained in Cihai as: superficial glory, false honor. This word was first seen in Liu Zongyuan's poem: "It's so vain to be a coke for the Rural Credit Union."

Vanity is an expression of excessive self-esteem, a kind of unwillingness to show in order to obtain honors and attract widespread attention. Normal social emotions. Vanity is a common mentality because vanity is related to self-esteem.

The psychology of vanity is related to the tendency of dramatic personality. People who love vanity are mostly extroverted, impulsive, fickle, artificial, have strong and strong emotional reactions, are pretentious, lack real emotions, stand out for themselves in dealing with others, and are restless. Hidden behind vanity are deep psychological defects such as inferiority complex and guilty conscience. People with a vain mentality will try their best to pursue glitz to cover up their psychological flaws.

The magic wall of vanity blocks us from shaking hands with success. People with excessive vanity can easily be confused by words of praise, and even lose control of themselves, leading to an illusory world. Those who love vanity are too eager to be recognized by others. Even if they know that others are flattering, they are still willing to listen, and they may even deceive and lie to get compliments.

Vanity is a bad psychological state. For a person who wants to pursue success, it is necessary to master the following self-adjustment methods:

——Establish a correct sense of honor and disgrace. View. That is to say, we must have a correct understanding and attitude towards honor, status, gains and losses, and face. To have a certain degree of honor and status in life is a psychological need. Everyone should cherish and care for their own and others' honor and status, but this pursuit must be consistent with one's social role and talents. Face "can't be had, nor can it be forced." If you "make the face look fat" and excessively pursue honor and show off yourself, your personality will be distorted. At the same time, we should also treat failures and setbacks correctly. "Failure is the mother of success." We must sum up experience from failure and realize the true meaning from setbacks, in order to build self-confidence, self-love, self-reliance, and self-improvement, thereby eliminating vanity.

—— Grasp the scale of comparison in social life. Comparison is a common social psychology among people, but we must grasp the direction, scope and degree of comparison. In terms of direction, comparison should be based on social value rather than personal value, such as comparing an individual's status, role and contribution in social construction and development, rather than just looking at the level of personal salary income and treatment. In terms of scope, it should be based on healthy rather than pathological comparisons, such as comparing actual performance, comparing motivation, and comparing investment, rather than coveting false fame and jealousy of others to express oneself; in terms of degree, it should be based on personal strength. When comparing, those with average abilities cannot be compared with those with strong abilities.

The scale of comparison should be controlled by personal values, outlook on life and world view. A perfect personality is the best way to correctly conduct social comparison and overcome vanity.

——Learn from good social role models. From the biographies and famous sayings of famous people, and from real life, take those revolutionary leaders, heroes, celebrities, and academics who are down-to-earth, not vain, and hard-working as examples, and strive to improve their personality and be a person who "seeks truth from facts and is not self-righteous." people.

——Carry out self-psychological correction of bad vanity behavior. If an individual has developed pathological behaviors such as boasting, lying, jealousy, etc., he or she can use psychological training methods to self-correct. This method is based on the reinforcement principle of conditioned reflexes. That is, when pathological behavior is about to occur or has already occurred, the individual imposes a certain amount of self-punishment on himself, such as rebounding himself with a rubber band on the wrist, in order to serve as a warning and intervention. Over time, vanity will gradually subside.

No matter what method you use, as long as you have superhuman perseverance and firm belief, and persist, you will tear down the wall of vanity in your heart.