As the founder of individual psychology, Adler is as famous as Freud and Jung, and has deeply influenced Steven? Covey, and relationship guru Dale? Carnegie.
Adler suffered from rickets when he was a child, so he couldn't do strong physical activity. The teacher rated him as a shoemaker at best for his poor performance in school. His father encouraged him to say that you must not believe anything. Just don't be bound by the immediate predicament, don't believe that the current predicament is a person's life, but be brave enough to break through and boldly create your own life. This firm belief created Adler's reputation all his life.
"Anyone can achieve anything", "the so-called sense of superiority is just a goal that falls on the useless emptiness of your life, which makes people feel complacent with a false sense of accomplishment" and "growing up without taking on other people's problems" are still shocking us.
1. People who try to look strong and look better than the average person actually have a strong sense of inferiority.
Only when people know themselves thoroughly can they face difficulties and cultivate self-confidence. Only self-confidence can overcome inferiority.
3. Jealousy is actually a deep inferiority complex, and a jealous person can never be a useful person.
There is no need to doubt your immediate mistakes, but you should face them squarely and avoid making similar mistakes in the future.
The more pain you experience, the more happiness you will experience.
6. It is not that "everything will be fine if you can overcome your shortcomings", but that you have the courage to do well even if you have shortcomings.
7, a person's meaning is useless, the real meaning is reflected from the interaction with people.
We can't expect others to observe our emotions at any time. Silence gets no help from others. If we need help, we should express it in words.
9. It is natural and meaningful to have different views and values.
10, there are three major tasks in life: work, making friends and falling in love. These tasks are also interpersonal tasks. The longer it takes, the more difficult it is to solve.
1 1, as long as you are willing to change yourself, you are likely to change. Even if I die tomorrow, it's not too late to change.
12, a person's personality is about ten years old, and will be shaped by his own thoughts and actions, and will be used like this all his life.
13, don't be influenced by emotions, but make good use of them. In most cases, the appearance of emotions is actually to manipulate each other and make them act according to our expectations and wishes.
14, all the "I can't do it" rhetoric is actually just that I don't want to do it.
15, fatalism is a wrong spiritual guide, thinking that fate is cowardice and escape.
16, we just use emotions, not be driven and dominated by them.
17. As long as we look at the words that deny ourselves and others from different angles, the world will suddenly change.
18, there are countless cowards who use inferiority as an excuse to escape from life, but many people succeed because of inferiority.
19, inferiority complex is not unique to people who "why am I not as good as him?" Even a good-looking person will feel inferior in his heart. As long as there is a goal to achieve, there will be a sense of inferiority.
20, if there is no goal as a support, just fantasy to improve themselves, then we are like acting, we will feel that we are not ourselves.
2 1, superiority is the product of inferiority complex.
Whether the meaning we give to life is correct or not will make a world of difference. The right meaning is the guardian of life, and the wrong meaning is as terrible as Satan.
23. When we begin to do what we can, the world will not necessarily change; But if we do nothing, things will only get worse.
24. It is not the external factors such as the environment that determine oneself, but oneself. Since people are born, there will always be other ways of life.
If everything has been decided and there is no room for us to do anything, then we will lose the purpose of living. People have the possibility of choosing in all kinds of situations.
26. The pictures and fantasies reflected in the dream are what the dreamer wants.
27. Anyone can achieve anything.
28. The so-called sense of superiority is just a goal that falls on the useless emptiness of your life, which makes people feel complacent with a false sense of accomplishment.
29. Growing up doesn't have to bear other people's problems.
30. If a person is not satisfied with the ordinary, he will try to make himself special. Either very good or very bad. Everything depends on yourself.
3 1, we don't need to force ourselves to change, as long as we learn to find our own bright spots from different angles. Try your best to do what you can, and things will change when you don't expect them.
32. Life is not that difficult. You make life complicated. In fact, life is incredibly simple.
33. If you don't get noticed, you should do everything you can to make others notice you, even if you deliberately expose your incompetence.
Don't try to be brave, make yourself "look strong", and try to make yourself really strong.
After hard work, once people don't get "positive attention" (such as appreciation), they will try to do something wrong in order to get "negative attention". People can only learn from failure and rely on the experience of failure to make themselves better.
We don't swear because we are angry and irrational, but we create and use an emotion called "anger" in order to manipulate and dominate each other and make them obey their wishes and expectations.
37. Calm judgment often cannot be put into action, and emotion is the fuse of action. You can make people act, or you can make people not act, depending on your own decision.
We should not be dominated by emotions, but make good use of them.
39. We don't take any action because of a certain emotion, but because the action fabricates this emotion as an excuse.
40. Children like to dominate adults with emotions, which is their usual effective trick. When I grow up, it would be naive to want to dominate others with this emotion.
4 1. Dominate others with jealousy, and others will leave you sooner or later. Rational communication is the correct win-win way.
42. Personality is not innate and unchangeable, but can be determined by one's own will. As long as you are willing, your personality can be changed anytime and anywhere.
43. A grumpy person is just a person who often uses the emotion of "anger". In fact, we don't have to completely change our personality, we just need to change the way we use emotions.
44. Attitude towards life plays a decisive role in the formation of personality. Only when people realize their mistakes in character will they try to change.
45. If you always care about what others think of you, your life will lose its direction and you will feel untrustworthy.
46. If you don't have enemies in your life, it means that you have to cooperate with others all the time. Of course, you will be very tired.
47. It is an optimistic attitude to seek solutions from the current reality. It's different from an optimist who just thinks "It doesn't matter, we'll cross the bridge when we get there" but does nothing. We should be optimistic, not optimistic.
48. All troubles are interpersonal troubles.
As long as you do the right thing and feel a sense of contribution, you don't have to expect gratitude and praise from others.
50. Communication is a technology. Where there is good communication, there is love, and love is also the result of good relations.
In a word, 50 classic quotations
In a word, 50 classic quotations
1, forgive my unrestrained love and freedom in my life.
I will give up anything that stands in my way.
3. Can life be complete? Everyone should have hobbies.
I still like you very much, but I will accompany you here in my life.
Do you know how much I like you? Even if I have a stable life in the future, I will go back as long as you say you want me to go back.
6. I asked you if your lips were dry and dehydrated or if you forgot to wear lipstick.
7. It is not love that can be cultivated slowly, but habits that can be acquired over time, not feelings but feelings.
8. Hasty love is like walking in the desert. When the wind blows, there is no way out.
9. Do you suddenly feel that you love your lover and then say a bunch of crazy things to her?
10, the moon under the sea is the sky, and the moon is a sweetheart.
1 1, you said hello, I have fallen.
12, I want to spend my life with you, wash your clothes and make your past beautiful.
13, I want to get you completely, not just physically.
14, but I don't know what to say to anyone.
15, love is probably a coincidence, a slow loss.
16, the light in the room is black, counting your indifference, you will be thirsty if you don't dial the lonely phone.
17, your story and mine can't be solved.
18, without news, I am naturally empty.
19, my eyes want to flow like two adjacent lakes.
20. I believe that rain is the corpse of a cloud buried in the world.
2 1, tell me that you still love me the most after wandering.
22. I also want to be like clothes, basking in the sun and blowing the wind all day, playing hide-and-seek and talking with the blue sky, and someone will take it home at night.
23. I have heard too many reasons for leaving, but I have rarely heard the reasons for being together.
24. No matter how deep you like it, it will become shallow if you don't get a response, just like one day you will find that I haven't looked for you for a long time.
25. "Some people only think of you when they need you."
26. You are as quiet as an old man who has died for many years.
27. I will leave, and you will live forever.
Don't turn on the light when it is dark.
29. I can finally touch you once.
30. It's still sad to mention you, but I won't like it as much as I did at first.
3 1. Later, she only smoked Nanjing. She said it smelled like him.
32. Thank you for your frustration, for your fall, and for not giving up my persistent loneliness along the way.
33.Jackson Yee is not painless, but used to it.
Everyone seems to be in love, leaving me alone to engage in socialism.
35. If the bed is a uterus, let me stillbirth.
36. After breaking up, you clearly know that I can't forget you. You told your deskmate that you wanted to be together.
37. I like him, and he likes bigbang!
What we are tired of after many years can't go back.
Everyone seems to be in love, leaving me alone to engage in socialism.
I really don't understand why some people change as they say.
4 1, don't like beating around the bush.
42. That night, I made a wish on a meteor, hoping that I could be included in her wish, even though I knew there were others who could make her happy.
43. Want to unlock more gestures with you.
Am I immature or are you too young?
45. She told him that your ex was also someone else's prostitute. He smiled and said that you are very happy. I don't know, but I'm the incumbent.
46. Today, I confessed to the person I like, and then he said that he likes me, too. But I told him, is it cruel that we can't be together?
47. True feelings are not afraid of not contacting.
48. There are storytellers in the deep alley. There are some old wines on the bluestone. A few drinks are only for old friends, not for smooth sailing in life. I just hope that the road is bumpy and someone will accompany me.
49, don't lie, don't hesitate, there are always people who like your worst appearance.
50. The most beautiful love words can't compare with the word company.
A word of life.
A word of life.
1, efficient, concise, bold and efficient. Look at the problem to the point and have a knack for doing things.
Life is like a long journey, both short and long. Obviously, a person's journey will be lonely, and a person's scenery will be monotonous.
Life is like a one-way ticket with no return. There is no rehearsal, and every game is broadcast live. Grasping every performance is the best wealth in life.
4. It's hard to take every step of life well. You can only be cautious when you do things, and you must always think about yourself in your spare time, regardless of human mistakes!
Each of us should face life with a smile. Without complaining, there will be no sadness. A hopeful person will be full of confidence in life. As long as you look at the world with a beautiful mind, you always face life with an optimistic spirit.
6. Many things in the world are like this. When you pursue it deliberately, it is like a butterfly flapping its wings and flying away; When you get rid of superficial worldly distractions and concentrate on one thing for society and others, that unexpected harvest has been quietly welcoming you.
7. If people want to live with a Buddhist heart, then the struggle will naturally be reduced a lot, the human nature will be much more peaceful, the intrigue between people will be much less, and the warmth and coordination will be much more!
8. Life itself is a movie, pain is a beginning, struggle is a process, and death is an end. What should be abandoned is helplessness, and what should not be abandoned is incompetence; Ignorance should give up if you don't give up, and persistence should not give up if you don't give up.
9. People live with the world. Although it is easy to write, it is difficult to do it.
10, face life with peace of mind and a smile. No matter whether the outcome is happy or sad, face it bravely. There is another blue sky between heaven and earth.
1 1, life is not so miserable, there is no need to be so miserable all the time. If the sun doesn't shine, feel the warmth of the sun; If you can't feel the warmth of the sun, feel the brightness of the sun; If you can't feel the brightness of the sun, feel the existence of the sun. If you can't find true love, feel the hope of true love; If you don't feel the hope of true love, feel the shadow of true love; If you can't feel the shadow of true love, then feel the direction of true love. Life is nothing but peace!
12. Looking back on yesterday, it's like a song that has just been played. It doesn't exist after listening to it.
13. Joy and pain are also a high realm of life. It is a manifestation that human nature has reached a high level. If a person wants to have an eternal happy mentality, he must experience countless pains and taste countless sorrows before he can realize the meaning of life and truly understand the coexistence of happiness and pain.
14, there is not only love in life, but also affection and friendship. Treat it correctly, be optimistic, accept what you don't want to accept and change what you don't want to change.
15, more self-confidence, less disappointment, affection, friendship, love, all come from your beautiful mind. Look at the world with a beautiful mind, and the world will give you endless wealth and happiness all your life! When you are troubled by setbacks in your life, your family will comfort you and encourage you one by one.
16, for the soul, people struggle all their lives, and if they can finally earn happiness all day long, they have already realized the greatest value of life.
17, the road of life seems very long, and it seems very short.
18, when we are faced with life choices, please stand at both ends of the spiritual balance. Measure your life value. No matter how difficult it is, let your heart go to the side of justice and let your soul be filled with the fragrance of fantasy.
19, major decisions in life are planned by the mind, just like a pre-calculated framework, waiting for your horoscope to run. If we expect to change our destiny, we should first change the new trajectory.
20. How can you see a rainbow without experiencing wind and rain, but sometimes you can't see a rainbow after experiencing wind and rain. That is the confusion and pain in the face of all reality, because you have to face you in front of you, and only in constant pain will you have a colorful life.
In a word, life motto
The happiest thing in the world: she met him with a bad temper, but he fell in love with her.
Second, if you fall in love with someone, you will be happy as long as you are with him. As long as you are not with him, you are not happy at all. So the reason why we are together is not because we are happy, but because we will be happy as long as we meet. Never fall in love painfully. If a person can't make you happy, whether you love it or not, please give up. Because you can't have a beautiful love, it's useless to have it.
Third, I suddenly found that many good friends lost contact unconsciously. It turns out that friendship, like love, needs to be managed.
Fourth, life is simple. Don't regret making a decision.
If you want something, don't just expect it. Life is too short to wait.
6. Life is like chess. I am a chess piece. Although I am slow, I will never take a step back! Leaving is not love, but love is very painful. It is only because you care too much that you often look back. People should be persistent, but never paranoid, and be a wise man in life, persistent and wise. The best way to try to forget a memory is to keep walking from one city to another. Distance is a kind of forgiveness, know how to cherish. Those feelings, those traces of flowers.
Seven, this world, beautiful and fragile, don't panic, as long as you are quiet inside, it will be broad; This life, painful and happy, no need to complain, only gratitude, will be wonderful; This step is easy and heavy, and there is no need to rush. As long as there is a city, a forest and a belief in your heart, you must go on. ...
Eight, tear open the mask of so-called maturity, we are all children who have not grown up, and when we are sad, we cry unscrupulously; If you are happy, laugh freely.
9. What do the poor lack most? What is most lacking on the surface is money, which is essentially ambition, ideas, opportunities, choices, courage, action, knowledge and career. Micro-quotations
Ten, not tears can recover losses; Not everyone is worth your efforts; If you are not sad, you will cry; Not all expressions should be written on the face; Not everyone understands you. Therefore, in the face of occasional disappointments in life, we should learn to smile strongly. When you are sad, tell yourself: I am fine and happy. When you are lost, smile and say to yourself, it's okay, everything will pass.
Don't dwell on the past, don't dream about the future, and concentrate on living in the present. Time will make you understand that some things, once lost, can never be found again. Many people like running, but not many people run every day; There are many people who have dreams, but not many people stick to a dream. In real life, everyone's thoughts are rich, but not many people can persist in doing one thing.
Twelve, people are happy when they are simple, and they are old when they are sophisticated. Keep a young heart, be a simple person and enjoy the sunshine and warmth. That's how life should be.
No matter how deeply you are hurt, there will always be someone who forgives all the difficulties that your previous life has brought you.
Fourteen, love is a kind of meeting, can't wait, can't prepare.
15. True strength is not the absence of tears, but the running with tears.
Sixteen, some things can win or lose. If you win for a while, you can start all over again if you lose. Sometimes, if you lose, you are completely defeated, and you can't get what you lost back. For example, health, don't trample it when you are struggling, and then trample it when you become famous. For example, emotions, some people have been immersed in the years and become your shadow. Without them, you are doomed to be lonely.
Before starting an important thing, I will tell myself that no one is irreplaceable, no place can't be given up, and nothing can't be owned. Life is very strange, and most of the things you can convince yourself in this way will succeed. In this way, people become lighter, their mentality becomes simpler, and their goals become clear. At this time, take a deep breath and start sprinting. Hou wenyong
Eighteen, some things can only be recalled. Some people can only be passers-by I can't escape those memories after all, I can't forget that person, and I can't change the role of a one-man show. Familiar with many years ago, many years later, everything has already vanished, you are still you, I am still me.
Nineteen, when one day, you find that your emotions can't be expressed in words, but you would rather let yourself gradually disappear in the street with gorgeous street lights at night. This is loneliness.
Twenty, true love is used to inspire, and the space for love is as wide as the space you create; True love is driven. The longer you run, the longer you love. True love is for burning. How brilliant life is, how brilliant love is. True love is to pave the way. How far you can go, love will pave the way for you.
Twenty-one, many things are always experienced before they understand. Just like feelings, you don't know how to protect yourself until you have suffered; After stupidity, we know how to persist and give up in time, and gradually know ourselves in gain and loss. In fact, life does not need this meaningless persistence. Learning to give up makes life very simple. There is a feeling that there is no chance, and there is a kind of giving up that is called fulfillment.
People always say that time will change everything, but you have to change everything yourself.
Twenty-three, eight flavors are like a cup of strong tea. First love: everything is tolerant and patient; The second taste is modesty: modesty, low-key work; The third taste is the pure heart: looking for peace of mind; The fourth taste is sincerity: heart-to-heart, good relations; The fifth flavor of self-confidence: the power of positive attitude; The sixth flavor is concentration: making life more efficient; Seventh taste patience: opportunities always appear in waiting; The eighth taste is relieved: learn to choose and know how to give up.
24. Cultivate your enthusiasm and find the part of your job that makes you most enthusiastic. You will be more motivated, you will get more results, and you will not just regard it as work!
Twenty-five, sometimes, we don't think too much, just follow our hearts.
Life is always tiring. I'm not tired now, but I'll be more tired later.